Seeing as Athos has been a member for approx. 17 months he knows what's here and that is what probably helped to make his decision to leave.
Good luck to you Athos and if you are reading just ignore the negative comments.
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Seeing as Athos has been a member for approx. 17 months he knows what's here and that is what probably helped to make his decision to leave.
Good luck to you Athos and if you are reading just ignore the negative comments.
boozercruiser
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Sorry Sir, I don't think any of us here know who Boozercruiser is.layful:
Here is the difference, you Boozercruiser have been on SF a bit over a month and you have posted over 635 times. Athos was here almost a year and a half and posted 68 times. So it sort of makes me wonder (and I might be wrong) if he was just reading and judging us. If he read enough to know how bad we were, couldn't he ever find something to comment on? Not to mention he was slamming those who get off on tangents, which is my middle name. Since that seems to bother so many people I will try to cut down on that. I have only posted 3 or 4 times today and already I've deleted a lot of what I was saying and trying to stay on topic. Which to me seems sort of boring but I can live with it..........most of the time.
Thank you for your very kind words and observations Linda, and I pretty much agree with everything you say there.
Particularly the below, because it happens to me as well...
I've deleted a lot of what I was saying and trying to stay on topic. Which to me seems sort of boring but I can live with it..........most of the time.
Being the sort of bloke I am (From Liverpool) I do have a rather wicked and naughty sense of humour.
I have already been more or less told off about it by Admin.
So Sometimes I feel that I am walking on eggshells around here.
I mean, no matter what, someone, somewhere is not going to be happy or take offence at something.
Anything even, as it will make their day.
Some jobsworth will always try to tell you if you are a bit 'off topic'.
Me? Live and let live I will say to that.
Oh! And please get a life!
Now then.
I wonder who I have upset now?!
Sorry whoever. I didn't mean it.
Honest I didn't!
layful:
Pookie
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I do hope he comes back. Maybe he'll give us a second chance, and see how wonderful this place really is. I'm back at work and I may miss stuff, but I'll look for him and welcome him if he comes back.
It could be he has family issues or work problems or something that is in his life that also upset him. It is so hard to tell; after all, all of us are on keyboards in front of monitors and we aren't face-to-face. We can't see faces and we can't hear voices here; it's sometimes difficult to express feelings and make them come through right on a keyboard.
Things can be taken wrongly and it's a precarious balance between words and meanings on a keyboard. We just never know.
It could be he has family issues or work problems or something that is in his life that also upset him. It is so hard to tell; after all, all of us are on keyboards in front of monitors and we aren't face-to-face. We can't see faces and we can't hear voices here; it's sometimes difficult to express feelings and make them come through right on a keyboard.
Things can be taken wrongly and it's a precarious balance between words and meanings on a keyboard. We just never know.
Laurie
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" we know who you are! "
One of the reasons, mentioned earlier, why I left a forum.
The moderator, who objected to my posting to another forum, abused his personal records and published my real name.
One of the reasons, mentioned earlier, why I left a forum.
The moderator, who objected to my posting to another forum, abused his personal records and published my real name.
boozercruiser
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Pookie
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That will never happen here. None of us know your real name and to be honest, we really don't care about your real name. We all like you for who you are. We appreciate you being here. Think about this: Do you really think my real name is Pookie?
Do you care? Of course not! You're safe here, just as I am.
Other forums can be nasty, but this one is precious. Relax and enjoy; no one will harm us here. No worries, honey. Be yourself and enjoy us. I do!
Pookie
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Well said Pookie.
Well said.
Where you ever a Councillor by any chance?
No sir, but I was a company commander over 378 men at one time. Sometimes things have to be looked at in a realistic way and I believe there are always variables in the way communications go back and forth. There are so many miscommunications which occur face-to-face; therefore there are many more possibilities of miscommunications here when we are all behind keyboards and monitors.
I found sitting down with my people and having an open conversation with them (meaning I shut the heck up) and letting them talk face-to-face and letting them deal with issues was most effective. Those guys worked it out and to be very honest, they made me proud....but THEY took everything to the company and made our company awesome, just by communicating their feelings, their differences, and their goals and their plans to make our company a cohesive unit that worked, and worked very well.
We don't have that luxury. As I indicated, we're behind keyboards and monitors. It's even hard for me to break through this barrier and try to speak of how I see things here.
But I think as I try harder to recognize I am behind such, I am realizing how much in one way I am limited but in another way, I can make my feelings known and my voice heard here.
I think we should leave the door open for Athos. And maybe we should keep an eye on all new members. Let's pay special attention to them; they may be going through issues and problems. And we should also keep an eye on each other; like buddies, we are here and there should be no burden too heavy to carry. I believe this forum is all about support and strength and help....and we all know we joined here because of that.
And I have all of you tight on, and thank you all for being here. Here's a song for all of you....
boozercruiser
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WOW Pookie, I am filling up here.
That was some very interesting and thought provoking post you made there.
I can only agree with all you have to say, particularly in respect of bold as above.
I reckon you should be made a Mod so you can enact your way of thinking into the running of the forum.
