If snoring is an issue at bedtime, a spouse might prefer to sleep in another room.

LadyEmeraude

LadyEmeraude

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Of course, it can put a strain on some relationships...

There are medical conditions that contribute to snoring as we know also...
 

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About 4 years back, don't know why I began snoring but I did. Snoring was the reason for sleeping in the other bedroom so now we both get a good night sleep. Other bedroom activity prior to sleep still works out good;)
 

First week we were married, Tried sleeping together. Didn't go well and I scared the (blank) out of her. Always slept separately since. 50 years and the occasional demon attack still worries me. Doesn't mean we weren't in love, quite the opposite. I just didn't want to hurt her. Now that I need a chair to sleep, we can at least sleep in the same room. Providing of course that the fur babies give up some of the chair space and bed. ;)
 
There are indeed medical issues that should be considered. As 'unromantic', 'unsexy' as you or partner using a CPAP might be it beats one of you waking up to other dead. The TV show Mike & Molly impressed me by dealing honestly with the subject. And comedian Jo Koy does a funny but accurate bit about it in his latest Netflix special. Apparently he's had issues since 1989, when he was barely 18--his mom recorded the noises he was making struggling to breath. Not sure how long he's been on CPAP but he talks/jokes about the impact on his love life.

Then there are people who just have trouble sleeping with another. One of my sisters was like that. She used hubby's snoring and how heavy he slept (on strong meds)--if he threw an arm over her, it was extremely difficult (she's always been thin and not too strong) to get out from under. Also childhood trauma triggered at times--so it was better for both to sleep separate, especially he went to bed and got up earlier and she was a light sleeper.
 
DH wasn't a loud snorer, but I couldn't get to sleep because of it. I also noticed he seemed to stop breathing now, and then I got industrial ear plugs. No more being awake due to his soft snores. Then the doctor sent a referral to a breathing therapist. They found he was stopping breathing several times a night. So we got the C-Pap machine, and he sleeps better than ever. I still wear the ear plugs from time o time because sometimes the C-Pap makes noise that keeps me awake, or a kitten is crying at the door.
 
My hubby and I both snore loudly. Rather than hating each other for disrupting our sleep, we sleep in separate bedrooms at home.

When we travel, we typically buy accommodations that have a separate bedroom and a living room with a pull-out couch so we can sleep separately. He is a much more sound sleeper than I am, so when he starts snoring I immediately wake up and can't go back to sleep.

We recently stayed with friends who had a 3 bedroom, 3 bath house and after the first night I moved to another bedroom. I just admitted to them that I can't get a good night's sleep when we are in the same room.

We used to rent a cabin in Blue Ridge, GA with the entire family. One night he slept in the walk-in closet. :ROFLMAO:
 
So I have to tell the truth, my name is Mrs. Freight Train, Mr. Freight Train did acquire his gift until our son was born. Then I had Mr. Freight Train and a tiny little Mr. Colic. Mr. Sleep, I don't that guy he did not come around for along time.

Fast forward, husband met Mr. Cancer, he moved in without invitation. He came with a loud oxygen concentrator that wanted to compete with the famous Mr. Freight Train. He asked his friend Mr. Lymphadema to come to the party. So, I had to learn about him. He required a special massage every night. He liked to be tucked in for the night. all kinds of special wrapping from shoulder to hand. I turned Mr. Freight Train's arm into a large log type battering ram. Mr. Sleep ran screaming from the house, he was not strong enough to battle with the others who came into the house.

Poor little Mr. Colic found that he had learned to sleep since his time as a baby. Then Mr. Cancer, who had done so much damage in our happy home decided to attack the poor little Mr. Colic. Took that poor little boy to terrors of every kind while he slept.

There we were, fighting new fiends, Mr. Trauma, Mr. Terror and that very intense guy, dressed in black. It was a very scary life.

That scary intense guy, dressed in black finally burst his way into what was once a happy, joyful house and destroyed it all. We, little Mr. Colic and I have done our best to rebuild but it remains a work in progress.......
 
I found a wonderful pillow that helps with snoring. Hold it over his face for several minutes and he stops snoring...LOL. No, really, I'm tempted.

If I can get to sleep first (which is extremely rare as he goes to bed at 9:30 faithfully and I'm a night owl), I can sleep through the snoring. But try to fall asleep when he's snoring? Very hard to do. So I sleep a lot in the guestroom.

I snore, too, but for some reason my snoring doesn't wake him up. He has "night terrors" occasionally, too, and believe me, that's no fun to be woken up by.

My late husband and I slept apart for the last 10 years he was alive. He snored like a buzzsaw. If I did manage to fall asleep and start snoring myself, he'd poke me and say, "You're snoring". If I hadn't loved him so much, I would have smothered him one night. Thus, the separate rooms. We managed to get by with sleeping in the same room on vacations; I don't know how, but we did. I think it was because he didn't sleep well outside his own bed, so he didn't sleep soundly and didn't snore as much.

As a kid, I would snicker at the fact that neither set of my grandparents slept in the same room. I just couldn't understand why married couples would sleep apart. Now I know..... That and the fact that my maternal grandparents didn't really like each other THAT much.

I have a set of old etiquette books, published in the late 1800's, called "What Every Young Wife Should Know". Very, very Victorian. On the subject of separate bedrooms, which the book highly approves of, comes the advice (and I will quote exactly here): "Separate bedrooms helps to avoid the familiarity, which even in the best of marriages, breeds contempt". Contempt, no less. There is however, no mention of snoring; just contempt. Though I guess snoring could lead to contempt....maybe homicidal rage or uncontrollable screaming.
 
Whenever someone mentions snoring, I think of an old girlfriend's mother, who snored. It was in the summer, with the windows open, as soon as you turned onto her street, you could hear her snoring away. You'd never think a human could make that kind of loud noise. I don't think her husband actually ever slept in the same room as her. The fact that I remember her snoring almost 60 years ago kind of tells you about how loud it was,
 

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