How to Impress a woman

horseless carriage said:
My former neighbour became a widow a good while back, she was married for close on 70 years. Since her husband died I have been corresponding with her, we are what was once called, pen-pals. She is nearly 93, is that senior enough? What impresses her is not the dozen or so A4 pages that I write to her every two or three weeks, it's the fact that I hand write her letters, the reason that she's most impressed is because I write in pen & ink, like this:
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You do that? Wow! What beautiful handwriting!
 

officerripley said:
What would impress this ol' senior woman: you could, and would willingly, do a decent job of doing laundry (not by refusing to sort items by color & not by refusing to use anything but hot water on everything becuz your mother told you that was the way it was done); you could and would willingly balance a checkbook; you could and would willingly figure out how to pay bills (either by doing it online or by *gasp* writing out checks by hand); you could and would willingly make your own medical appointments by *gasp* picking up the phone and calling; you could and would willingly call service or repair people when needed. That enough to get started?
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Gee Officerripley,

I do that stuff now. I thought you were going to say something difficult like, staying awake after supper.

How did I impress women when I was single? Cook for them. Still works on the misses too.
 
Jondalar7 said:
I have managed all of those things for many years and I am a pretty good cook but I do not have many clothes to sort because I were Hawaiian shirts and jeans, Just two piles.
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You're rare then; my huzz knows a guy who ran his own business, did all the bookkeeping, accountancy, paying taxes, etc. for that business but yet bragged about the fact that all the bookkeeping, paying bills, making appointments, etc. for the household was "rightfully" done by his wife because that's "women's work." So if you lived around here, Jondalar, you most likely wouldn't want to let on to any of the guys around here that you could do all that; I'm afraid they'd try to take your "man card" away from ya.
 

tbeltrans said:
To me, we are ALL humans and by putting somebody above (or below) somebody else, whether by gender, race, or any other means of doing so, just doesn't end well. So I am baffled by the idea that treating a woman as the equal that they are by virtue of the fact that we are ALL humans is somehow bringing her down. You specifically addressed this comment to me, so I am responding directly to you.

Tony
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We may all be humans but the thought that a woman should be treated as an equal comes from our male dominated culture that is thousands of years old and based on men's desire to conquer and to be rulers. If you made a list of a woman's abilities and along side of it a list of a mans, men would be embarrassed. My reply was merely to say that to say any person should be treated as an equal is to in some way think they are not. I have no equal, I acknowledge there are those who have skills and abilities greater than mine and those that do not. We are each gifted differently. You have to know that her skin is softer than yours and her curves more graceful, the connective fibers of the left and right sides of her brain is ten times as dense as ours. We could never be her equal.
 
Oris Borloff said:
Gee Officerripley,

I do that stuff now. I thought you were going to say something difficult like, staying awake after supper.

How did I impress women when I was single? Cook for them. Still works on the misses too.
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Around here, that stuff is not considered difficult, it's considered "unmanly"; same thing with cooking, unfortunately.
 
officerripley said:
You're rare then; my huzz knows a guy who ran his own business, did all the bookkeeping, accountancy, paying taxes, etc. for that business but yet bragged about the fact that all the bookkeeping, paying bills, making appointments, etc. for the household was "rightfully" done by his wife because that's "women's work." So if you lived around here, Jondalar, you most likely wouldn't want to let on to any of the guys around here that you could do all that; I'm afraid they'd try to take your "man card" away from ya.
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It is kind of funny that we think of things as women's work and men's work. Now when it comes to physical strength, a man is built with bigger muscles than a woman and I try not to let a woman do heavy lifting as a general rule. Strength and birthing babies aside, we are all capable of all things to some degree. So how did we come up with what is women's work and what is men's work.
PS. It made me smile when you mentioned my man card. I have worn beads, Roman sandals and a sarong, Big belt buckles, leather jackets and camo. As an Army Sgt. I stood in front of my troops and said I Love you guys, Be safe out there. I have lived knowing I can match any guy at anything. I am thinking at 66 that is a lot of ego, but true still My man card is safe :) Gotta run I have cookies in the oven!
 
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Jondalar7 said:
It is kind of funny that we think of things as women's work and men's work. Now when it comes to physical strength, a man is built with bigger muscles than a woman and I try not to let a woman do heavy lifting as a general rule. Strength and birthing babies aside, we are all capable of all things to some degree. So how did we come up with what is women's work and what is men's work.
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Paternalism, patriarchy, that's why!
 
For a start you are asking the wrong sex. If you want to know what impresses a woman, ask women. I'm assuming you want to impress someone you have just met, so I will make it short and sweet. I was very impressed with my husband's smile...he smiles with his eyes and not just his lips. I looked at his hands and they were beautiful...clean, well kept. I have a thing about hands you see. Keep it simple, that will impress her, don't be a 🦚 she won't be impressed unless she is a shallow mallow, lose the somersaults and flowers until the ice is broken.
 
Jondalar7 said:
We may all be humans but the thought that a woman should be treated as an equal comes from our male dominated culture that is thousands of years old and based on men's desire to conquer and to be rulers. If you made a list of a woman's abilities and along side of it a list of a mans, men would be embarrassed. My reply was merely to say that to say any person should be treated as an equal is to in some way think they are not. I have no equal, I acknowledge there are those who have skills and abilities greater than mine and those that do not. We are each gifted differently. You have to know that her skin is softer than yours and her curves more graceful, the connective fibers of the left and right sides of her brain is ten times as dense as ours. We could never be her equal.
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I give up. I honestly don't feel like going around and around. It isn't important. We each see it differently, so let's leave it at that.

