I'm worried about my family

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ronk

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I'm very worried about my family. I moved to Minnesota two years ago to be closer to them. Now I'm worried that we might not have much time left.

Both of my parents have been to the hospital with serious ailments a few times. My brother has some mobility concerns. He may need to move to an Assisted Living facility. I might not be able to see him often. My sister has pretty much disappeared in California. We know she's hurting, but she keeps herself at a distance.

I have a few health concerns, possibly cardiovascular in origin. I'll likely be able to straighten out my problems with a few doctor visits.

Our family has moved countless times over the decades. Very often, we've been in different states, 1,000 miles apart. It's only be 3-4 years since we started coming back together in the Twin Cities area.

It just goes to show you never know how much time you have left. If you have loved ones, hold them close.
 

I am sorry to hear of your concerns, Ron, but you are so right. We know the date of our arrival in the world but the day of departure is much vaguer. It is the time in between that matters and I hope you will be able to create many new and happy memories while you still can.
 
I agree Ron, if you have loved ones, hold them close, you never know how long you'll be together. I agree with Warrigal, try and create any memories you can. Thinking of you and wishing the best for you and your family.
 

Warrigal & SeaBreeze, thanks for your support. My Dad is 89. Every time he gets ill, he faces a cascading bunch of health complications. I think that's common for older people. They're so easily taken down by any illness.

I moved to the same building where my brother lives, so we could see each other more often. I try to encourage him to take better care of himself. It's not easy because he gets defensive. So I just need to hang out with him when I can. Maybe once and awhile I can get through to him.
 
ronknights said:
Warrigal & SeaBreeze, thanks for your support. My Dad is 89. Every time he gets ill, he faces a cascading bunch of health complications. I think that's common for older people. They're so easily taken down by any illness.

I moved to the same building where my brother lives, so we could see each other more often. I try to encourage him to take better care of himself. It's not easy because he gets defensive. So I just need to hang out with him when I can. Maybe once and awhile I can get through to him.
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At least you and your brother are in the same building. Hopefully, you'll inspire him somewhat.
 
I'm a bit frustrated with my Dad right now. My stepmother was in the hospital for the weekend. They were supposed to evaluate her today. I haven't heard from my Dad in two days. I hesitate to call and bother him, looking for news.
 
It's hard when your worried about family. There's only so much we can really do. Sounds like you are doing all you can by being involved when you can. I hope things will work out for all of you.
 
Ruthanne, thanks for your support. My stepmother had a cardiac pacemaker installed. They're still worried about a subdural hematoma in her head. Last I heard, they were waiting to see whether it changed in size before deciding the next step in treatment.
 
ronknights said:
Ruthanne, thanks for your support. My stepmother had a cardiac pacemaker installed. They're still worried about a subdural hematoma in her head. Last I heard, they were waiting to see whether it changed in size before deciding the next step in treatment.
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That sounds very serious but I am not totally sure what a subdural hematoma is. Is it like a blood clot?
 
I'm sorry I didn't respond right away. I left the forum some time ago. I don't even remember why. However, my family concerns have become more dramatic. My parents are older. Dad can't drive to visit us in Hastings. It's 30 miles one way. My brother lives in the same building as me. Now he's unable to get out of bed, and is looking to move to a nursing home.

I'm so devastated. I moved here from Maine to be near the family. It made sense to move into the same building as my brother. Now he's leaving. I'm thinking of moving to St Paul, MN. I'd be nearer to my parents. The St Paul bus system is very good, but buses might not run as far as where my parents live.

I'm also thinking of moving into St Paul because I'd get better medical care. Here in Hastings, I would need to go to a clinic in another city to see a dermatologist, etc. If I lived within the St Paul City Limits, I would have my choice of several hospitals and medical facilities.

Oh, my stepmother turned out ok. The subdural hematoma, I guess, is swelling or a blood clot in the brain. They decided to wait and monitor to see if it grew any larger. Apparently it is ok.
 
ronknights said:
I'm sorry I didn't respond right away. I left the forum some time ago. I don't even remember why. However, my family concerns have become more dramatic. My parents are older. Dad can't drive to visit us in Hastings. It's 30 miles one way. My brother lives in the same building as me. Now he's unable to get out of bed, and is looking to move to a nursing home.

I'm so devastated. I moved here from Maine to be near the family. It made sense to move into the same building as my brother. Now he's leaving. I'm thinking of moving to St Paul, MN. I'd be nearer to my parents. The St Paul bus system is very good, but buses might not run as far as where my parents live.

I'm also thinking of moving into St Paul because I'd get better medical care. Here in Hastings, I would need to go to a clinic in another city to see a dermatologist, etc. If I lived within the St Paul City Limits, I would have my choice of several hospitals and medical facilities.

Oh, my stepmother turned out ok. The subdural hematoma, I guess, is swelling or a blood clot in the brain. They decided to wait and monitor to see if it grew any larger. Apparently it is ok.
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Welcome back, Ron. I'm sorry to hear about your family. These are the situations we all must cope with age and health issues catch up with us. We can only be grateful for the time and opportunities we've had yesterday and today. Tomorrow is promised to no one.

Do you need the bus system or do your parents? Your post didn't mention if any or all of you are driving.
 
My Dad has a car. Lately he's decided he can't drive very far. I gave up driving 13+ years ago, when I stopped working and went on Social Security Disability. Cars are just too expensive.

Here in Hastings, MN, we have very limited bus service. St Paul and Minneapolis offer a very good bus service in addition to "Light Rail Transit." I'd left Minnesota before they put Light Rail Transit into operation. I was away from MN for about 33 years.
 

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