How unwittingly we reveal information

[Rose65]

I read in a book the following:
'If people listened to themselves more, they would talk less'. An interesting piece of advice.

It is amazing how quickly someone can find out all sorts of information about someone by getting them chatting. I suppose we cannot help it, a willing sympathetic listener is a welcome thing. I tend to get carried away as much as anyone but I will try to be more aware.

Are you guarded about your life or do you find yourself chattering - as I often do?

 

[horseless carriage]

We give away a lot more even when we are silent. My dress sense will tell you what an extrovert I am and my choice of grammar will give away that I read a lot. But Rose, whenever we pay for purchases by any other means than cash, we are giving away very valuable information. We get profiled by our purchases. Those profiles are bought and sold, only cash keeps you anonymous.

I had better shut up now, some lurker might be copying all this down.

 

[Mr. Ed]

Some things I reveal on purpose so the people I'm talking to are at ease in sharing information about themselves

 

[JustDave]

I think I chatter more than I should. At the same time, I am often at a loss for words. Hmmm, now I've got to give that some serious thought.

 

[dilettante]

If people would sit more they would stand less.

 

[That Lady in PA]

I am a great listener. Talker? Not so much.

 

[Rakaia]

When I was being interviewed for a placement in my community services studies I learnt a valuable lesson about self disclosure...

 

[Della]

I talk a lot and reveal a lot about myself and if you read message boards and remember everything a person says you would know more about me than some of my family and closest friends. I've always been an open, candid person. To know me is to know all -- too bad it's so boring.

 

[Aunt Bea]

I learned at a very young age not to say anything or divulge any information that you didn’t want repeated.

In my working years that became even more important.

Now I can jabber away and not say much of anything worth repeating.

 

[hollydolly]

I talk a lot and reveal a lot about myself and if you read message boards and remember everything a person says you would know more about me than some of my family and closest friends. I've always been an open, candid person. To know me is to know all -- too bad it's so boring.

My sister from another mister.... ^^^

 

[katlupe]

I might not share my information in person as I am a pretty quiet person. But I write blogs and belong to various forums and fakebook, as well. So I feel I am a open book as far as the internet goes. I am not worried or upset about it.

 

[Radrook]

The problem with revealing personal information to strangers, is the very real possibility that we might be revealing them to sadists who derive pathological pleasure from hurling insults our way. So in order to avoid that unpleasant experience, it is best to keep certain things to ourselves.

 

[hollydolly]

I don't reveal information Unwittingly..I know exactly what I'm saying...and because I talk a lot people think they know all about me.. but in reality they don't...

 

[Lavinia]

How do you deal with someone who virtually subjects you to an interrogation, wanting to know all about you? You have to keep on good terms with those you work with but don't want everyone knowing all your business.
I try to tell people as little as possible about myself, but then you get the cold shoulder.
There is a big difference between expressing an opinion on a site like this and telling everyone your life story.

 

[Rose65]

I do try but my tongue seems to have a life of it's own. I know caution is safest but we are all human and have a need to communicate.

 

[Paco Dennis]

I have a few email pals that we reveal what we do if we were with each other. I am old enough to not worry if my emails get hacked. I don't have but a pittance. What has happened a few times I thought we were close friends and then something happens and it all seems to crumble. I am not afraid of what they know, it is just disturbing that what I imagined was a friendship, is more just a casual acquaintance.

 

[Jules]

Sometimes things that are said in passing that are totally misunderstood and repeated by the listener. Later you’ll hear them or someone asking about such & such. WTH, are these folks obtuse?

 

[Paco Dennis]

Sometimes things that are said in passing that are totally misunderstood and repeated by the listener. Later you’ll hear them or someone asking about such & such. WTH, are these folks obtuse?

Yea, especially when it is all posts and some pictures. They communication breakdowns are sometimes FLABERGASTING!

 

[oldman]

I set borders and only tell people what I want them to know.

 

[Aunt Bea]

I worked for a man years ago that would tell each of his direct reports a slightly different version of the same story so that when it surfaced in the rumor mill he could tell where the leak was.

 

[Bella]

Anything you say in or outside a court of law may be used against you. I always keep that in mind. People can ask me whatever they want to ask, but I don't feel obliged to respond to their inquiries. I'm cautious about what I disclose and to whom. I only divulge information when I want to. Otherwise...

 

[911]

I was a State Trooper for 37 years. When I was in Major Crimes, we took courses on how to get people to open up. It’s not always so easy, but one of the things I learned early was that people like to talk about themselves. Most thieves, rapists and murderers are Narcissists. Once they get rolling, sometimes I couldn’t stop them. The idea was to get them talking from the start of the interview.

 

[fuzzybuddy]

To be honest, I don't have much to be super guarded about. Yeah, I'm not going to give out my bank account number, etc.
And besides, they'll never find the bodies.