Husband Wants To Name Their Unborn Daughter After His Deceased Wife

Linda said:
I would say NO, I'll decide what to name the child as you are all a bunch of idiots!
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I may be an idiot, regardless of whether I say yes or no to the suggestion in the OP, but one of a bunch of idiots on the forum, I have to recoil at your suggestion there. Maybe you're saying it because you're a woman? (see my earlier post. :)!)
 
grahamg said:
I may be an idiot, regardless of whether I say yes or no to the suggestion in the OP, but one of a bunch of idiots on the forum, I have to recoil at your suggestion there. Maybe you're saying it because you're a woman? (see my earlier post. :)!)
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I think Linda meant that she would call that family a bunch of idiots; not people here on the forum.
 

No. Not only for the present wife but think of the child also. No child should bear the burden of a dead person. It's one thing to give a middle name for a beloved relative, alive or not. But this seems different.

My mother raged at a me about her mother who died 15 years before I was born. I think at times that dead woman was more important then me. This guy is nuts. Not even a middle name is appropriate in this scenario.
 
Judycat said:
Nice nickname. Hey Dibs. Bring me the remote. That should satisfy Dad.
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"As long as dads happy hey"! (only joking, if my then wife had her first suggested name chosen, our daughter would have been "Poppy", and someone would maybe nicknamed her "Heroin"!)

Just checked, and what do you know, "Dibs" is a boys name, meaning origin and popularity:
https://www.babycenter.com/baby-names-dib-808355.htm
 
Jules said:
Considering she married this man after seeing his house was full of pictures of the deceased wife, she may not be a strong person.
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I had a very good friend, now sadly no longer with us, (a lovely lady called Faith, who did all these things, raised two boys largely on her own, ran half a dozen businesses including a bar for two years, when she turned from a lady to a "landlady" quite quickly her girlfriends told her, and set up her own care home for severely disabled people, winning many accolades), however, she was never lucky in love.
Her last boyfriend, who eventually moved to live with her, but it ended unhappily when dementia/Alzheimer's overtook him, well his first wife had died tragically in a riding accident, and his home was full of her pictures, including one in the bedroom, when Faith got to know him, two years after the wife had died.
I mention all this because the situation in the OP has many sides, and sometimes its best not to be too judgemental. I agree its odd to wish to name a child after your late wife/husband, but maybe the penny has to be allowed to drop in his mind, and a fudge could be giving the child so many Christian names, no one thinks of the link to the dead woman so much(?).
 
grahamg said:
If it isn't too embarrassing, what might be in your bathroom cupboards, (or is it just whether they were tidy?)? :)
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That's not the point. The point is that someone outside the family should know better than to go rummaging around in someone else's cupboards, no matter where they are -- bathroom, kitchen, wherever. It's disrespectful and rude as can be.
 
Butterfly said:
That's not the point. The point is that someone outside the family should know better than to go rummaging around in someone else's cupboards, no matter where they are -- bathroom, kitchen, wherever. It's disrespectful and rude as can be.
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It may be, but most men I've spoken to don't see it that way, and I didn't rummage, just looked for razors, and owned up to my actions or they'd never have known. Most men wouldn't be offended is the story here, whilst nearly all women are mortified, and I was simply foolish enough not to understand this, (oh, and btw, if there had been no paper left on the roll, would you not have looked for some!? :) ).
 
grahamg said:
It may be, but most men I've spoken to don't see it that way, and I didn't rummage, just looked for razors, and owned up to my actions or they'd never have known. Most men wouldn't be offended is the story here, whilst nearly all women are mortified, and I was simply foolish enough not to understand this, (oh, and btw, if there had been no paper left on the roll, would you not have looked for some!? :) ).
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Unless I were frantically in the middle of something, NO, when I left the bathroom I would tell my host(ess) that they were low or out of toilet paper and let them attend to it. An emergency is a different thing. :)
 
Pepper said:
Unless I were frantically in the middle of something, NO, when I left the bathroom I would tell my host(ess) that they were low or out of toilet paper and let them attend to it. An emergency is a different thing. :)
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Yes, I'm talking an emergency, what would you do then, (apologies to anyone contemplating a meal, for trying to get down to the nitty gritty). :(
 
In an emergency, we do as we must. Then apologize. Say, "sorry, went through your cabinets looking for toilet paper" or whatever.
 
Pepper said:
In an emergency, we do as we must. Then apologize. Say, "sorry, went through your cabinets looking for toilet paper" or whatever.
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Would you say, "at least I didn't do what that dreadful man from the forum did, and look for your husbands razors"?
Luckily, as a "boy scout " I always carry sufficient toilet paper for emergencies, so you'd have to admit to being not quite so perfect I'm afraid, in that regard! :)
 

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