If someone was sad, what would you do to cheer them up?

It depends why they are sad. if they are grieving I would let them know I'm there for them and to call if they need my help.
If its because they need a break from everyday stress I might have them come for dinner or suggest going to a movie or shopping.
Maybe they are sick, I'd get them a good book to read to pass the time while they recover
If they are lonesome I'd get a group of friends over and talk the night away.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
It depends why they are sad. if they are grieving I would let them know I'm there for them and to call if they need my help.
If its because they need a break from everyday stress I might have them come for dinner or suggest going to a movie or shopping.
Maybe they are sick, I'd get them a good book to read to pass the time while they recover
If they are lonesome I'd get a group of friends over and talk the night away.
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Pretty much same thing i planned on responding.

Sometimes we need to feel what we feel before we can even begin to feel better. Suppressing emotions is like walking on a water bed: What you push down in one place tends to pop up elsewhere, often in unexpected ways at worst possible times and places.

Sometimes people just need someone to sit with them, bear witness to their pain.

But if someone told me they needed cheering up, i'd make suggestions based on my knowledge of them: Activities, movies, a walk, time with dogs or cats.
 
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I would sit and listen to them. A lot of times, I've found, others get tired of hearing the stories, and they need to talk about it.

If they have depression, in my experience, nothing will cheer them up.

If they are sad because a celebrity died (which I don't understand), I will make sure it is taken seriously. In my family, Elvis died, and my sister was extremely grief-stricken. The whole family gathered around to be supportive of her. My father even called my mother (they were divorced and hated each other) to ask how to handle it. Which is good, because he too didn't understand how people can be so grief-stricken when someone they don't know dies. But that shouldn't stop anyone from being compassionate.

If the person is generally sad a lot of the time, I notice and spend time with them, mostly talking about them. There was an old lady at t he food bank who was sad. I know why. No one talked to her because she smelled so bad. She would bring her tiny dog in with her. So I went over and we talked about her dog. She told me about her physical ailments. Of course I didn't mention anything about how she smelled. But I figured out that it was a terribly hard thing for her to take a shower or bath because her arthritis was so bad, in addition to other ailments. She did not want anyone to help her do anything. I offered to come to her house and help out with things, but she refused, in a very nice way.

The people at the food bank were regulars and we all knew each other very well because we had to waiit for hours and get there an 1.5 early or be there all day.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
It depends why they are sad. if they are grieving I would let them know I'm there for them and to call if they need my help.
If its because they need a break from everyday stress I might have them come for dinner or suggest going to a movie or shopping.
Maybe they are sick, I'd get them a good book to read to pass the time while they recover
If they are lonesome I'd get a group of friends over and talk the night away.
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That's basically what I would have said.. but you said it first :)
 
This may not be kind words, or a soft bunny, but it works. Cash. People love getting cash. And we're not talking big bucks, either. A $10, or $20 works. It temporarily gets them to satisfy a minor pleasure, and gets their mind off things.
 
Tell them a good joke. Then show them a picture of me...if that wouldn't make them laugh, then nothing would...lol.
 
My dad would say "suck it up buttercup, it's a long way form the heart". Of course this was generally for physical injury. Not sure emotional distress was even on the menu, but then that generation was taught to hide those feelings, sometimes to their own detriment. Mike
 
If one is sad about something, nothing , nobody helps.
You can commiserate with a sad person and that may help with the sad feeling for a while
but it is entirely up to individual to conquer their sadness and move on.
 

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