Leann
Traveler
Thank you, SeaBreeze, I think you may have hit the nail on the head. I do care about him and I feel sorry for him. I came to realize that this can't form the basis of a romantic relationship, though.
I Think I'm Falling Out of Love
- Thread starter Leann
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Thank you, SeaBreeze, I think you may have hit the nail on the head. I do care about him and I feel sorry for him. I came to realize that this can't form the basis of a romantic relationship, though.
Lara
Friend of the Arts
- Location
- Mid-Atlantic Coast
There are different kinds of "Love". The one I think you have is "brotherly love" mixed with a little "motherly love". You have a history since you were kids...thus the feeling of brotherly love. He needs a motherly-someone to take care of him and his things. Someone to motivate him which might be impossible since you've tried and he's not doing his part.
He seems like a nice guy but has symptoms of clinical depression it seems to me. Typical as we get older apparently because every time I visit my doctor for an annual physical the first thing she asks me is if I'm depressed. No. Maybe that's a requirement to ask from Medicare. Next question is if I've fallen in the last few months. No (except when I slipped on a log under a covering of fall leaves while I was raking and blowing leaves off 1/2 acre...and again when I slipped on pine needles on the embankment trying to remove something halfway down...not a balance problem...stupidity problem, yes lol).
It may be old school now but Prozac was all the rage a decade or two ago. I never hear about it anymore. But it really motivated people to get out of their rut. Maybe like other meds it was abused or over prescribed and thus thrown out.
I don't know how old you are or how lonely you may have become, if you're an older senior, but I saw a recent movie with Jane Fonda and Robert Redford called "Our Souls at Night". Some people get rather creative with their relationships...like companions. It doesn't have to be about sex or romantic love or marriage...more about friendship. But with that said, I would still keep your distance and not let him use you to fix his house or mother him. That's not what you need.
PS. I didn't see the end of the movie because I got bored lol.
He seems like a nice guy but has symptoms of clinical depression it seems to me. Typical as we get older apparently because every time I visit my doctor for an annual physical the first thing she asks me is if I'm depressed. No. Maybe that's a requirement to ask from Medicare. Next question is if I've fallen in the last few months. No (except when I slipped on a log under a covering of fall leaves while I was raking and blowing leaves off 1/2 acre...and again when I slipped on pine needles on the embankment trying to remove something halfway down...not a balance problem...stupidity problem, yes lol).
It may be old school now but Prozac was all the rage a decade or two ago. I never hear about it anymore. But it really motivated people to get out of their rut. Maybe like other meds it was abused or over prescribed and thus thrown out.
I don't know how old you are or how lonely you may have become, if you're an older senior, but I saw a recent movie with Jane Fonda and Robert Redford called "Our Souls at Night". Some people get rather creative with their relationships...like companions. It doesn't have to be about sex or romantic love or marriage...more about friendship. But with that said, I would still keep your distance and not let him use you to fix his house or mother him. That's not what you need.
PS. I didn't see the end of the movie because I got bored lol.
Lara, I really liked your post. And I like Jane Fonda and Robert Rdfdord and the way you described the movie, and so i'm going to make a point of watching it, even though it got you bored.
. Thanks, Lara.
Ronni
Well-known Member
- Location
- Nashville TN
I saw the movie. It was cute. The ending was not what I expected.
This is almost word for word what Ed would say about how his home got to be the mess it was. However even after I sorted and organized and cleaned and purged in each room of his house, at his request, he STILL didn't keep up what I did. He would just pile stuff up again in those same rooms till I came over and took care of it. I thought perhaps he just let it go because he knew I'd deal with it when I came over. But then after we stopped being a couple, we'd still get together as friends from time to time. I was over at his house a number of times, and by the last time I was there it had reverted almost completely back to the messy, cluttered and unorganized state it was when I first started helping him sort through his stuff.
So I call BS on the "I don't know where to start/I'm overwhelmed/it's too much" excuse.
This is almost word for word what Ed would say about how his home got to be the mess it was. However even after I sorted and organized and cleaned and purged in each room of his house, at his request, he STILL didn't keep up what I did. He would just pile stuff up again in those same rooms till I came over and took care of it. I thought perhaps he just let it go because he knew I'd deal with it when I came over. But then after we stopped being a couple, we'd still get together as friends from time to time. I was over at his house a number of times, and by the last time I was there it had reverted almost completely back to the messy, cluttered and unorganized state it was when I first started helping him sort through his stuff.
So I call BS on the "I don't know where to start/I'm overwhelmed/it's too much" excuse.