How has your past affected how you live today?

Bretrick

Bretrick

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Perth Western Australia
With my Mother and Grandmother being very aggressive towards me I became wary of women and stayed away from them as much as possible.
As a result never married (A good thing in retrospect) hitting the bottle instead (a bad thing in retrospect)
Becoming a loner at a very young age (good and bad in retrospect)
 

I hear you. Never married myself. I've posted enough about my upbringing.

I didn't drink, I ate. So I've battled my weight since age 8. Was a normal weight cute kid until then.

I'd rather just be on my own at this point. Life could have been different. Thank goodness for cats at least.
 
I think your first teenage intimate relationship dictates the course of the ship in many ways.

I thought all women were like my first girlfriend. It wasn't true at all and gave me a false belief system about the opposite sex. But then I found and connected with the right gal, and it all changed.
 

Oh my goodness, only 100%!

We start learning the moment we look into our mothers eyes immediately after birth. We develop traits, instinctual reactions, and even opinions. We eventually become our own people, but it's undoubtedly a version of someone else.

I tend to focus on the bad things I inherited, and goodness knows I've paid a price for those. On the other hand, my family stayed together, so there's that.

I won't go into details - but during my reflection after I stopped working, a lot surfaced that was inherited and that I'd now deem "wrong". So much so that I have a bit of a grudge against some individuals.
 
So much of the hurtful stuff from childhood I now realize was due to others insecurities "Get out of here. This is a man's job." "Those people are no good." "Girls don't need to go to college." "Why aren't you more like your sister?"

Let me hasten to say there were also good people with good intentions.
 
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