How many single men turn down the chance of relationship with married woman?

[grahamg]

Anyone who has followed any of the discussions I've had will have some idea why I might be asking the thread title question.

However, I hope this turns into a more general discussions about the "rights and wrongs" of those choosing to have an affair with someone who is already married, (and I'll admit straight away there are some aspects you could consider as being "right", even if you are the injured party as it were, the one whose partner might have been unfaithful to, because some marriages are ultimately not good for either the man or the woman, so better over, however it might finally happen, or the infidelity aspect).

A serious subject, for all those who dislike serious subjects to avoid, but if you choose to add levity who am I to stop you either! .

 

[EllisT]

What could go wrong in this thread?

 

[Aunt Marg]

Single men or married, when you're a real woman, have class, possess morals and standards, and have respect for yourself and your partner, you don't buy into relationships and flings outside of the immediate marriage/relationship you're in.

So, it doesn't boil-down to -- "how many single men turn down the chance of a relationship with married women", so much as it boils-down to -- how many loose-aa$ women reduce themselves to such a low level.

 

[Don M.]

IMO, ANY married individual...either man or woman...who fools around with another, is unworthy of their spouses trust and respect.

 

[Keesha]

Anyone who has followed any of the discussions I've had will have some idea why I might be asking the thread title question.

However, I hope this turns into a more general discussions about the "rights and wrongs" of those choosing to have an affair with someone who is already married, (and I'll admit straight away there are some aspects you could consider as being "right", even if you are the injured party as it were, the one whose partner might have been unfaithful to, because some marriages are ultimately not good for either the man or the woman, so better over, however it might finally happen, or the infidelity aspect).

There is no ‘right’ in infidelity. If your relationship isn’t good you either work it out or break off the relationship. The is no justifiable reason for cheating so I’m not sure what there is to discuss.

 

[Robert59]

Very dangerous to mess with someone's married wife because I had a friend that was messing around with his boss's wife and her husband bought a gun and was going kill him. He had the money to hire a hitman to do the job but he wanted to do it himself so he shot this friend with a 22 rifle and he survived the shot.

 

[Robert59]

What's crazy I was riding around in his truck for week's before he was shot. I could have been shot also by this angry husband.

 

[Judycat]

Yeah my uncle was cheating on my aunt for a little while until the day he began piling furniture against the door. The woman's husband called and said he was coming over to kill him.

 

[gennie]

IOW a fling? There is no question about the right or wrong of it but as to how many would indulge, I can't give a number but I would imagine there are many who are looking for a fling without serious commitment. (And I think the reason many are single is because they have commitment issues but that is whole 'nother discussion.)

Men have little to lose because society is and always has been much more accepting of it. They are also more adventurous and it does present a little danger. We've all heard the popular death joke: "I want to die in bed killed by a jealous husband."

I hate to show gender bias but if the shoe is on other foot, I think single females are much less likely to have 'flings'. Females invest far more into a relationship as it can have more life-changing consequences plus society is far more critical. JMHO

Sorry, Grahamg, I have no idea why you asked. I hope my answer was not inappropriate.

 

[grahamg]

IOW a fling? There is no question about the right or wrong of it but as to how many would indulge, I can't give a number but I would imagine there are many who are looking for a fling without serious commitment. (And I think the reason many are single is because they have commitment issues but that is whole 'nother discussion.)
Men have little to lose because society is and always has been much more accepting of it. They are also more adventurous and it does present a little danger. We've all heard the popular death joke: "I want to die in bed killed by a jealous husband."
I hate to show gender bias but if the shoe is on other foot, I think single females are much less likely to have 'flings'. Females invest far more into a relationship as it can have more life-changing consequences plus society is far more critical. JMHO
Sorry, Grahamg, I have no idea why you asked. I hope my answer was not inappropriate.

I'll keep my reasons for asking out of the discussion for now, if that alright, and I didn't find your post inappropriate at all, I'm glad to say.
I'm a little taken aback by the strong reactions in this "enlightened age", (read " anything goes, high divorce rates, no fault divorce age"). .

 

[grahamg]

There is no ‘right’ in infidelity. If your relationship isn’t good you either work it out or break off the relationship. The is no justifiable reason for cheating so I’m not sure what there is to discuss.

Have you ever been asked by partner/former partner why you're not feeling happy for them that they've found happiness with someone?
In any event, whilst I want everyone's input, it is those men who stop themselves, when the chance to stray is there, and those who don't I'm really enquiring about here. .

 

[911]

In my opinion, this is a discussion for another forum. Do you realize that there may be (likely are) some people on this forum who have been severely hurt and maybe even damaged due to an affair and you are again rehashing an event that caused them irreparable pain?

Do you realize that this is an issue that has caused hundreds of thousands of lives?

What are you, a sadist?

