In your opinion are passion and romance two separate things?

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It was pointed out on the romance thread that basically they are different. While I agree that sometimes that is true, and for a lot of men I know it's the case, for me in my most loving relationships, they are tightly intertwined. I've never been interested in a relationship that was just sexual in nature. I've always wanted to connect with who someone is on the inside. If I can't do that I'm not interested in being intimate. When I was young the sex was generally unsatisfying. It's over too quickly. I only did it because I wanted to be held. What do you think about this?
 

I've known both men and women who are attracted to just sexual relations without romance and other men and women who need a romantic connection in order to desire sexual relations. An interesting discussion often takes place in either the polyamorous community about swingers or the swinger community about polyamorous people.

Personally I prefer a romantic connection with sex, but if I were in a position to accept it I wouldn't turn down a purely sexual relationship if I were physically attracted to the woman.
 
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Definitely YES! People can be romantic without having sex and people can can sex without being romantic. Most people prefer them to be interconnected but they aren’t always. Some people aren’t able to get romantically involved and some people aren’t able to have sex or don’t want to so of course there has to be differences in options
 

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Phoenix said:
It was pointed out on the romance thread that basically they are different. While I agree that sometimes that is true, and for a lot of men I know it's the case, for me in my most loving relationships, they are tightly intertwined. I've never been interested in a relationship that was just sexual in nature. I've always wanted to connect with who someone is on the inside. If I can't do that I'm not interested in being intimate. When I was young the sex was generally unsatisfying. It's over too quickly. I only did it because I wanted to be held. What do you think about this?
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I have to have the romantic connection.
 
Phoenix said:
It was pointed out on the romance thread that basically they are different. While I agree that sometimes that is true, and for a lot of men I know it's the case, for me in my most loving relationships, they are tightly intertwined. I've never been interested in a relationship that was just sexual in nature. I've always wanted to connect with who someone is on the inside. If I can't do that I'm not interested in being intimate. When I was young the sex was generally unsatisfying. It's over too quickly. I only did it because I wanted to be held. What do you think about this?
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Love is the most important factor in a relationship for me. I guess that would fall into the romance category, but there are lots of little ways a person can say I love you everyday without either being romantic or sexual.
 
I really don't like the word romance. It makes one think of cheesy romance novels. I need a soul to soul connection. Now, at first one does not know if it's there or not, or if it's hopeful fantasy. There have been a couple of guys, who when we were intimate, our souls connected and they became part of me and who I am.
 
Keesha said:
Definitely YES! People can be romantic without having sex and people can can sex without being romantic. Most people prefer them to be interconnected but they aren’t always. Some people aren’t able to get romantically involved and some people aren’t able to have sex or don’t want to so of course there has to be differences in options
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^^ This.
 
I personally think Romance.....Sex/Passion.....fall in separate places.
To me romance, is a way to show kindness, respect, and doing for the other to please them in ways, other than sex......dinner, holding hands, cuddling, just being together, one on one.
But.
Depending how you and your partner wish to go from there......either it be Passion...Sex...or just to continue to Romance.....This comes from the female side, maybe not the male side.
Passion/Sex......is a way to connect physically and emotionally......satisfying each other in certain ways.....with total respect in the process.
With the right partner.....can be so deeply felt with your heart and soul.

This is my opinion.
 
Judycat said:
Isn't it all just one thing? Romance being the rigmarole that leads up to sex, with everyone hoping for passion with sex.
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Not for me. It was never like that for me. For a woman, especially a young woman, several things can happen with sex. If the guy is young, it's over before she has chance to even get started. In the process she could have gotten pregnant, even with good birth control, gotten a STD and now needs to shower.

Aneeda72 said:
Romance is when you first meet and are falling in love, it fades quickly.
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The romance can last for years. It depends on the people involved.
MickaC said:
To me romance, is a way to show kindness, respect, and doing for the other to please them in ways, other than sex......dinner, holding hands, cuddling, just being together, one on one.
With the right partner.....can be so deeply felt with your heart and soul.
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I think what's missing in a lot of relationships these days is courtship before sex. Which to me is what MickaC is talking about here. A good courtship could eliminate a lot of bad marriages from ever happening.
 
I just learned that my title has been changed, that sexual topics caused problems in the past and that it has been moved. I'll end my comments here. This is my last post about the topic.
 
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