Peridot
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- Pennsylvania
Hello! Finally found a forum for seniors that I can relate to! I would really like to hear your views or suggestions on a dilemma I'm having. I hate our city, neighborhood, neighbors, house, etc. I bought our house 16 yrs ago when I was single. Met my husband shortly after that & have been married 5 years.
The neighborhood has changed; we have party people on one side of us who aren't taking care of their house so it's a mess, Section 8 neighbors on the other side who are quiet but don't take care of the property, Section 8 house across the street too and there have been times where the police have been called on them. I get weeds growing on our property from both sides so I have to take care of that.
We've put a lot of money into our house and it still needs a lot of work, around $25k for new kitchen, bath, driveway, hardwood floors refinished. I'm 62, hubby is 58.
There's a wonderful over 55 gated community, surrounded by woods, located in a nearby boro that has 450 manufactured homes, some with garages/carports that I've fallen in love with and recently took a tour of homes for sale. There are so many activities scheduled, a huge community center, absolutely beautiful. They don't have basements but that's ok, I want everything on one floor.
The management co. requires a criminal background check, all home owners must take care of their property so no issues there. I met some of the neighbors while touring and some are younger than me, all very very nice. I've talked to people who live there and they love it.
Here's the problem, my husband won't move there! I get every excuse you can think of! He has no place to put his gun safe, I tell him he can have the whole garage for his guns if he wants. He doesn't want to live with 'old' people. He doesn't want to live in a trailer. The square footage of the houses is the same as my house so there's plenty of room. He said he wants to stay where we are or move to another county.
At my age, I don't want to move far from family, travel far to work or start over again with a 30 yr mortgage. We've put so much money into our house and will never get that money out of it. I'm been trying to get him to move for years! He said if I move there, he'd buy the house from me and stay there, or move to an apartment. This is a big issue!
Every time something happens in the neighborhood, I say we're moving I hate it here. He says fine you move out, I'll stay here. Nothing that happens seems to phase him. I'm so sorry for such a long post, but I really some advice! TIA
The neighborhood has changed; we have party people on one side of us who aren't taking care of their house so it's a mess, Section 8 neighbors on the other side who are quiet but don't take care of the property, Section 8 house across the street too and there have been times where the police have been called on them. I get weeds growing on our property from both sides so I have to take care of that.
We've put a lot of money into our house and it still needs a lot of work, around $25k for new kitchen, bath, driveway, hardwood floors refinished. I'm 62, hubby is 58.
There's a wonderful over 55 gated community, surrounded by woods, located in a nearby boro that has 450 manufactured homes, some with garages/carports that I've fallen in love with and recently took a tour of homes for sale. There are so many activities scheduled, a huge community center, absolutely beautiful. They don't have basements but that's ok, I want everything on one floor.
The management co. requires a criminal background check, all home owners must take care of their property so no issues there. I met some of the neighbors while touring and some are younger than me, all very very nice. I've talked to people who live there and they love it.
Here's the problem, my husband won't move there! I get every excuse you can think of! He has no place to put his gun safe, I tell him he can have the whole garage for his guns if he wants. He doesn't want to live with 'old' people. He doesn't want to live in a trailer. The square footage of the houses is the same as my house so there's plenty of room. He said he wants to stay where we are or move to another county.
At my age, I don't want to move far from family, travel far to work or start over again with a 30 yr mortgage. We've put so much money into our house and will never get that money out of it. I'm been trying to get him to move for years! He said if I move there, he'd buy the house from me and stay there, or move to an apartment. This is a big issue!
Every time something happens in the neighborhood, I say we're moving I hate it here. He says fine you move out, I'll stay here. Nothing that happens seems to phase him. I'm so sorry for such a long post, but I really some advice! TIA