I'm 64, I'm retired, I'm widowed, and I find myself becoming somewhat of a recluse

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LancenAz

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The same story I suppose, kids are gone, and they don't call much. I do like to watch movies I have about 3000 of them, but it's no fun without someone to watch with. I love the internet, mostly YouTube, I dig the police bodycams and the beach cams, I love watching paranormal stuff too. I do believe that with the net If you can think it, you can do it or see it. I do love the desert, watching the stars at night, the warmth. There is more that makes me up, but I have to save something for Later.
Given that ...Hi, Im Lance and its great to meet you!
 

Do not let yourself become a recluse. I am a widow and I have done that. Not on purpose, it just kind of snuck up on me. I have an upside down schedule. I am sleeping the days away and these days there is nowhere to go at night since covid came. I used to at least be able to go to a big Walmart in the middle of the night. It has been bad for both physical and mental health.

Welcome to the sight. Many wonderful people and interesting subjects. You will enjoy it!
 
@Blessed is right of course. Avoid becoming a recluse at all costs, if you can.

At 64, if you are mobile and relatively healthy, you could still be having an active life. I have quite a few friends who have children they seldom see. Offspring grow up, leave the nest and then have to build their own, life perhaps gets in the way. Maybe you could email them or suggest a family WhatsApp group so you can all post messages and feel closer? If you have a library or groups for older people, they could get you out and about more.

Welcome to the forum :)
 
Welcome from a fellow recluse in Ohio.
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Hi Lance. Welcome to SF
I find that a lot of life is about choices. If you don't like your life, then change it.
I think many isolate themselves because it just requires less effort.
However, you often get out of life what you put into it, and if you want to have a memorable one, then you have to do memorable things.
Being alone has it's perks, but it never hurts to live a balanced life. JMO
 
Welcome!

I understand because I did that, too. It's just easier to not make any effort. After a bit, being a recluse just didn't suit at all.

Maybe do one thing a day to get yourself out of yourself? Visit a library? A coffee shop? Somewhere indoors if you're in Arizona to stay out of the heat.
 
I was born to be a recluse.
Becoming a widower taught me that.
When I'm around people I have to put on a persona and that's exhausting.
I like to read. Listen to music. Think about the people from my family who died and revisit my impressions of them from a more mature, experienced perspective.

A forum like this is the perfect socializing platform for me. It provides just enough interaction to keep me grounded.
I like discovering people with the same viewpoint on things.
 

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