How do you have a polite discussion with guests about cleaning up after themselves during their stay after 2 days of leaving clutter in every room the

debodun said:
If they were invited, it's the host's responsibility. If they invited themselves and left a mess, they wouldn't be invited again.
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As many as come (we have had over 70) we have to have cleanup help here over 10 years so far and all help every time and ask when the next time will be. We had rather be plain and to the point same as all bring something to eat and other assigned items. For me I like to know what is expected of me in advance.
 

As many times as we have other's over, we know what usually is going to be needed and all ask what we need to bring with us from food items to clean up supplies. Never had any problems there at all, even trash bags and ice brought, we are thinking of getting an ice machine. With the covid issues we do require all to be vaccinated with testing proof we do track this in a logbook. All this was done with an agreement of many guests as good for everyone, it just makes all so much easier to do, in over 10 years we have had 1 person told not to come back and with covid no guests, just invited people only, it makes all so much easier to plan and do as said.

Prior to covid we cooked almost every Sunday for neighbors for several years but covid changed all that I admit I do miss that a lot. We even arrange rides for those unable to drive per age and health, to get out of cleaning up there is that is about the only excuse per sgt DL my best friend.
 
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@Wayne, I think your parties are way beyond my imagination. My complaints and rules are all about visits from relatives and friends that don't number more than a dozen people at a time. You're offering a place to party that sounds almost like an hotel venue and any rules you've come up with seem to be working out fine on all sides. Do you have any pictures you could show us?
 
Della said:
@Wayne, I think your parties are way beyond my imagination. My complaints and rules are all about visits from relatives and friends that don't number more than a dozen people at a time. You're offering a place to party that sounds almost like an hotel venue and any rules you've come up with seem to be working out fine on all sides. Do you have any pictures you could show us?
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Thanks for the pictures Wayne, it looks like everyone's having a great time. Your house and yard are beautiful.
 
Hey everyone, thank you for each of your posts and replies and inputs, really good things to consider,
that is for sure :) I think after reading all the many ways you each would handle this topic, I have great
things to put in motion and think over and to pass along to a couple of my friends ..

Great members here and thank you!
 
The way we see it is we furnish the place they the guests can all chip in to keep it clean, I do not feel that is too much to ask of them. We have a great bunch of people that usually come and respect all of them much. We get picked due to our location and having the pool and room here especially in the summertime. Overall, we just do not have any problems with the guests helping that just does not exist here, if it did, we would just eliminate it, we like all to be very easy going for everyone. We also get asked and usually comply just for someone wishing a birthday gathering or even a wedding. The next one will probably be Memorial Day or July 4th...
 
We're doing it all wrong. Our guests, who are usually Minnesota relatives passing through Ohio to get somewhere else, used to stay in my son's room, while he slept on the couch. After a while I decided that wasn't fair, he has to work the next day and doesn't sleep well under the best of circumstances, we had offered our room, but they were always against taking the master suite.

So what we do now is tell them we don't have a guest room so we'll put them up in the nice hotel just a short drive from our house. They seem pleased with that arrangement since we pay the bill, but they still spend all their time and make all their messes here. At least I don't have all the extra laundry this way.
 
@Wayne Your parties are unique and with your wife’s health and the size of the place, it’s understandable that people are expected to clean up.

If you have a couple of friends for dinner, are they expected to clean up.
 
I'm wondering if it might be easier to tell guests you're inviting beforehand that, due to whatever circumstances, you'll be wanting their help with cleanup after the event.

That way, you're not springing it on them after the event, or seeming harsh. Just a thought.
 
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