I just wonder about some Intro Posts....

Kaila

Kaila

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I'm curious what others here think are plausible reasons for the following.

I sometimes wonder why it is, that many new posters, post the once, and never come back,
to even read the replies, to their Intro, or to post anything, in that thread or any other.

Do they just often change their minds about joining?
Or are they not actual people, but some other Internet phenomena...
Or are there other common reasons?

They certainly receive lots of friendly welcomes, and understanding replies, to their initial posts.
 

Kaila said:
I'm curious what others here think are plausible reasons for the following.

I sometimes wonder why it is, that many new posters, post the once, and never come back,
to even read the replies, to their Intro, or to post anything, in that thread or any other.

Do they just often change their minds about joining?
Or are they not actual people, but some other Internet phenomena...
Or are there other common reasons?

They certainly receive lots of friendly welcomes, and understanding replies, to their initial posts.
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I think that sometimes, they're already members of other forums, and for one reason or another believe their forums might close, and are getting ready registered with another forum for when it does happen.

I've noticed this particularly on days where we get a whole load of people joining within minutes of each other...

In fact I asked a newbie the other day if she'd come from a forum that was closing and she said yes, the admin of her usual forum was unwell, so I believe people might be hoping to join a forum along with people they already know .. so that's my theory anyway..
 

There's one who just joined who is only 45 and I wondered why. Then he started talking about a property he has and wants to rent them out. Made me wonder if that is why he joined. Like the other guy who started asking us what we liked in cars and why, like he was doing a survey. No harm done, just talking here.

I, myself, lurked around and just read the posts before I ever joined, wanted to make sure I liked the forum and it's denizens. I still like them. šŸ˜» šŸ˜‰
 
I've posted on many forums since being online in the late 90's. Many are business related, some are hobby related, and some around a theme~like travel or politics. I've also done real time chat. Boards have kings and queens, trouble makers, trolls, egomaniacs, and every other kind of people imaginable.

I was part of a large current events forum that had members that often knew the latest news before the news media. You could always go there and find out what was going on. A few years ago, a younger group moved in and pushed others aside. They ignore everyone who had anything of substance to say. They also used the board to promote their extreme political views. Everyone with common sense soon left, as I did. Let them have their playground.

If I find a forum that I'm interested in, I lurk for a time, to see the dynamics of the board. I can't even tell you how many people break the rules and spend so much time in-fighting. What a huge waste of time. I consider my time valuable, as I'm sure you do.

I like that this board seems to let everyone have their say and others will respond to it. Everyone doesn't always agree, but they respect the poster's right to have a difference of opinion. When someone asks for advice on a subject, many different points of view are offered, depending on personal experience. There is a lot of wisdom and common sense on this forum. Who can't use more of THAT in this crazy mixed up world?
 
Oh, by the way, I never did an intro~due to some bad past experiences on other boards that were clannish. I just jumped in and joined in the conversation. I'm not good with hellos and goodbyes and be back later, when I need a sandwich. I lurk, then join, try a board out, and see if it fits me & vice versa. If so, I stay. If not, I go.
Maybe this place just isn't what some are looking for.
I noticed one day that there were 800+ people on the message board. Only about 20 were signed in. That's a whole lotta lurking!
I thought, "Wouldn't this forum be lively if more of those people took an active part in it?".
 
hollydolly said:
I think that sometimes, they're already members of other forums, and for one reason or another believe their forums might close, and are getting ready registered with another forum for when it does happen.

I've noticed this particularly on days where we get a whole load of people joining within minutes of each other...

In fact I asked a newbie the other day if she'd come from a forum that was closing and she said yes, the admin of her usual forum was unwell, so I believe people might be hoping to join a forum along with people they already know .. so that's my theory anyway..
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That happened here didn't it about time I joined, lots
of Australians came from a dead/dying forum there
I believe.

Mike.
 
Oh dear, I never did an intro. Just not my kind of thing. I checked out posts before I joined. This forum has quite a diverse population and I like reading some of the posts. It's not easy for me to make friends and my memory was never a great thing so forums are a great way for me to connect to other people without making a commitment that I may regret. Ok, that doesn't sound right but I know of no other way to get around getting close to someone and then having everything fall through. I just don't understand why someone would just lurk around. Why can't people just be nice. Am I nice (hee hee).
 
Gee, I never knew people did that! Anyway, I don't remember doing any fancy introduction but I have been here for some time. Sometimes I go away for some big reason (usually a trip) but I always come back. My idea is that keeping in touch with other people my age is pretty important. A good way to prevent dementia & those other baddies. I don't sit & play cards with senior, don't grumble about politics but I do enjoy discussing various topics. Sure beats watching the telly all day long. When I finish here I'm gonna pick up up ole' guitar & sing Hank Williams' "You Win Again" & then "Your Cheatin' Heart". It sort of my way of waking up. Cheers Everyone!
 
I wonder too about new registrations and Intro's and came to the conclusion that it is the vagaries of social media and in particular forums. Its not real life but we rub along with folk who we dont know from all over the globe and create images and persona about each one we chat to in the ether. Some we like some we dont and the old scenario of Ignoring those we dont and being Board and off line Buddies with those who ring our bells figuratively speaking. Ive gained some great Buddies on and off line forums Ive nelonged to and also bumped into awful folk...trolls and bullies and this is really awful.
I pop in snd out of here cis I feel comfy and welcome and wantedā˜ŗ
 
Gary O' said:
I can be guilty of that

If I drop a forum, I forage to fill that void
Even do an intro

Then change my mind
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Gary, I am guilty of that too, maybe I should lurk before joining...

Now here at SF, I found it completely accidentally, I was looking for something to deal with Canadian Taxes, and somehow I got here, fell in love with this place... love participating in almost everything...
 
IrisSenior said:
Oh dear, I never did an intro. Just not my kind of thing. I checked out posts before I joined. This forum has quite a diverse population and I like reading some of the posts. It's not easy for me to make friends and my memory was never a great thing so forums are a great way for me to connect to other people without making a commitment that I may regret. Ok, that doesn't sound right but I know of no other way to get around getting close to someone and then having everything fall through. I just don't understand why someone would just lurk around. Why can't people just be nice. Am I nice (hee hee).
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You are nice and we're glad you're here.
 
Duster said:
Oh, by the way, I never did an intro~due to some bad past experiences on other boards that were clannish. I just jumped in and joined in the conversation. I'm not good with hellos and goodbyes and be back later, when I need a sandwich. I lurk, then join, try a board out, and see if it fits me & vice versa. If so, I stay. If not, I go.
Maybe this place just isn't what some are looking for.
I noticed one day that there were 800+ people on the message board. Only about 20 were signed in. That's a whole lotta lurking!
I thought, "Wouldn't this forum be lively if more of those people took an active part in it?".
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Intro or not, happy to have you.
 
I've joined a few forums after lurking a while, but then not stayed because the site/people/admin just wasn't what I thought it was. When you're new to a site, it usually takes a bit to really feel the connection, that vibe that makes you comfortable and like you fit in. It does for me anyway. I can't get that sense by just lurking, it's only after I've joined and interacted a bit that I can know.

So I interact a while and then either stay or go. Maybe some of those other folks are similar. Maybe they don't realize they can lurk before they register, so they go through the full registration and posting process in order to try us out.
 
People should be free to participate as they wish. We are all different. You can't hold a gun to someone's head to fill out a profile.
 

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