I like being single.

A great deal of people are motivated by their own feelings, wants, and desires. They'll just keep going after what they want without considering how their words and actions affect others. To them, the most important thing is doing whatever it takes to achieve what they desire, by any means. If you give in to it, you're in for a world of hurt, and that's precisely what happened to me. It makes it very difficult to open up and trust anyone because it always comes back to bite me in the end.

I've said many times on the forum that I'd like to find love again, but at this point, I'm done with any sweet-talking men. They only bring trouble and heartache. I'd rather be single, live alone, and get a dog. Woof! 🐶
 

Our youngest son is in his mid 30's and has never been married. I find it odd how many people ask if he is dating anyone seriously. I tell them he's having the time of his life. Being single might run in the family, I had an uncle that never married and another aunt that was only married a couple years and then single again for the rest of her life.
 
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fuzzybuddy said:
I like being single. People have always told me I was "independent". I'm not sure if that's good or bad. Yeah, it was nice having to come home to someone, but it wasn't always so nice. It's also nice to come home, and it's just me. As a single, I can do whatever I want whenever I want. If I want to vacuum the carpet at 3:47 AM, there's nobody all bent out of shape at me for doing that. I don't think I "give up" anything being single. I'm happy as I am. I like being single.
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Well said, I am glad that you are happy with your own company. I have never been single, growing up with siblings there has always been people around me. Learning to dance as a young teenager meant that I was always around people. Then I met the lady, married within a year of meeting.

She is beautiful both inside and out, and when she smiles at me I feel alive. I am truly blessed to have a wife who loves me and that I love so much in return. My wife is very talented, she makes most of our clothes, the soft furnishings, drapes and curtains around the house. She's a wonderful cook and for all her talents, rather than doing any of them for a living, she did something that would help many in times of distress. Retired now, but her working life was spent as a paramedic in the ambulance service.

My maternal grandparents were married for seventy-five years. They passed within a couple of months of one another. We hope to emulate them.
 

No, I do not like it, not my choice. I am still in shock after my husband's death and it has been along time. The first time I ever lived alone was at the age of 60. I had my son here, his girlfriend and child. Then my Mom joined us. So it had been a full house.

Now, just me and the 3 dogs. My big social outlet was our longest lifetime friend. He made sure I got out of the house, helped me with any problem. He had never married or had children. We spent a lot of time together, he was like my brother. I had known him from the age of seven. He passed at the beginning of the covid pandemic of a heart attack. He left his estate to my son.

Now, I am truly alone. Yes, I have my son and his family if I need help but I do not like to bother them for everyday stuff. This is their time to build their life, make their memories. I had it all, enjoyed every moment, good and bad, It was never a choice for me, I knew there would be no one else after my husband, I am content .
 
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No, I do not like it, not my choice. I am still in shock after my husband's death and it has been along time. The first time I ever lived alone was at the age of 60. I had my son here, his girlfriend and child. Then my Mom joined us. So it had been a full house.

Now, just me and the 3 dogs. My big social outlet was our longest lifetime friend. He made sure I got out of the house, helped me with any problem. He had never married or had children. We spent a lot of time together, he was like my brother. I had known him from the age of seven. He passed at the beginning of the covid pandemic of a heart attack. He left his estate to my son.

Now, I am truly alone. Yes, I have my son and his family if I need help but I do not like to bother them for everyday stuff. This is their time to build their life, make their memories. I had it all, enjoyed every moment, good and bad, It was never a choice for me, I knew there would be no one else after my husband, I am content .
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There is a difference between living alone, and being alone, I think.

I like living alone. I love the freedom. I love the space. I love having my own hours (bit of a night owl).

I do sometimes feel sad though about being alone. I used to meet regularly with a good friend of mine, who was the same age. But he got married for the first time aged 60, and he seems to want to be left in his new relationship, which isn't too near to me anyway. Good for him!!

But sometimes some social interaction is good. Just being in the same space as someone else, you know.

Keep in mind my personal situation. I have someone else here now, and I don't think I've ever felt so lonely.
 
Quote by Audrey Hepburn: “I don't want to be alone, I want to be left alone.”

Line from some lyrics I wrote in another lifetime, "I am so alone with you".

Now I live alone and am happier than I have ever been.
 
Been alone more than 20 years. First relationship's end just about did me in. Second one was ended by betrayal, but it still went hard.

Cast about, found what I hoped might be the final one but that wasn't what she was after. Once that was made clear to me I broke it off, gutted through the pain. 15 years later, I haven't found anything close. Perhaps I was just not bringing enough to the table to be worthy.

I no longer actively seek a close personal relationship. Not because I wouldn't want one, but I worry that I might not be flexible enough any more to adjust.
 
I cannot imagine having someone else living with me in my house....I like being on my own without needing to adjust to the other person's agenda.
For a few years I shared house key privileges with a lady who also preferred living alone.......we felt comfortable letting ourselves into the other one's home. But that's over with now.
That's as close as I'll ever get to living with someone and it might not ever happen again. I'm OK with that.
 
I didn't like being single when I was forty odd years ago. But if I outlive my wife I won't be looking to remarry. Most people we know who lose a mate don't look to remarry, not at our ages. I wouldn't expect to become a hermit but I don't think I want live with anyone else 24/7. My wife and I coexist very comfortably, each with plenty we like to do on our own. I wouldn't want to get together with anyone who might expect to do everything in tandem. Why not just live alone and get together with friends when we both want to?
 
I just decided to date after being widowed rather young, and am not impressed with the dating scene. It took me while to get to this place and it's discouraging. Maybe it's me. I went on a dating app as a trial and didn't see anyone I would want to date. I found one fellow who lives several states away. We are friends. I might wind up being alone, sadly.
 
birdy said:
I found one fellow who lives several states away.
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I tried that a long while back, after my 2nd relationship had been over a few years. Didn't find the right person locally, and then ranged further. Met one several states away, spent 3 days there. We got along well but her mother was a kind of Mammy Yokum character. Came home and soon got a call. She was ready to pack, come here, and move in and transfer jobs. That pretty much scared me off. Who does that?

Er, that wasn't you was it @birdy? :ROFLMAO:
 
dilettante said:
I tried that a long while back, after my 2nd relationship had been over a few years. Didn't find the right person locally, and then ranged further. Met one several states away, spent 3 days there. We got along well but her mother was a kind of Mammy Yokum character. Came home and soon got a call. She was ready to pack, come here, and move in and transfer jobs. That pretty much scared me off. Who does that?

Er, that wasn't you was it @birdy? :ROFLMAO:
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who is Mammy Yokum ?:unsure:
 
dilettante said:
I tried that a long while back, after my 2nd relationship had been over a few years. Didn't find the right person locally, and then ranged further. Met one several states away, spent 3 days there. We got along well but her mother was a kind of Mammy Yokum character. Came home and soon got a call. She was ready to pack, come here, and move in and transfer jobs. That pretty much scared me off. Who does that?

Er, that wasn't you was it @birdy? :ROFLMAO:
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Better watch out dilettante. Michigan isn't too far from me, haha. Beware!
 
Being married 3 times I haven’t spent much time alone until this last divorce. Now it’s been almost 3 years and I can’t imagine having someone live with me.

I wouldn’t mind a compatible relationship but we would need our own houses. I am not willing to join a dating site so would need to meet someone naturally. I doubt that will happen. I have many friends and my kids so I’m not lonely.
 
Surprisingly, it can be done. I was stunned when I met someone who married a guy from Scotland. They kept their homes in the US and Scotland. That's an extreme example but it worked. They used a cruise ship as their middle ground quite often. And of course, visits.
 

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