How many alienated children/parents in our country, and can anything be done?

[grahamg]

You do bring up some good points here.

Thanks

Grahamg wrote: "accept the manipulation, whether they truly believed what they were being told or not." Remy wrote: This is true. The child has no choice in the matter. Also once an adult they may still be very influenced and take years to process their childhood and what they were told.

We must accept our children being like the other parent, (celebrate it even), but ruthlessness in personal relationships may come with it without any undue influences, though most often not I'd say.

Grahamg wrote: "attempts are made to feed the child a narrative that isn't right and little can be done to stop it."

True again. While my experience is different, I remember my mother scream raging at me, calling me horrible names, throwing things, threatening, kicking and yet I, the child, was the problem while there was nothing wrong with this adult maniac. So yes, I know things get really twisted.

I occasionally think of Dickensian characters where estrangement occurred, and lots of twisted things happen, (obviously for dramatic effect).

There's a good measure of agreement between us, (more than I found when I used to take part in discussions on fathers rights forums, where the obsession appears to be "equal parenting").

What can be done about any of this I don't know, and I've even become cynical about what I see as extravagant claims made during countrywide charity fund raising campaigns, and they say " They're turning children's lives around" - I'd prefer to hear fewer children's lives needed "turning around".