I heard a coworker justify infidelity

[Brookswood]

I would like to add that cheaters can justify their actions very easily. They bend reality to fit their justification.

First: This is just a one time fling.
Second: The other person means nothing to me. I still love my spouse, not him/her.
Third: Nobody is actually being hurt. And my spouse is partially at fault anyway,
Fourth: I am hurting my spouse (and kids), but stopping will hurt me more.
Fifth: Being involved with another person is actually the right thing to do. We are truly in love. My spouse will get over his/her pain. The kids will be fine. Being with other-person is the good and moral thing to do.

 

[Nathan]

I heard a coworker justify infidelity by saying, "It's just that I do it because I'm a man," I told him that not all men were the same and he replied by making fun of me, saying that I lived in a fantasy world for believing that. What do you think?

It's had to imagine that a man actually said that, perhaps a 14 yr. old.

 

[David777]

I believe you teach yourself to be monogamous, in body and mind. For some reason women have always liked me so I had lots of opportunities, but when I was in a relationship and during my marriage I never messed with another woman, never. I certainly found other women attractive and appealing, but that's as far as I let it go, I didn't mentally lust after them, I didn't flirt or make sexual innuendo, I practiced self disapline.

It doesn't matter if you're male or female, we all find ourselves attracted to others, but committing infidelity is willful act of absolute disregard and disrespect toward your partner. There is no way it can be justified.

Well stated. I'm like that too.

But as a twentysomething, especially due to my military experience being around others found morals of many males abysmal. There are significant numbers of married men that given opportunity will cheat and numbers of single men will cheat even with other's wives. Being up to my neck in the world center for Counterculture, I went through a period where I wanted lots of women though never married women. As a small male attractive to females, I learned early on that a promiscuous attitude was a sure path to ending up dead due to jealous others.

 

[Jules]

I heard a coworker justify infidelity by saying, "It's just that I do it because I'm a man," I told him that not all men were the same and he replied by making fun of me, saying that I lived in a fantasy world for believing that. What do you think?

He’s a jerk. Trying to brag and doesn’t like it when you disagreed. If you’d said nothing, he would have thought you and everyone else was agreeing. I wouldn’t waste my time or trust him.