It’s been 10 days
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OneEyedDiva
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Ronni...you are right. You have us. Writing your feelings down is cathartic...so do it whenever you must. We will always be here. I know I didn't birth her, but she was like a daughter to me for 35 years. She treated me like a wonderful daughter would. Sometimes she cooked for me, she called me often, she took great care of my son and was a wonderful mother to my grandchildren (even those who were her step children).
When my DIL died suddenly, I kept asking Lord..why did she leave me here like this?!! I had talked to her just two days before but let her rest that Friday. She and my son both had COVID and he seemed to be sicker than she was. She doctored on him and I knew she was tired but pushing past her own illness. On December 11th, it will be two years since she's been gone.
To this day grief takes me by surprise, overtakes me really. I'll be doing chores or even watching a show, just ordinary, everyday things and suddenly a wave of grief will come over me and I'll breakdown and cry. I literally think of her several times a day, every day. But I can honestly say that now most of the time, the happy memories take over and I think of her, some crazy thing she did or an expression and it makes me smile.
Her death came on the heals of my losing my husband, one of our dear friends, two of my cousins and three months later...her twin sister who I also loved. I know it doesn't seem like you'll come to the point where happy memories will take over Ronni, but you will. And as I said before, it does not mean the grief will be completely erased. It's good that you are being proactive by going to a grief support group and trying to live as normal a life as you can. It hasn't even been two weeks yet. Feeling as you do is to be expected. Healing takes time. Still keeping you and your family in prayer.
When my DIL died suddenly, I kept asking Lord..why did she leave me here like this?!! I had talked to her just two days before but let her rest that Friday. She and my son both had COVID and he seemed to be sicker than she was. She doctored on him and I knew she was tired but pushing past her own illness. On December 11th, it will be two years since she's been gone.
To this day grief takes me by surprise, overtakes me really. I'll be doing chores or even watching a show, just ordinary, everyday things and suddenly a wave of grief will come over me and I'll breakdown and cry. I literally think of her several times a day, every day. But I can honestly say that now most of the time, the happy memories take over and I think of her, some crazy thing she did or an expression and it makes me smile.
Her death came on the heals of my losing my husband, one of our dear friends, two of my cousins and three months later...her twin sister who I also loved. I know it doesn't seem like you'll come to the point where happy memories will take over Ronni, but you will. And as I said before, it does not mean the grief will be completely erased. It's good that you are being proactive by going to a grief support group and trying to live as normal a life as you can. It hasn't even been two weeks yet. Feeling as you do is to be expected. Healing takes time. Still keeping you and your family in prayer.
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I think writing or talking about your loss can certainly bring you comfort and support while you are grieving. We are here to listen and comfort you.
When I have worries or go through pain, I find peace by taking a walk in nature while listening to music. It helps me to relax. I find that exercise can take a lot of stress away. Maybe it can help you too?
When I have worries or go through pain, I find peace by taking a walk in nature while listening to music. It helps me to relax. I find that exercise can take a lot of stress away. Maybe it can help you too?