Is "thank you" disappearing? Or is it long gone?

[birdy]

What's worse is when they say 'no worries'......really don't like that.

That is a very popular phrase. I hear it from my own family and they were raised right.

I always use please, thank you, and you're welcome. That's how I was raised. If I ever think I forgot to thank someone, I feel genuinely bad about it.

 

[SeaBreeze]

@SeaBreeze - the gifts were mailed to them 2 weeks apart from each other. This relative recently told us he was engaged and that he and his new family were going to drop by but didn’t. They then told us they were getting married and we were invited.

I sent a hand painted picture done by me and a sincere letter stating why I won’t be attending the wedding but my husband would be. . I congratulated them both.

Two weeks later I sent the cookies to this relative with a small card inside saying Merry Christmas and who it was from.

I haven’t heard a thing. This person has recently gotten divorced and his wife and I were good friends or so I thought. It’s been tense lately.

It’s really not a big deal. The main thing is that I tried to build a bond. If they don’t accept, that’s up to them. It can sting a bit though.

I understand your disappointment, since it was such a thoughtful and personal gift. If there's a lot of tension in their lives from a divorce, they can easily be overwhelmed with turmoil I suppose. You're a good person for trying to bond, if they don't respond, it's not your fault. Hard to know what's going on in people's minds when stressed or depressed.

Usually if I get a gift from a neighbor or relative, I will thank them in person, by telephone or email. They will do the same.

 

[MountainRa]

I still say, and hear, thank you, you’re welcome, etc. when out and about. What is becoming increasingly rare is to receive a written thank you for a gift. Actually I’m ok with a phoned, texted, or emailed thanks - just some acknowledgment that the gift was received

My children will tell you I was obsessive about them writing thank you notes. But they did and still do.

I have a one strike policy on gift giving. If I send a gift and no effort is made to acknowledge it, there won’t be a second gift on the next occasion that arises.

 

[C50]

It doesn't bother me if they say no problem or you bet. It's their way of acknowledging your thank you. This is 2024, I embrace any act of civility or kindness. There's a lot of good folks in this world, we just hear too much about the bad.

You're right, thank you for pointing that out.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

I understand your disappointment, since it was such a thoughtful and personal gift. If there's a lot of tension in their lives from a divorce, they can easily be overwhelmed with turmoil I suppose. You're a good person for trying to bond, if they don't respond, it's not your fault. Hard to know what's going on in people's minds when stressed or depressed.

Usually if I get a gift from a neighbor or relative, I will thank them in person, by telephone or email. They will do the same.

There’s a lot going on and the person probably didn’t know what to say. I’m going to just let it go and keep on sending cards. They are in another province. I’m not going to let this bring me down. I enjoyed making the gifts for them and my intention was good.
Thanks Seabreeze.

 

[Sliverfox]

IF some one holds the door ,, I thank them.

If I need help finding something I well ask,"Excuse me , can you help me find??"
Thank you.

Yes,, I'm old , was taught you get better results with a smile & thank you or other Kind words.

Sorry if I'm repeating someone else's words.
Am lazy today,, didn't read all the threads

 

[OneEyedDiva]

Not for me and those in my circle. I say thank you a lot, even to my son for things he thinks I don't need to thank him for. When our servers bring our food in restaurants, we say thank you. Someone holds the door, I say thank you. And I hate it when people don't thank those of us who hold doors open for them. My grandchildren are polite, appreciative young people and say thank you. They are all adults now. My friends are the same way. I live in a city but I must say most of the people I encounter are polite and say thank you.

 

[Lewkat]

I still find most people are using these polite terms. Some really young teenagers are more flip, but mean the same thing.

 

[Ruthanne]

It may be just me. I may be disappearing from sight as old people gradually do, it seems. i gave five adults and two children who are neighbors Christmas presents this year. I've seen these people many times since Christmas. None have said 'thank you' or 'how thoughtful of you...'. Has that habit or behavior disappeared? Or am I gradually disappearing from others' sight where anything I do is irrelevant to others?

I know that feeling of irrelevance. I hope people are not thinking that of you or me. I'm afraid I do feel like anything I do anymore doesn't matter. Well I have one niece whom I think I matter to but the rest...I really doubt it. After I am long gone they may think of me occasionally or not.

 

[Wes]

Didn't they say thank you when you first handed them their gifts?

No, they did not. The gifts when handed to them were Christmas wrapped and labeled with their names.

 

[SeaBreeze]

No, they did not. The gifts when handed to them were Christmas wrapped and labeled with their names.

Still, an immediate thank you should have been a given, IMO. By the way, you're very kind for giving them gifts like that. Have they ever given you a gift?

 

[Mr. Ed]

I thought saying thank you was protocol for moving out of the picture?

 

[oscash]

It starts within the home. My boys as little children were always told when given something, "What do you say"? and they would always say "thank you." I'm always friendly to restaurant staff and shop workers and always ask how their day is doing. They always reply with a friendly smile.