How much do you love your grand children?

My granddaughter was born into my hands.....literally into my hands. I was very active in her raising and she turned out pretty darn well, if I do say so myself. Now the great-granddaughter is coming very soon, but because of the distance involved, I won't have as much influence in her life but you can be sure I'll have as much as I can. I hope I live to see her grow up into as wonderful a woman as her mother.
 

Lynda said:
I lived thousands of miles away from five of my grandchilden until they were mostly grown. We would see each other at best once a year. We never bonded. I want to love them, but I don't. I don't know them. Their values and culture is different from mine and it is too late to bond.

I have raised two other grandchildren since they were 6 and 2 years old. The oldest (a girl 19 years) does not like or respect me. I'm "too controlling," and she could not accept the "house rules." She is off on her own now, and I'm relieved to be past the drama. The boy, the youngest, now 14, has the key to my heart, and I pray I can be here for him until he graduates from high school/college and that he will grow into a responsible, happy, productive adult.

"Blood" doesn't make "love." Good relationships require respect. Respect for one another fosters love.
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Sorry to hear that your granddaughter and you don't get along Lynda. One day, when she's finally mature, maybe the respect for you will come. To be honest, your description sounds a lot like me and my mom. I left home when I was 16 for pretty much the same reason as your granddaughter but there did come a point when I began to understand how hard it was for her to raise us on our own and the respect grew from there. So don't write her off entirely yet but at the same time, don't have any expectations of her because you're setting yourself up for hurt feelings if you do. If respect comes and love follows, then you've been blessed and if not, you at least have the satisfaction of a hard job done as well as you could and the affection of one loving grandkid.

You know that old saying, 'you pick your friends, but family is who you're stuck with'. Sometimes you get lucky and family is friend. Like my one daughter is my BFF!!!! And I absolutely love her and relate to her and we're two peas in a pod! And my other daughter who is the mother of our grandchildren....well I love her too but I always feel like it's kind of a chore to be with her. And as for the grandkids, I love them but don't know them super well because it's always been a six hour drive between us so the visits are few and far apart. Also they're still really young and it's easy to love the little ones.
 
Sassycakes said:
Words can't even express how much I love my 3 Grand children.
I would give my life for them. .........
When he told me what he was learning in college he said "Bio Medical Engineering."
I said wow am I happy I don't have to help you with homework any more.
Then he said "I would never have gotten the marks I got in High School
if it wasn't for your help."
Well I guess you can imagine,I cried.
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Awwww, such a nice thing for you to hear Sassycakes!
 
Love them to the moon and back. Three are 700 miles away but we face time every Thursday night and every other Sunday. We drive down to visit for long weekends about every 8-12 weeks. The other two (oldest and youngest) are only 20 minutes away. The oldest (13..) spends weekends with us about once a month. We are close enough with the little one (2) that she never minds when daddy and mommy leave to run errands. There isn't hardly anything we wouldn't do for any of them.
 
Oh yes! Nothing like grandkids. I love them to death. We do all kinds of things, silly things, and all the time I think I lose about 30 points in IQ when I'm with them, but that's ok. Its a time of their life that goes by fast and we have to rack up good memories before they are gone. I love to do silly, innocent things because I know that ahead of them life will not always be pleasant the way the world is going.

So I want them to remember these days with fondness. Childhood is short and we wish it could go on forever. We are all kids at heart, don't you think?

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Lynda, I have a 14 year old grandson that has my heart too! Can't they be wonderful? He graduated from 8th grade on Friday, and it was so precious to see him being recognized for the accomplishments he worked so hard to achieve, especially most improved academic. He really struggled for that. My heart's breaking as he's growing up and away, but he'll always be my boy!

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