Teacher Terry
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Like most things in life it depends. My second husband who is the father of my 2 youngest kids and adopted my oldest son was controlling and difficult to live with. We went to therapy a few times which didn’t help because he wanted to be married but really didn’t change much.
During the 10th year I realized that I had a choice to make and asked myself if the kids were better off with or without us being married. I decided that I could give them the gift of an intact family and we rarely argued during the next 12 years of the marriage.
Once the kids were grown I left and the kids were shocked. The last couple years were difficult as my neck muscles were so tight that it was literally strangling both my arms. My neurologist told me after doing a bunch of tests that it was stress and that I had better figure out what was wrong with my life.
In addition to wanting out of my marriage my job with the state had it’s issues as my coworkers were awful also. After my youngest graduated from high school I found a new job with a state across the country and divorced and moved. I was 43 and I had my life back. My kids have thanked me for the childhood they had and for staying. All 3 are grateful and I would do it again.
We both remarried and all get along. We go to all the big events for our adult children together and entertain the entire family at each other’s houses. I am divorced again and my kid’s father along with his wife came to spend Xmas with me and the kids. His wife has Alzheimer’s and he needed the support of his family. If people can put aside petty grievances and act like adults it can work.
During the 10th year I realized that I had a choice to make and asked myself if the kids were better off with or without us being married. I decided that I could give them the gift of an intact family and we rarely argued during the next 12 years of the marriage.
Once the kids were grown I left and the kids were shocked. The last couple years were difficult as my neck muscles were so tight that it was literally strangling both my arms. My neurologist told me after doing a bunch of tests that it was stress and that I had better figure out what was wrong with my life.
In addition to wanting out of my marriage my job with the state had it’s issues as my coworkers were awful also. After my youngest graduated from high school I found a new job with a state across the country and divorced and moved. I was 43 and I had my life back. My kids have thanked me for the childhood they had and for staying. All 3 are grateful and I would do it again.
We both remarried and all get along. We go to all the big events for our adult children together and entertain the entire family at each other’s houses. I am divorced again and my kid’s father along with his wife came to spend Xmas with me and the kids. His wife has Alzheimer’s and he needed the support of his family. If people can put aside petty grievances and act like adults it can work.