Is there anything for which you can not forgive yourself or for which you can not forgive someone else?

[squatting dog]

@squatting dog - I am so sorry you are blaming yourself for your daughter's death. My heart goes out to you. How long ago did this happen?

Hard to believe it'll be 4 years this year. The pain and heartbreak is as sharp as the first day.

 

[squatting dog]

Squattingdog, I truly hope you are able to find some peace over your daughter’s death.

Thank you for those kind words.

 

[squatting dog]

I am so sorry to hear that. I wish I knew something to say to take away the pain. No doubt you have already been told it is in no way your fault but you have to come to that awareness/conclusion yourself. God Bless...

Thank you.

 

[Pepper]

(((@squatting dog)))
from Second Avenue
Hugs from the Big

 

[hollydolly]

Hard to believe it'll be 4 years this year. The pain and heartbreak is as sharp as the first day.

oh my goodness, 4 years already ?..I feel like it happened just last year

 

[MarciKS]

I can be pretty unforgiving when it comes to people trying to play me. If they're not sincere then I don't understand what they get out of hurting other people with their BS. But I have zero tolerance for it. It's almost impossible for me to forgive people who hurt me on purpose.

 

[Patch]

Over the years, there have been people who have... or have tried... to cause me harm. Harm... physically, emotionally, or financially. Some of those I still wouldn't offer two drops of spit if they were dying of thirst. Karma has caught up with some of them. The others I could care less about. They don't bother me. Let them live with their own conscience.

One will haunt me until I'm six feet under. I had a younger brother. We were raised to be good people, having honor and respect for those we encountered on life's pathway. My younger brother stole his first car when he was in high school. Traveled across the U.S. on hot checks, in stolen cars, spending time along the way in various jails. My parents were poor dirt farmers, but mortgaged everything they had to keep him bailed out of whatever the trouble de jour might be. In 1975 he held up a bank and shot it out with officers. Captured, he was sent to a Federal prison. Paroled after a few years, wasn't out 30 days and raped a lady who had been tending her lawn in a residential area. Back to prison.
In the meantime, our Mother had contracted breast cancer. She fought it like a champ, but had the constant worry of her youngest son and his straying ways. I had washed my hands of him when he made threats to my wife and had told him never to let my eyes see him again. He was in prison when my Mother passed away. I will always believe he shaved valuable years from her life due to his criminal, uncaring ways.
The last I heard of him was when our Dad was living by himself and about ready to go to a nursing home. He knocked on my Dad's door, demanding money. Dad refused. He made verbal threats and left. No one has ever heard from him since. That was 2001. Dead. Alive. Back in prison. Don't know. Don't care.

There will never be forgiveness...

 

[mellowyellow]

A Christian Sydney couple whose 3 children were killed by a car as they were walking along the footpath to get ice cream from the store, have forgiven the driver. Their generosity is beyond my understanding.…..

https://www.sbs.com.au/news/anniver...ldren-marked-with-celebration-and-forgiveness

 

[Alligatorob]

If a person truly regrets doing something and does what they can to make amends I can forgive most anything. Doesn't mean I would necessarily want to be friends, but forgiving, sure. Without that, short of death or something, forgiving is hard.

 

[Irwin]

A Christian Sydney couple whose 3 children were killed by a car as they were walking along the footpath to get ice cream from the store, have forgiven the driver. Their generosity is beyond my understanding.…..

https://www.sbs.com.au/news/anniver...ldren-marked-with-celebration-and-forgiveness

I can understand that. It wasn't intentional, and the driver pled guilty. I could forgive someone like that.

People often drink in excess to relieve pain. I don't know what the driver's story was, but in all likelihood, he had serious problems.

Intention is what matters.

 

[mellowyellow]

Hope Gap
Annette Bening and Bill Nighy co-star as a longtime British couple on the verge of divorce.

I think it was on Netflix but not sure. Woirth a look for anyone who has been married a long time.

 

[mellowyellow]

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Hope Gap
Annette Bening and Bill Nighy co-star as a longtime British couple on the verge of divorce.

I think it was on Netflix but not sure. Woirth a look for anyone who has been married a long time.

Sorry, this should be under movies.

 

[MarciKS]

Forgiveness is never easy. It's not impossible. But it's hard for people to let things go. The deeper the hurt the harder it is. But at the end of the day one has to wonder how all that hatred is affecting them. It turns me into an angry monster of a person. I don't wanna live like that.

 

[win231]

Forgiveness is never easy. It's not impossible. But it's hard for people to let things go. The deeper the hurt the harder it is. But at the end of the day one has to wonder how all that hatred is affecting them. It turns me into an angry monster of a person. I don't wanna live like that.

Not forgiving someone does not automatically amount to "Hatred."
I won't forgive any relatives, my ex wife (deceased) or former friends who betrayed me. I have no hatred for them; I just keep them out of my life.

 

[Butterfly]

There’s a big difference between forgiving and *trusting*. There are people in my life that have done great harm and I forgive them. But if it’s something that will keep reoccurring or keep putting people (especially children) in danger, then they are not trustworthy and I respectfully keep them away from me or my family. I don’t have to be hateful but I have boundaries

I strongly agree. Once upon a time I was struggling with the issue of forgiveness and I spoke to my pastor about it. He said that forgiveness is something you do for yourself, and that it does not mean you have to give the other person the opportunity to hurt you again.