How do you let it go????

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Atory

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I am retired 3 years ago after a long career in the human services field.
Has anyone else struggled with letting go of stressful thoughts while you were working since being retired
I keep thinking back about my work, my supervisor and I wonder if it is some form of trauma? OR is it just me.
Why isn't the work I did or tried to do enough? It feels like I am physically gone but mentally still there. Then come the dreams at night.
 

My position was eliminated due to Covid when I was 62. I didn't take it personally because 50% of the company was either let go or furloughed. It would have been difficult if I hadn't already started focusing on a work/life balance. Prior to that I was all about my career. I chose to retire. I sometimes look back on all the corporate BS and politics and actually wonder how I made it to 62. So, no I am serene these days. If I'd been fulfilled in my job I might feel differently.

I do still frequently dream about work, as I've mentioned in other threads.

I know it sounds cliche, but my recommendation is that you focus on the person you are now and what you have to be thankful for. Outline your positive traits every day. I was once VP of Sales, manager of a sales team, responsible for a sales budget, achiever of sales targets, etc. Now, I'm a husband, a Brother-in-Law, a proud Uncle, a Cat Daddy and (thanks to my career) a provider who makes sure we live comfortably. That's good enough for me.
 
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I'm a newbie here, too so welcome. Not sure how to do things on the forum but awhile back I saw a thread or post on being retired but still dreaming about the career, job, etc. It is common to dream about it, surely having stressful thoughts would also.
 

Atory said:
I am retired 3 years ago after a long career in the human services field.

Why isn't the work I did or tried to do enough?
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Sounds like retirement hasn't set in yet. Retirement offers the chance to do absolutely nothing & be glad you are alive to enjoy that.
And questioning yourself now about your performance when you were working is useless. You can't control what is in the past you can only control what happens to you now.

Dreams at night. You worked in the human services field so I'm guessing you had some experience in analyzing peoples problems. If so why not set those dreams down on paper to analyze them?
 
I have reoccurring nightmares of work keeps calling me in. I can't punch in,
I can't punch out. I can only do the work which I can never complete.

I do not intend to ruin my retirement. So, I blow the pricks off. F off I says!
I have too much to do to put up with them.
 
I did FIRE in 2015. That was 10 years ago. I hated my job and was happy I had enough money to quit. I did not even give the company any notice, I just told my supervisor on my last day(at the end of day, fully prepared) that I would not be back tomorrow. Since then I have been getting plenty of calls from various consulting firms offering me contracts/projects, but I'd rather spent my time doing something more enjoyable.
 
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Coco said:
I'm a newbie here, too so welcome. Not sure how to do things on the forum but awhile back I saw a thread or post on being retired but still dreaming about the career, job, etc. It is common to dream about it, surely having stressful thoughts would also.
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Have a great time living your dreams and also after words, your retired life.
 
Atory said:
I am retired 3 years ago after a long career in the human services field.
Has anyone else struggled with letting go of stressful thoughts while you were working since being retired
I keep thinking back about my work, my supervisor and I wonder if it is some form of trauma? OR is it just me.
Why isn't the work I did or tried to do enough? It feels like I am physically gone but mentally still there. Then come the dreams at night.
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Go to bed thinking Pretty girls! U can't believe the plans, the events they can put you thru. Go out a couple of evenings meet the babes, say hello, go home and imagination will help. Say hello to those ladies, you can't believe the trials they can offer! If U married take it wid you.

You need to spin your head around straight for a change. Quit a thinking about yourself, u not #1 in their thoughts until U R?
 
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Atory said:
I am retired 3 years ago after a long career in the human services field.
Has anyone else struggled with letting go of stressful thoughts while you were working since being retired
I keep thinking back about my work, my supervisor and I wonder if it is some form of trauma? OR is it just me.
Why isn't the work I did or tried to do enough? It feels like I am physically gone but mentally still there. Then come the dreams at night.
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did you go through quite a bit of stress and bs at work? it is possible it could be some trauma sneaking in. best i can say is try to make peace with it and do things that make you happy and don't look back.
 
In our community we worked everyday from about 8am to noon. Either it was in town for a client or something to do on the farm. (Gardening, wood heating, mowing, livestock, etc.). After that we were free to do as we please...or make other plans. Since I retired it is basically the same thing, except the work time has been cut severely. :)
 
After 30 years working in the "human services field", you are not just going to up and walk away from that. It's part of you. Granted 3 years is a bit longer than most take to get over the hump. It takes time, but you have to get off your butt and find something that interests you. You need to invest that same spark, which you invested in your job, into whatever makes you look forward to the next day.
 

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