DaveA
Senior Member
- Location
- Coastal Massachusetts, USA
One of the best things about meeting at an early age is the lack of "baggage" that you're both carrying around with you. This can be a purity that disappears as life goes on. I don't even remember the word "pre-nup" back in the 50's when I met my wife-to-be. Never heard my folks or relatives use the term.When I was 15yrs old a met a guy and was impressed after only a few minutes of talking to him. He showed me a great deal of respect and kindness. We married when I was 20 years old and he still shows me the same kindness and respect.
My wife was a bit older than you, Sassycakes. She's just turned 17 and I was 19. We dated for 2 years , were engaged for 6 months and then married in 1956.
I've always thought that rushing into marriage, like so many do today, can lead to problems later on. We can "fake it" and behave well around the girl and her family, for maybe 6 months. After that, for most of us, our true self appears. In quick marriages, it's too late by then and folks just hope that they can adjust to this different person than the one they thought they'd married.
I'm still on my best behavior lest my wife tosses me aside for a younger man. Maybe someone in their late 70's or early 80's.