If you were 80+, would you get married?

well i've been married and divorced twice. i am difficult to live with. i also don't have the energy to worry about someone else's needs when i can barely meet my own. i have a routine and a schedule and i don't think i could stand having to be in the house 24/7 with someone up my ahole all day every day again.
 
People get married for a reason. Young people get married because they have the sexual hormones that make them need to breed and fall in love. People also get in marriage because of money, status, power...etc. What's your reason to get married at the age of 80? companionship? Money?
 
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People who have reached their 80s and decide to marry, I would think it is for companionship more than anything else. They were born in an era when living together without marriage vows, was very much against society's rules of acceptance. Hence, it carries into their golden years.

I still feel that it isn't necessary to wed if you meet someone with whom you'd like to live with. But, one who needs her own space, even that wouldn't appeal to me.

I have a couple of male neighbors with whom I am close. We go out, spend a lot of time together, but at the end of the day, I am in my own apartment. I presume the same applies to them. ;)
 
Fritz said:
well i've been married and divorced twice. i am difficult to live with. i also don't have the energy to worry about someone else's needs when i can barely meet my own. i have a routine and a schedule and i don't think i could stand having to be in the house 24/7 with someone up my ahole all day every day again.
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Amen!

If someone showed interest in me, I would assume that they were looking for a nurse with a purse. 😉🤭😂
 
GoodEnuff said:
Interesting that almost all of the responses were in the negative.
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Yeah, I agree.

My grandmother was 76 when her husband died. She couldn't bear being alone and not having someone to cook for, talk to, and take care of everyday. About 6 months after Grampa died, Gramma married an old guy she knew from her church who'd lost his wife the year before. I'll never forget that old fart's name ....Branson.

Anyway, they married because they were religious and didn't want to live in sin...especially so late in life, when they were practically at heaven's door already. And they wanted to live together to fill the void that losing their spouses of 50+yrs left in their lives.

The marriage didn't work out. Branson physically abused my gramma. Plus, his daughter would come around asking for money, and if Branson didn't have it, he'd take it from my gramma.

My dad found out about all this when he saw bruises on Gramma every time we visited her, and she finally told him why.

And that was the end of Branson. Well, the end of the marriage. Branson survived. Dad went to their bishop and got the marriage annulled...immediately. Naturally, he had to hire a divorce attorney, too, and that was a mess because the old fart asked for half of Gramma's house that Grampa paid for. He didn't get anything, of course, besides gone...and an Order of Protection with no end date.

Dad stayed at Gramma's house while Brandon packed his stuff. His skanky daughter came to pick his old a$$ up, and Dad stayed for several more days.


All that said, I married just a few years ago and I've never been happier....not since my kids were little. A lot of fun times then.
 
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I do miss having someone to share things with. And I probably could use someone to drag me out of my nest.
I hate going out but once I do Im fine. Im trying to do better. I did go to the car show and chatted with a few old geezers
about how cool their cars were. :D

Seriously. I think I maybe could handle some dating? Marriage. No.
I overlooked the husband faults since we were married for 51 but anyone new would be held to a much higher standard.
When dating everybody is usually on their best behavior. I could probably go a few hours without acting up.
 
Veronica said:
I do miss having someone to share things with. And I probably could use someone to drag me out of my nest.
I hate going out but once I do Im fine. Im trying to do better. I did go to the car show and chatted with a few old geezers
about how cool their cars were. :D

Seriously. I think I maybe could handle some dating? Marriage. No.
I overlooked the husband faults since we were married for 51 but anyone new would be held to a much higher standard.
When dating everybody is usually on their best behavior. I could probably go a few hours without acting up.
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You make some really good points.

When I married a few years ago, I'd been single for over 30yrs. Nearly 40, actually, so I didn't have a void to fill, left by the loss of a long-term partner. It felt more like I was nearing the end of living my best life.

Michelle proved I was wrong about that. But if I'd been accustomed to the cadence of a 30-40 year marriage that ended not long before marrying again, I think it's likely the new wife and I would have had a rough time of it.
 
OldOld said:
Some people are not capable of staying single. They get married and divorced and repeat and on and on and on....even into their senior years.
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Yes, I think some people are just miserable and unsettled when they're alone. I'm like a cat I used to have, I like having someone else in the house, in the next room.
 

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