SNIP!
Our total costs for both our Funeral home policies, Plots, & Headstone was ~$31K. Way more than I expected.
But it's all done and paid for.
That is monies well spent for us.
Love it...welcome to the forum!The only thing I really know is where I'm going to. I've made no other plans.
When we moved my MIL down to live with us years ago it was so easy. Just called the auction house and they had an estate auction. They got rid of everything, even the Wheaties boxes & pantry stuff. We put the house on the market and that was it. All done in one snowy March weekend.Hi Leann. My husband died earlier this year, and did not have a lot of final plans made. Left me with the challenge. Made me decide I am not going to leave others with unanswered questions.
We married later in life, and neither of us have children. I do have a niece, who has pretty much become my advocate. I have written a new will, leaving everything to her, and making her the executor. We have already discussed at length what I want done, as far as a memorial, (no service) and with me (cremation, scatter ashes). I hope to downsize a lot more, so she does not have to deal with possessions she does not want or need.
We have a lot more to discuss, but things are in place. I own my home, it is paid in full, and we have discussed what options she will have for selling it.
You crack me up... " hold the butter, though"...lol!I just order 50 lbs of unpopped popcorn.... I am going to be stuffed with it and cremated ..it will be an epic ceremony
ME too!!!!I plan to be a burden on my family.....
In your notebook be sure and put your SSN number, your V.A. number , Service number, if you are retired from civil service your CSA number, All Account Numbers, where located, just some ideas.As a U.S. veteran I find I can't do too much pre planning. Nothing can happen through the VA until you die. I've tried to assemble a notebook with steps for my widow to follow but as the years go by and numbers and addresses and policies change I have to annually redo the whole thing. If the gov't really cared they'd assemble an A-Z survivors guide WITH THE SPECIFICS. (But they don't, won't and never will)
until death do we part is not a marriage vow as much as a goal ha haI will be laid to rest next to my Husband so I can keep a beady eye on him...
Up until three years ago, I was an expert at avoiding the whole final plans thing. I still haven't covered all of the bases yet but I'm making progress.
Three years ago my younger brother died unexpectedly. He was 57. There isn't a day that I don't miss him with all of my heart. His wife had died years earlier of breast cancer and they didn't have children. And there wasn't a will. It was impossibly difficult to deal with the loss of this wonderful person and at the same time make decisions about his home, his large collection of things, his assets and his debts. But my brothers and I got through it.
One month after his passing, I went to a lawyer and began the process of having my important papers drawn up...a will, power of attorney, living will. It was awkward and uncomfortable but only for a little while. Then I realized that by my doing this, I was alleviating my family of a lot of difficulty when it's my time to leave the planet.
I still have the funeral planning to do but, honestly, that is just too difficult for me. I'll get around to it but not for a while.
I'm also sorting through stuff in my small house because there is a lot I can donate to help someone else and my preference at this stage of my life is to live simply.
And last year I took out a long-term care policy. I wish I had done it earlier because the older one gets, the more expensive it is. But I have it now. So, when I can't live on my own any longer, my family has my permission to move me to a nice retirement center.
I finally feel like an adult. And it only took 62 years
This is a great post. With my sister tragically killed. It made me want to get my affairs in order... not an easy task to say the least..but necessary. My husband brother passed away and he had property, retirement funds, etc., which caused separation between the brothers and sister...it was a MESS. One thing I am going to do is to start getting rid of everything that I no longer use. My husband is constantly buying things that we really don't need. I understand that is his comfort so I don't complain about it. If he pass away before me.. once I sell some of the stuff, I probably have enough money to pay a couple of months mortgage.Up until three years ago, I was an expert at avoiding the whole final plans thing. I still haven't covered all of the bases yet but I'm making progress.
Three years ago my younger brother died unexpectedly. He was 57. There isn't a day that I don't miss him with all of my heart. His wife had died years earlier of breast cancer and they didn't have children. And there wasn't a will. It was impossibly difficult to deal with the loss of this wonderful person and at the same time make decisions about his home, his large collection of things, his assets and his debts. But my brothers and I got through it.
One month after his passing, I went to a lawyer and began the process of having my important papers drawn up...a will, power of attorney, living will. It was awkward and uncomfortable but only for a little while. Then I realized that by my doing this, I was alleviating my family of a lot of difficulty when it's my time to leave the planet.
I still have the funeral planning to do but, honestly, that is just too difficult for me. I'll get around to it but not for a while.
I'm also sorting through stuff in my small house because there is a lot I can donate to help someone else and my preference at this stage of my life is to live simply.
And last year I took out a long-term care policy. I wish I had done it earlier because the older one gets, the more expensive it is. But I have it now. So, when I can't live on my own any longer, my family has my permission to move me to a nice retirement center.
I finally feel like an adult. And it only took 62 years