If I had a do over, I would have.....

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Ladybj

Live, Laugh and Love
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Married my Soul Mate. However we both were so young when we met. Long story short. We lost contact for years but reconnected. I am married he is divorced but in a relationship. We keep in touch..every now and then. He shared with me that we will always have a bond that cannot be broken not even by us. I sooooo agree. He shared with me that when we spent time together, it was so easy...not hard at all. We could be ourselves.. we felt FREE. I agree. He shared with me I can always call him anytime I need to talk or need a smile. PRICELESS!!!
 

Duster said:
I would have traveled more when I was younger. We did a lot of RVing and found a way to travel around the country, but I always wanted to go to Europe. Now that I can afford to and have the time, I no longer have the stamina to travel like that.
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I don't really have a bucket list... I ran out of space when I made the list. I would have to live to the age of 200 to accomplish it all..LOL. But Traveling is on my Golden List. Hubby is not a traveler so I am praying for a traveling partner. āœˆšŸš¢
 
Catlady said:
On the other hand, if you had not married your first wife you would not appreciate your forever wife as much as you do.
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Maybe, but I would have been able to skip all those years that were at best acceptable and at worst a just complete waste of time. Being betrayed by unfaithfulness, more than once, hurt me to my very core.
 
TravelinMan said:
Maybe, but I would have been able to skip all those years that were at best acceptable and at worst a just complete waste of time. Being betrayed by unfaithfulness, more than once, hurt me to my very core.
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I hear you, I divorced MY serial cheater after only 5 years, never regretted it. I never found a good one, like you did.
 
Gemma said:
Just curious @Ladybj...what does your husband feel about you reconnecting with an old flame and keeping in contact?
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It's very innocent.. we both live in different States and do not see each other. We have much respect for each other..no lines will be crossed. I am very close to his mother, I call her mom and she consider me her daughter. Not sure how my hubby will feel about it. He can trust me and I trust myself. If you knew my story, you would understand. But as I stated, no lines crossed and will not be as long as I am married,
 
Duster said:
I would have traveled more when I was younger. We did a lot of RVing and found a way to travel around the country, but I always wanted to go to Europe. Now that I can afford to and have the time, I no longer have the stamina to travel like that.
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How about a river cruise on the Danube? Once on the ship, you don't have to do much, and you can see half of Europe from the ship, or you can get off when you're up to it to sightsee.
https://www.tourradar.com/v/river-danube
 
TravelinMan said:
Maybe, but I would have been able to skip all those years that were at best acceptable and at worst a just complete waste of time. Being betrayed by unfaithfulness, more than once, hurt me to my very core.
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It may have molded you into really appreciating your second wife. Life has a way of giving us what we need, when we need it and appreciate it. It is good your first wife did not close your heart to Love again.. So many people get hurt and close their heart. I applaud you.. My heart will always be open to LOVE!!!
 
This is hard because although I've made plenty of mistakes in life, knowing myself, I wouldn't recommend a do over. Unlike most, I don't see life the way others do in endless cycles of years. To me it's always been one long road and I never know how far along the journey I am because it's different from everyone else's interpretation. So I can tell myself I'm still just starting out even at my age.

In college, I knew a guy who worked in one of the campus libraries. He received his doctorate from my university when he was 97 years old. I always felt akin to this. Maybe a do over isn't for everyone?
 
I have no regrets in my life. All my challenges, pain, hurt, love, good times, hard roads, smooth sailing and still a work in progress has led me to where I am now in my life.. I have no complaints. Not perfect but very blessed. I am very grateful for a place to live, wonderful friends, having found this site having virtual friends, in my right mind, body is still mobile regardless of some stiffness.. I am blessed as to where I am in my life. Not every day are roses but I am grateful when roses show up and they do.
 
Broken record time: ....bought 1000 shares of DELL at $7/share. After splits, I would have made over a million two, minus taxes. Michael was a kid, hawking the shares around Austin.

Other than that, I have few regrets. I look at where I am, look at what I've accomplished, and feel I've had a life well-lived. I'm happy being me!
 
treeguy64 said:
Broken record time: ....bought 1000 shares of DELL at $7/share. After splits, I would have made over a million two, minus taxes. Michael was a kid, hawking the shares around Austin.

Other than that, I have few regrets. I look at where I am, look at what I've accomplished, and feel I've had a life well-lived. I'm happy being me!
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I wish I had bought stock in Amazon... Whewwwww!!!
 
Ladybj said:
I have no regrets in my life. All my challenges, pain, hurt, love, good times, hard roads, smooth sailing and still a work in progress has led me to where I am now in my life.. I have no complaints. Not perfect but very blessed. I am very grateful for a place to live, wonderful friends, having found this site having virtual friends, in my right mind, body is still mobile regardless of some stiffness.. I am blessed as to where I am in my life. Not every day are roses but I am grateful when roses show up and they do.
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I feel what you've written, above, does not jibe with what you wrote in a thread that was pulled by our moderator. Also, your friend you're so attuned to seems like someone with whom you could live a much more fulfilled life.
I know folks are certainly free to spin their lives any way they choose, online, but some of us remember what folks wrote in previous threads, and get the feeling that some posters are just not being truthful for whatever reasons there may be. Oh well.....
 
Catlady said:
How about a river cruise on the Danube? Once on the ship, you don't have to do much, and you can see half of Europe from the ship, or you can get off when you're up to it to sightsee.
https://www.tourradar.com/v/river-danube
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Thanks for posting that Catlady! Some of those shorter ones look tempting. My husband and I once took a 14 day cruise and decided that two weeks staying being confined to a large closet was too much for us to bear. Someone almost ended up in the brig. We agreed~never again for that length of time.
 
treeguy64 said:
I feel what you've written, above, does not jibe with what you wrote in a thread that was pulled by our moderator. Also, your friend you're so attuned to seems like someone with whom you could live a much more fulfilled life.
I know folks are certainly free to spin their lives any way they choose, online, but some of us remember what folks wrote in previous threads, and get the feeling that some posters are just not being truthful for whatever reasons there may be. Oh well.....
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Not sure how you determined I am not being truthful from the post I wrote that was pulled from the moderator... from my post saying I have no regrets and I have a blessed life. That is a very true statement regardless of the issue I was having with my hubby... I am very blessed and grateful. The post that was pulled I was expressing something that I was going through and was looking for feedback from those older than me. Hubby and I had a good serious talk and are on the right track. I love him dearly and is having a fulfilled life with him..(no marriage is perfect..we have challenges) married 35 years and counting. As for my friend, we rarely talk and never see each other. I am where I need to be and want to be in life and so is he. As my thread stated, If I had a do over, and things were different in our life, I would have married my friend but it was not meant to be. And I have no regrets in marrying my hubby..he's a good man.
 

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