 

[grahamg]

In my opinion, this is a discussion for another forum. Do you realize that there may be (likely are) some people on this forum who have been severely hurt and maybe even damaged due to an affair and you are again rehashing an event that caused them irreparable pain?
Do you realize that this is an issue that has caused hundreds of thousands of lives?
What are you, a sadist?

I don't believe I am, but do you think those breaking up another's marriage are sadists, or perhaps should be accepted when divorce means next to nothing? Hopefully on a forum like this one it's okay?

 

[Keesha]

Have you ever been asked by partner/former partner why you're not feeling happy for them that they've found happiness with someone?
In any event, whilst I want everyone's input, it is those men who stop themselves, when the chance to stray is there, and those who don't I'm really enquiring about here. .

Yes I have been told by a past partner that they weren’t happy with me BUT they had the decency to break it off with me first before they went about their merry way with someone else and they did it with class and respect. I was heart broken but weeks later I saw him driving her new Trans AM while waiting at a stop sign, I saw him stare at me while hit the car in front of him ( I was 18 , he was 16 ) and I don’t care if you wanted this primarily for men. With a title and subject matter you bring up, SURELY you didn’t expect any women to not post their view points.

That’s not to say I’m never attracted to other people. I just made a commitment to the man I live with. We are not married by the church but are married by law. ( common law ). Not that it matters any.

 

[C'est Moi]

I'll keep my reasons for asking out of the discussion for now, if that alright, and I didn't find your post inappropriate at all, I'm glad to say.
I'm a little taken aback by the strong reactions in this "enlightened age", (read " anything goes, high divorce rates, no fault divorce age"). .

You have to consider the relative ages of your audience. Younger people would probably have a vastly different take on it.

 

[C'est Moi]

I don't believe I am, but do you think those breaking up another's marriage are sadists, or perhaps should be accepted when divorce means next to nothing? Hopefully on a forum like this one it's okay?

There is no problem with your topic unless Matrix says there is. If people don't want to participate they can scroll on by.

 

[C'est Moi]

"How many single men turn down the chance of relationship with married woman?"

I have no idea. But a Google result says this: "An issue of Marriage and Divorce journal also stated that 70% of all Americans engage in some kind of affair sometime during their marital life. "

 

[grahamg]

Yes I have been told by a past partner that they weren’t happy with me BUT they had the decency to break it off with me first before they went about their merry way with someone else and they did it with class and respect. I was heart broken but weeks later I saw him driving her new Trans AM while waiting at a stop sign, I saw him stare at me while hit the car in front of him ( I was 18 , he was 16 ) and I don’t care if you wanted this primarily for men. With a title and subject matter you bring up, SURELY you didn’t expect any women to not post their view points.

That’s not to say I’m never attracted to other people. I just made a commitment to the man I live with. We are not married by the church but are married by law. ( common law ). Not that it matters any.

No, I did not mean to say I didn't want female input, and yes I do appreciate it here very much, but I do mean "as a man", it is the thinking of men, maybe in all kinds of differing circumstances, who make the decisions they do, I'm trying to focus on most here. .

 

[Keesha]

No, I did not mean to say I didn't want female input, and yes I do appreciate it here very much, but I do mean "as a man", it is the thinking of men, maybe in all kinds of differing circumstances, who make the decisions they do, I'm trying to focus on most here. .

Ok!

 

[Devi]

Note: Google itself does not actually say anything, but lists links to pages that cover the topic searched for. And generally pages that use the same terms searched for.

 

[911]

There is no problem with your topic unless Matrix says there is. If people don't want to participate they can scroll on by.

Nah. I just put him on ignore.

 

[In The Sticks]

Single men or married, when you're a real woman, have class, possess morals and standards, and have respect for yourself and your partner, you don't buy into relationships and flings outside of the immediate marriage/relationship you're in.

So, it doesn't boil-down to -- "how many single men turn down the chance of a relationship with married women", so much as it boils-down to -- how many loose-aa$ women reduce themselves to such a low level.

Yeh, it's an equal opportunity condition.

And I don't let single people off the hook. If someone doesn't believe they have a moral obligation to leave another person's spouse alone, then their morals are too "flexible."

 

[In The Sticks]

IMO, ANY married individual...either man or woman...who fools around with another, is unworthy of their spouses trust and respect.

And is unworthy of their own trust and respect.

If you can't trust yourself, then what's the point of anything?

 

[Aunt Marg]

Yeh, it's an equal opportunity condition.

And I don't let single people off the hook. If someone doesn't believe they have a moral obligation to leave another person's spouse alone, then their morals are too "flexible."

"Flexible" being an exemplary choice in words over and above what I would have chosen.

 

[In The Sticks]

"How many single men turn down the chance of relationship with married woman?"

I have no idea. But Google says this: "An issue of Marriage and Divorce journal also stated that 70% of all Americans engage in some kind of affair sometime during their marital life. "

"some kind of affair"

I'm searching for the meaning behind that.