It was when I was 34

[AZ Jim]

I met and fell for my Detta. We were together 48 years. A great marriage. Then the Lord took her to his heaven. He got a wonderful angel but it broke my heart losing her. I know you folks are probably sick of this but I have no other place to pour my heart out. I lost Detta 1/30/19 and held her little hand up to within 2 hours of her passing. I know she's in a better place but I am heartbroken and have all interest in living. I keep seeing her in my mind, hearing things she said. Her last words on this earth just before coma was in response to my "I love you Honey" when in her weak little voice she said "I love you too, Jim". Thanks for letting my heart speak out here. You guys mean so much to me. The last few years due to my age and the loss of all my old friends (mostly due to death), I need ya....

 

[win231]

Hey, you're wrong. We are NOT sick of this!!
You are very fortunate to have such a loving relationship for 48 years. I wish I could say the same about my 2-year marriage.
And remember, as a loving wife, Detta would want you to be happy.

 

[AZ Jim]

Thank you. You are a good friend...

 

[terry123]

We are not tired of hearing it, Jim. You are very blessed to have had that marriage. Wish mine would have lasted that long. Now I think its too late but it would be nice to have the companionship now for the rest of my life. I don't see it happening now at my age .

 

[AZ Jim]

We are not tired of hearing it, Jim. You are very blessed to have had that marriage. Wish mine would have lasted that long. Now I think its too late but it would be nice to have the companionship now for the rest of my life. I don't see it happening now at my age .

Well Terry I hope whatever is best for you happens. *Hug*

 

[Gary O']

Thanks for letting my heart speak out here

Can't think of a more appropriate place, Jim.

Those of us with mates, especially long term mates, will one day experience that loss

It's gotta be one of the toughest of times.

Please continue to air out your feelings here.

I imagine they'll be more fond than heart wrenching as time progresses.

It's so very good to hear from you.... in any capacity

 

[hollydolly]

JIm, I told you, as probably many others did , when lovely Detta died, that you were to talk as much as you neeeded, rant at the world through us if you need to.. get it out, don't suffer alone.. we're here to take some of that burden from your shoulders.. You will always be able to talk about Detta here with us.

BTW she had an unusual name, I've never heard that name before, do you know anything about it?

 

[Ken N Tx]

You know that we are here for you...

 

[mike4lorie]

God Bless YOU @AZ Jim

 

[911]

One day at a time. My best to you.

 

[Mike]

Come on Jim we are all here for you, everybody
means what they say, anytime any day get it out
if you don't, then where will you go?

This place is here 24/7 for all of us.

Mike.

 

[AprilSun]

Jim, you need to be talking about this. I was just like you after my husband died. I had friends to tell me to call them when I needed to talk. They told me talking helps and I learned they were right. It helped me so much just talking about it and especially talking to people that had been though the same thing and I knew they understood. Keep it up and don't worry about us.

 

[RadishRose]

It's ok Jim, talk about Detta all you want. I'm glad you put her photo with you as your avatar. Now we can see how beautiful she was.

 

[Liberty]

Jim, grief comes in waves as you know. Think for a year and a half its their energy that's so very very close to you; you feel it, raw like, and because she's not in the flesh with you, it is very hard to tread water then, its as though she's inside you, but you can't reach out and touch her or feel her breathing beside you when in bed. Then it starts to get better. When you live with someone for years its the hardest to be separated, but with that said, she is in your heart and that can never ever be taken away from you . Its like this garden stepping stone I got when my mom, who had lived with us for 26 years died, to remind us of the joy to come when we meet again:

 

[twinkles]

talking eases the pain some ---keep talking -we are all listening---i dont talk that much but i am listening

 

[Pappy]

We’ve been a good friends over the years Jim, and my heart goes out to you. Post all you want. I’ll read every word.

 

[jujube]

Jim, we're here for you. I know how helpful my little internet group was to me when my husband died.

 

[AZ Jim]

God bless you my dear friends. Sundays have always been a depressing day for me but reading your words will help. In my pain I have you and for that I am so grateful...

 

[Marie5656]

@AZ Jim not sick of your sharing at all. When you lost your wife, I had no idea that just a few short months later my husband would leave as well. I think it is great that we have such a place as this to share our feelings and know we have support.
Grief may ease over time, but it never really goes away. Just gets a bit easier to handle.

 

[moviequeen1]

Hi Jim,I'm with the rest of the people here,who always look forward to hearing how you are doing/coping every day
No need to apologize at all hugs Sue

 

[Ruthanne]

A hug for you Jim...

 

[Pinky]

As I am not big on words, a big warm hug would be nice to give you. Like the bears above. Take care, and keep on writing .. get your feelings out. We're all here for you.

 

[Sassycakes]

We're always here for you Jim. I can't even imagine the heartache you are going through. My Husband and I are married 53yrs and I wouldn't want to live one day without him. So please talk to us all the time about the love of your life.

 

[SeaBreeze]

Jim, my heart goes out to you, please speak of your love as much as you want, we're here for you...hugs. If my husband passed on, I would hope this forum and all its caring folks would be still be here to comfort me in my time of mourning.

 

[Ken N Tx]

AZ Jim has not been signed on since 11/03...One month after his birthday..

Hope he is doing ok....