Thanks,

Tony
 
officerripley said:
Around here, that stuff is not considered difficult, it's considered "unmanly"; same thing with cooking, unfortunately.
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I have never been called unmanly or a more common term would be gay but I like doing unmanly things to shock people. Most people's first impression of me is that I might be a cop or a pastor. ( I find this out when I see them sneak away at a party to smoke their pot.) I am willing to do most anything for a good hearted laugh. Don't double dog dare ME!
 
tbeltrans said:
I give up. I honestly don't feel like going around and around. It isn't important. We each see it differently, so let's leave it at that.

Thanks,

Tony
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I like round and round. Our generation grew up in a time when the roles of men and women were pretty clear. Father knows best was my idea of life as it should be. Today there does not seem to be anything that is clear. The guy on my Wheaties box is now called Caitlyn.
Tony, I get that you Honor women. The world would be better if everyone did. I just like jumping up on my soapbox.
 
Dana said:
For a start you are asking the wrong sex. If you want to know what impresses a woman, ask women. I'm assuming you want to impress someone you have just met, so I will make it short and sweet. I was very impressed with my husband's smile...he smiles with his eyes and not just his lips. I looked at his hands and they were beautiful...clean, well kept. I have a thing about hands you see. Keep it simple, that will impress her, don't be a 🦚 she won't be impressed unless she is a shallow mallow, lose the somersaults and flowers until the ice is broken.
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A woman once told me the thing that attracted her to me was my clean fingernails.
 
Jondalar7 said:
I was reading another topic and made me think of all the things I have done to impress a woman. Some worked and some did not but I am 66 and been single awhile. The things I used to do do not seem like a good idea anymore. I remember when pulling a wheelie on my bicycle was worth a few points. Not something I would try now unless I thought I could get some loving care after the crash. I once did a strip tease jumping over the campfire that got a lot of attention but I am not as much of a chiseled physical specimen as I once was.
Hey guys, help me out here what have you tried that might impress a Senior Woman.
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A lot of times (depending on the lady) it's the simple things that count. Men think we need a lot to impress us..we don't - I can speak for myself. As long as you are self sufficient, a gentleman - open doors, treat me with respect, show love, ask me how my day is going. Although I like nice things, material things can't replace, love, respect and a generous heart.
 
horseless carriage said:
My former neighbour became a widow a good while back, she was married for close on 70 years. Since her husband died I have been corresponding with her, we are what was once called, pen-pals. She is nearly 93, is that senior enough? What impresses her is not the dozen or so A4 pages that I write to her every two or three weeks, it's the fact that I hand write her letters, the reason that she's most impressed is because I write in pen & ink, like this:
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Beautiful writing and a wonderful reminder that it is the little things that grow in the heart of another. Thanks for sharing
 
Dana said:
✅ now work on the smile...practice in front of the mirror :)
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Ha Ha Ha my first thought was to post a picture of me in my fifty year old cowboy hat and a big smile showing my tooth with the diamond in it. I once met and internet friend at the bottom of the airport escalator wearing that, standing in a walker and holding a sign that said, Hi Jenny, I'm your internet lover Cowboy! Other women coming down the escalator were heard to say "Oh that poor woman!"
 
SilentSoul said:
What I want to know is this, why do you want to impress her? For a fling? Or for a relationship? Myself personally, I would not be impressed with someone who only wanted to schmooze me.
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This is a question that crossed my mind when I first posted to this thread. I will be interested in reading what follows. When I met my wife, she sat in front of me in night school. We became friends for a number of years before we got married, which occurred 37 years ago. Nobody showed off or tried to pull a smooth one, strutted our stuff, or any of that silliness. We became friends. Mutual respect.

Tony
 
SilentSoul said:
What I want to know is this, why do you want to impress her? For a fling? Or for a relationship? Myself personally, I would not be impressed with someone who only wanted to schmooze me.
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I forgot how to schmooze or flirt. I try to show up as authentic as possible and try to avoid the gals that are all dolled up. In my dating profile it reads " I want a woman in my life who knows she is beautiful with her hair a little blown and her hands in the garden soil." I do not want a date for Friday night, I want someone to take to breakfast then build her a she shed. Offer help for her next project and show off my latest creation. Gaer suggested I show off my creations and writings and I will soon. I guess by showing my pottery I could entice a gal to replay the Ghost scene with me!
 
Jondalar7 said:
Hey guys, help me out here what have you tried that might impress a Senior Woman.
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Not sure about 'senior' wimin
Been 52 years since I felt I had to impress any

However

Reaching back.....waaaaay back;

I never ever set out to impress (short term....hop in the sack....relationships excluded)

Just be yourself

Several benefits to that;

You won't have to keep up the façade long term
In other words, it won't end up a short term (very short term) relationship

She'll like you (not the stud muffin yer portraying)

If she's not attracted to the real you, count yerself lucky
Move on

You already like her, so that's outa the way

After finding out how each other's bodies fit,
you'll have time to get to actually know her
....and she, you

There's more

Lines are open

Taking calls
 
Jondalar7 said:
I forgot how to schmooze or flirt. I try to show up as authentic as possible and try to avoid the gals that are all dolled up. In my dating profile it reads " I want a woman in my life who knows she is beautiful with her hair a little blown and her hands in the garden soil." I do not want a date for Friday night, I want someone to take to breakfast then build her a she shed. Offer help for her next project and show off my latest creation. Gaer suggested I show off my creations and writings and I will soon. I guess by showing my pottery I could entice a gal to replay the Ghost scene with me!
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So you would do these things in hopes of procuring a mate & not just a date?
 
I guess i'm old school. if a man vacuumed or did laundry or dishes, I wouldn't know what to say! I like to treat a man like a man!
i would have to find someone I could respect and treat him with all honor and esteem. I sure wouldn't expect a cook and housekeeper!
hahaha! I think my expectations might be too vivid. I should be open to whatever circumstances present themselves!
 

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