I Am A SKIN! ! Are You? !

Cookie, I have tried to communicate with the two around here, I helped raise them when their father was killed, but they want me to move in with one, and the other thinks i should find a nice assisted living home.

At 63, I think I'm still able to care for myself, and I can't afford the that kind of home. Through the years, I have done my best to keep up with the other grandchildren on FaceBook, and My Space before that. But they too are busy with careers.

I don't need to be controlled, and I guess I'll just have to have faith that they will come to understand. But it is scary trying to learn to navigate 'out there' without their advice and support.
 

Ina, I see your point. I wouldn't want that either and your much too young for assisted living. I like my independence too and have lived on my own most of my life and can take care of myself quite well and so far so good. Its true the young folks are very busy with working and their lives. When my son moved out I made a special point of inviting him to dinner often just to stay connected and I take the initiative to call often too. I can still entice him to visit with dinners and food. That seems to have worked as we are quite close and talk a lot.

Ina navigating 'out there' on your own is scary but it gets easier with practice, good judgement and common sense. And it's very exciting. I'm sure everything will fall into place and you'll enjoy it.
 
Hi Folks, and Good Morning from Rhos On Sea (North Wales).
And may I say that I am so pleased that I started this particular thread.
I have found the differing opinions, and the way that forum members have opened up, and talked about their own particular family situations rather fascinating.
So much so that I bet some of you could write a book!:D

With my experience in a particular other forum, I half expected someone to say...
Mind you own ******* business.
But not in THIS forum of course! :D

I hope to read more opinions.
Please...
 

Cookie said:
I really wonder how families get so estranged that parents and children never see each other and some don't even speak, although I've seen it happen often enough.
Could there be unresolved grievances and conflict, or do the kids relocate because of job requirements or marry and move away, and then their lives differ so much that they have nothing much in common.

Many members of my family moved to different places around the globe, but when when the time came, all was forgiven and forgotten, and the estates were divided equally among the descendants. I would never cut my own son off from his inheritance, no matter what.
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I am a fortunate man. Both of my adult children are very successful, and have kids of their own. We paid for their bachelor's degrees, but they paid for the masters'. We own our house, both our cars, and have money in the bank. We don't think too much about spending or not spending. It might be different if the kids were having a hard time of it, but they aren't. And they encourage us to spend, spend, spend. We get together for dinner every Sunday, and I treasure that more than any material goods. What ever is left when we're gone will go to them, and to our 4 grandchildren. They can have it now if they want it. I don't really care.
 
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