I am starting to talk to myself

Oldeagle66

Oldeagle66

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Hello
67 and live alone and the last living member of my family. I have few friends and not many I can trust. I don't use the social media because they are for younger people and often very rude. TV is getting a little to crazy for me and also geared to younger people. I find myself watching old tv and movies. Yes, I feel life speeding by and I just don't fit in anymore. I'm a proud man and never ask for anything. But I have no one to relate or talk to. I'm starting to talk to myself. I need people in my age group with shared life experiences to talk with.
 

Oldeagle...I too am an older guy. I still have my kids and grandkids that I can talk with, although they all live a long way away, except for one son and his family who is local. We don't talk often, but when we do it is for a good purpose and usually results in doing something together. My wife and I are free to travel, and we will go see our kids and grandkids once or twice a year. My son who lives local, sees us a few times a year
and is available most anytime we want to get together with him and his family.

I call my family members from time to time. Sometimes for a specific purpose (e.g. need a recipe, etc.) or sometimes just to say hi and catch up on any news.

I also see my son as I noted above. We frequently get together to help each other do a project, especially those that need more than one person to do...overall my wife and I feel we spend plenty of time with our families. We have three kids who all have 2 kids, so visiting them is great fun as we get to spend time with the grandchildren. Life is good for now..
 

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Oldeagle66 said:
Hello
67 and live alone and the last living member of my family. I have few friends and not many I can trust. I don't use the social media because they are for younger people and often very rude. TV is getting a little to crazy for me and also geared to younger people. I find myself watching old tv and movies. Yes, I feel life speeding by and I just don't fit in anymore. I'm a proud man and never ask for anything. But I have no one to relate or talk to. I'm starting to talk to myself. I need people in my age group with shared life experiences to talk with.
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you're absolutely in the right place here... you've found a whole bunch of us who are in a similar mindset and situation as you... so welcome..

...where do you live ?>. .a country will do if you don't want to be specific


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At least for urban seniors, there are ways for alone seniors to find others to talk to that are also seniors. Although a web board like SF can help fill some of that emptiness in one's life, it is not quite the same as actually using one's brain motor control speech muscles of the mouth, throat, and lips. Thus one might participate on boards like this and be an active reader, but after months to years, one may notice when one does talk to others that words, clarity, and effective loudness in one's speech does not come as easily. And that can affect others being comfortable in kind communicating with you, especially if they have to repeatedly ask you to repeat whatever.

A solution I found is to occasionally say once a week exercise those speech vocal muscles for say a half hour by simply reading from a book out loud while working to annunciate clearly. Doing so, neural plasticity building neural connections via repetition will help rebuild what had not been used and generally otherwise degenerates over time.

As human's age in senior years, our brain's ability to recall names of other people, objects, and things while speaking to others often becomes more difficult, a "tip of the tongue phenomenon". It isn't that we forget names, but rather our executive control brain pilot, has difficulty connecting between our speech brain areas and the brain language area we name things with. Thus we may forget someone's name and later recall it.

The best strategy is to web search for local senior activities in your region, that ought bring up various ways to meet others, including meetup dot com, community volunteering organizations, and church groups. In fact in some areas, there are seniors being trained to regularly talk via phone to other lonely ignored seniors including those in multiple languages.
 
Oldeagle66 said:
Hello
67 and live alone and the last living member of my family. I have few friends and not many I can trust. I don't use the social media because they are for younger people and often very rude. TV is getting a little to crazy for me and also geared to younger people. I find myself watching old tv and movies. Yes, I feel life speeding by and I just don't fit in anymore. I'm a proud man and never ask for anything. But I have no one to relate or talk to. I'm starting to talk to myself. I need people in my age group with shared life experiences to talk with.
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Welcome to the forum old eagle šŸ¦…. Talk to us. Thatā€™s why you joined. Right? We are great listeners. I am here for company, as are many others. Just jump into any conversation or start your own, like youā€™ve done . See ya around.
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Oldeagle66 said:
Live in Ohio but from Michigan.
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Well, we all have to deal with downturns of fortune over our lifetimes.
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One answer to talking to ourselves is to refine our singing. I find that it gets people to cross the street as I come along even more quickly. Growing out a crazy beard couldn't hurt either.

So welcome aboard. I'm sure you'll find empathy for all of that, along with other... useful advice here.
 
It helps to keep a little dog around and pretend your comments are directed at it.

Welcome aboard. There's always someone to talk to during the day and in the middle of the night the lovely British and Australian people are here!
 
Welcome from Atlanta.
As Bette Davis said "Old age ain't for sissies" We do the best we can and are happy to support one another. Join in and see. I look forward to your thoughts.
 
@Oldeagle66 - A lot of what you wrote resonates with me, too. This forum is the only form of social media I use, and I couldn't agree more about the crappy TV today. I don't watch it at all anymore. I have a dog and a parrot I talk to, but so far, neither of them answer back. But I keep trying. Maybe one day the parrot (who does try to talk) will actually say something I recognize.
 
Oldeagle66 said:
Live in Ohio but from Michigan.
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So whom do you root for in the annual game? Looks like things got pretty wild this year. ;)

Welcome to the forum, @Oldeagle66. I can identify with much of what you wrote in your introductory post, especially about social media and rudeness. I avoid almost all types of social media except for a handful of forums, and Reddit, which has a great Twilight Zone subreddit. (I try to avoid all the others because the average age and maturity level both seem to equate to about 12.)

Anyway, I bet you'll like it here. I joined in June (wow, was it really 6 months ago?) and enjoy it a lot.
 
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