How long do you go without talking to others?

Bella said:
It depends. I can go a week or longer without speaking to anyone I know, and it doesn't bother me to go longer than that. Sometimes the only people I speak to are store clerks. There are times I just don't feel like speaking to anyone. In which case I just let calls go to voice mail and I don't make plans to see anyone. If I don't feel like talking, I'm just not compelled to see people or pick up the phone.

If I get questioned, I honestly tell people that I haven't called back or made a date because I just haven't felt like talking. I'm not mad at anyone or anti-social, sometimes it's just so much drivel and I don't wanna hear it because it wears me out. I have no problem being alone and no trouble amusing myself.

I can have contact whenever I feel like it, but I don't always want to. Call me weird, lol. 🙃

Bella ✌️
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I am thrilled to read your reply about not speaking to people and not apologizing for it. I can become easily overwhelmed by too much noise, multiple conversations across a table, crying children, vocal arguments between other people, etc. It drains me to have to keep all that at bay. So I take breaks from some people in my life, especially the emotional vampires who lay a guilt trip when I don't return their calls in a timely fashion.

Since my husband died last August and my dog died in December I've spent lots of days in my own company and I'm fine with it. I've come to accept that my own peace of mind is more important than someone else's expectation of what a "friend" is supposed to do.
 

Hi @Duncanzmom. Welcome to the forum! :)

My condolences on the loss of your husband and dog. It might sound trite to say that I know how you feel, but I do. My husband died suddenly four years ago, and I also lost my lovely elkhound. Many of us here are widowed.

Nope, I don't feel the need to apologize for needing peace and quiet. Establishing boundaries in relationships is important. Good for you for keeping the "emotional vampires" at bay. If you don't, they'll suck the life out of you. 😉

Why don't you take a little spin over to the Intro forum and introduce yourself to everybody and tell us a bit more about yourself? I know they'd love to meet you! > https://www.seniorforums.com/forums/introductions.15/

Bella ✌️
 
C50 said:
How long do you go without talking to others? - I have an older brother ( not a very nice person) who will go months without talking to anyone.
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Interesting thread, I must have missed in in June.

My story is however not interesting, I rarely go more than a few hours. Like @Pecos when younger I did some solo camping, for a day or so it was ok, but once I went for a week. Did not like that.

Used to be a Trappist monastery near the Snow Basin ski area in Utah. They never spoke to each other, and had little interaction with anyone else. Often went months or years without speaking to another person. They did have a small gift shop and visitors center. The monk working it was always quite talkative, and friendly. Sometimes it was hard to get away from him. I suspect that was a coveted job. Abbey of Our Lady of the Holy Trinity
 

I can go a long time without talking to anyone, weeks. I was laughing about it with another single woman who lives down the road. I like being alone, doing what I want to do, eating what I want to eat, etc., and she does too. Family keeps asking, "but what do you do?" Seems like I stay busy and content. Even took my first solo vacation after retirement and now I don't think twice about taking off by myself in my old car. Sometimes I talk to myself though. My mother used to do that and said it was because she liked to talk to someone intelligent every once in a while. ;)
 
I have gone weeks without a social personal conversation. Once I went months for no reason.
But business and health talking I don't count. I write down the days that I talk to a friend
so I know exactly who and when and how long. I figure out all the hours I have a social conversation every year, it is predictable. Not counting email or text. I even figured this out over my lifetime.
 

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