I have a problem with Paxton's foster Dad....a lazy, misogynistic, stupid immature jerk.

[Murrmurr]

That is wonderful that they want you to stay in Paxton's life. If they are busy now they are going to be a lot more busy after they add three more children full-time into their household, but maybe that will work to your advantage because then they'll appreciate getting a break.

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking, too. They have a 13yr-old daughter, but I'm guessing they won't ask her to babysit all the time. Like, maybe on their date-nights, which I'm positive they have, but I've offered to keep the kids on occasional weekends, and when one or two have a doctor appointment and the others don't, and even during school holiday breaks when they still have to go to work but the daycare is closed.

Anyway, that's what I told their foster mom, and she told them. And she said they said that sounded great.

 

[Tish]

Their foster parents decided not to adopt, but there's another couple who want to. They're friends of the current foster parents, so they know Paxton and the twins. Melanie said they fell in love with the kids right away and they have a 13yr-old daughter who adores them.

I just can't do it, especially all 3 of them. CPS won't separate siblings unless they abuse each other, so it's Paxton and the twins, who are a boy and a girl. They need an active dad who'll get them into sports and ballet, or whatever, take them camping, hiking, and fishing and stuff, give them and their friends rides to places and go to teacher meetings and all that. That ain't me anymore, sadly.

I do not want them to sit around here watching me get gradually moved to a wheelchair within the next decade. It isn't fair to them to have to worry about my pain so we only walk so far and only play for so long before I have to go take some drugs and sit on my ass. Paxton understands. He'll even rub my back when he sees pain on my face. That isn't right. It isn't good. It's not what I want for him. They would resent it soon enough, I'm sure of that.

I know you are doing the best you can right now, and I am very happy that after the adoption you and Shell will still be in their lives.