No disrespect meant to SeaBreeze or Matrix of course.
boozercruiser
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Linda
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I agree with you Bee, I just didn't comment on what you said. If someone decides they don't want my company I'm not going to ask them to stay. Like if my husband wanted to leave me, I'd help him pack his bags. I have nothing against Athos and I only went back and read 3 or 4 of his posts due to lack of time, but if he doesn't want my company I'm not going to ask him to stay. And I just say "my" because I don't want to speak for others here. If he decides to come back, I'll be glad to see him.
Laurie
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Funnily enough, in this case, my real name is actually Laurie!
I'm not paranoid about using it, I just think the choice should be mine!
Pookie
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I saw your post too, hon, but I got pooped out LOL! Wow...17 months and he still wanted to leave? Poor thing, he probably had issues going on and sometimes seeing jokes and lighthearted stuff can hurt.
I like the name Laurie. One of the greatest people in my life is named Laurie, and I smile when I see your name.
Me a mod? ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SeaBreeze will go on major antidepressents, Matrix will just give up and check into a "clinic," the place will be overrun with cats, dog owners would be banned instantly....no, wait, scratch that, I have a dog...uhh, you'll all have to kneel and worship the Golden Hippo before logging in, I will take all the credit for your funny jokes and brilliant posts, I'll run criminal background checks on all present and future members, and everyone will have to be completely dressed before posting.
Hey, I might make a good candidate for POTUS! Gaaaaaahhhhh. LOL.
I really enjoy all of you, so if I could, I wish you'd do me a favor. If something upsets you so much as to make you want to leave, talk to SeaBreeze first. I know I'm volunteering her, but let me explain why. When I first joined here, I felt like I was walking on eggshells with cleats on. I was leery about how to approach some things here, so I PM'ed her. I can't say anything about the content of those, but I can say she made me feel immediately more relaxed, and she very gently steered me in the direction I needed to go. Or you can talk to me, but I'll just yell at you and make you go back to posting. Either way...
Seriously, though, talk to someone before you decide to leave. People will miss you. Problems can always be at least talked about, and possibly solved. Say if I hurt someone here and didn't know it, how can I fix it if I don't know? There's nothing wrong with sending me a PM and saying, "Hey Pookie, this hurt...." and explain it. Don't let problems fester and build up. Nip it in the bud right then and there, and spare both of us a real mess later. Communication is vital to keep this a happy place.
Make sense?
I like the name Laurie. One of the greatest people in my life is named Laurie, and I smile when I see your name.
Me a mod? ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SeaBreeze will go on major antidepressents, Matrix will just give up and check into a "clinic," the place will be overrun with cats, dog owners would be banned instantly....no, wait, scratch that, I have a dog...uhh, you'll all have to kneel and worship the Golden Hippo before logging in, I will take all the credit for your funny jokes and brilliant posts, I'll run criminal background checks on all present and future members, and everyone will have to be completely dressed before posting.
Hey, I might make a good candidate for POTUS! Gaaaaaahhhhh. LOL.
I really enjoy all of you, so if I could, I wish you'd do me a favor. If something upsets you so much as to make you want to leave, talk to SeaBreeze first. I know I'm volunteering her, but let me explain why. When I first joined here, I felt like I was walking on eggshells with cleats on. I was leery about how to approach some things here, so I PM'ed her. I can't say anything about the content of those, but I can say she made me feel immediately more relaxed, and she very gently steered me in the direction I needed to go. Or you can talk to me, but I'll just yell at you and make you go back to posting. Either way...
Seriously, though, talk to someone before you decide to leave. People will miss you. Problems can always be at least talked about, and possibly solved. Say if I hurt someone here and didn't know it, how can I fix it if I don't know? There's nothing wrong with sending me a PM and saying, "Hey Pookie, this hurt...." and explain it. Don't let problems fester and build up. Nip it in the bud right then and there, and spare both of us a real mess later. Communication is vital to keep this a happy place.
Make sense?
hollydolly
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Oh dear now, that really was an abuse of power...was it the moderator, or the owner of the forum?..usually a moderator doesn't have access to your full name laurie, unless of course you've told them privately in a message ..
Laurie
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Yes, sorry. I should have made that more clear, it was the owner, who, of course, had all the registration records.
" I smile when I see your name."
What a lovely compliment to that person.
I remember saying to a bereaved family that I smiled when I read of their loved one's death, for that was the sort of person he was, you couldn't think of him without a smile of pleasure.
hollydolly
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Ah yes I suspected that was the case Laurie... absolutely unacceptable of course, and I've never heard of Admin doing that on any forum, but there's always a rotten apple somewhere, and anyone can set up a forum of course..but it takes a decent fair one along with the help of equally fair mods to keep a forum running smoothly for a long time.
boozercruiser
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Why not Ken?
I mean if someone somewhere on this forum is either missing Athos or are still concerned about him/her and fancy to post about it, so what?
In any case, I have found this thread very interesting indeed, particularly Pookies input, and it has provided lots of food for thought on why some people say 'Thats it, I am leaving'. And we don't want that now, do we?
It is only a little bitty thread, and someone doesn't have to click on it to read it now. Do they?
Best regards
Kenny
PS The next time I sneeze I am going to try and keep my eyes open!
boozercruiser
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YES Pookie, everything you say there makes sense, and thank you for taking the time to do that post.
Particularly what you say highlighted there really made me think.
All VERY good advice.
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