I'm in a Situation I Never Thought I'd Be In

Twostep said:
My MIL managed to make every holiday, birthday or other celebration hell for me. One Christmas brought it to a boil. I took her aside and told her in a low voice that she is a guest in my house and that I expect her to act accordingly or there will be consequences. She took a deep breath, turned beet red and was quiet as a mouse for the rest of dinner.
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Was she a borderline personality disorder like my mother? They love, and I mean loooovve to ruin events.
 
Sounds like your son has plenty of negative energy to keep himself going. And you say he brought up the politics last year? Humm.

I think there is going to be a lot of this kind of thing going on this year, so you are not alone in it. I can assume you are not on the same political side. But people can get along with all kinds of opposing views. If he brings it up this year and think a quick snarky reply would be warranted.
 
RadishRose said:
I hope this works out, @hearlady. I've had real blowouts with my son years ago and I always felt horrible, whether I was right or wrong. I know he did too.

I'm too old now to fight and he doesn't press my buttons like he used to, either. I'm betting that somehow, this will pass and you'll have a good holiday.
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That was very nice, but you're probably a lot kinder than me. :)
 
Pepper said:
I'm horrified by this. Had fight w/son over keys and it shook both our worlds. Scary when a kid issues ultimatums.
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Ultimatums may be accepted but are never forgotten. If I were hearlady, I would read the text to my husband and follow his lead. But I would not reply to the text and I would never speak to my son again if I could help it. And he would not be mentioned by me again or find himself mentioned in my will. He is dismally lacking in character and maturity and in understanding and love.
 
gruntlabor said:
Ultimatums may be accepted but are never forgotten. If I were hearlady, I would read the text to my husband and follow his lead. But I would not reply to the text and I would never speak to my son again if I could help it. And he would not be mentioned by me again or find himself mentioned in my will. He is dismally lacking in character and maturity and in understanding and love.
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When my son put up a big mouth I said shut up and that was it. Do this and that. Shut up. Who do you think you are. So it immediately stopped.
 
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gruntlabor said:
But I would not reply to the text and I would never speak to my son again if I could help it. And he would not be mentioned by me again or find himself mentioned in my will. He is dismally lacking in character and maturity and in understanding and love.
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Over a message that said what everyone basically agreed to anyway but was delivered in a rather rude way??

wow, super over reaction. :whistle:
 
January said:
Over a message that said what everyone basically agreed to anyway but was delivered in a rather rude way??

wow, super over reaction. :whistle:
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... but better than to 'go along' happily and in agreement while a man berates and humiliates his father.
It would have been better yet to change the subject, or to take dad aside and say, "Aw, c'mon, dad, we don't want to talk politics at the table, what do you say, okay?"
 
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