It'll be the first Christmas without hubby after 37 Funky Christmases!

Supernatural

Supernatural

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Our first tree in 1984. A dilapidated artificial thing on discontinued sale, about £5 in today's money. Nevertheless, with magnificent decorations, it looked amazing. In 1996, all the XMas decorations vanished from the moving truck. It had lasted 12 years. In our one year temporary residence, we got another better and fuller looking one with all new decorations.

It was huge in circumference but short at 5 feet. One move again but this time they left the tree, decorations vanished. Oh dear. New furnishings and lights and we exchanged it in 2016. Hoping to have a tree covered in snow and a 7 footer. This one opens like an umbrella. Our son passed that year's Christmas in hospital going through an emergency operation on Christmas Day. We were devastated as we didn't know yet what was wrong with him.

He came home on 28 December 2016, saw the new tree with a musical train at the base and was very happy. Sadly, he took ill again and on Hogmanay left for hospital by ambulance never to return home. He died of a rare cancer in January of 2017. In December 2017, hubby convinced us to put up the decorations in honour of our son, daughter and I agreed but the magic was gone. Now daughter and I are facing Christmas 2022 without hubby as well as missing my son. Daughter has to deal with missing brother and now her father. It'll be tough, no doubt as there's no family left and no friends. Yes, the Pandemic caused another blow in our disarray. Trying to recover from all by ourselves it's one day at a time. Come 23 December, we'll put up the tree and hopefully our two favourite guys will be there beyond the veil smiling!

Blessed be...
 

I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son and husband. Keeping holiday traditions going sometimes helps after loss. Waves of grief will still come and go for you and your daughter. Hoping that moments of joy and fond memories will warm your hearts in between those waves. You're alot stronger than I am. I still can't put up Christmas decorations after my wife died 5 years ago. The voice of grief does change from a scream to a whisper. Holidays can be difficult. One day at a time.....sometimes one hour at a time.
 
Your loss is great, down2earth tells it well. Christmas is a sad time for many, for those who have lost loved ones the grief can be unimaginable. You will do what is best for yourself and your daughter, and maybe you might talk about the many happy memories you share when your loved ones were here on earth. It will be 4 years since my DH died very suddenly one week before christmas. Since then I have given away everything relating to christmas, but that is just me. The grief is less but I feel my moods changing with his anniversary coming up. There is no right or wrong in how you decide to spend your day. 🙏
 
I'm deeply touched by your sad post, my condolences to you and your family for the loss of your husband and son. You will be in the thoughts of myself and many here this Christmas.....hugs.

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In the Light

A shadow of joy flickered; it is me.

I told you I wouldn't leave..

My spirit is with you.

My memories, my thoughts are embedded deep in your heart.

I still love you.

Do not for one moment think that you have been abandoned.

I am in the Light.



In the corner, in the hall, the car, the yard --

these are the places I stay with you.

My spirit rises every time you pray for me,

but my energy comes closer to you.

Love does not diminish, it grows stronger.

I am the feather that finds you in the yard,

the dimmed light that grows brighter in your mind,

I place our memories for you to see.

We lived in our special way,

a way that now has its focus changed.

I still crave your understanding and

long for the many words of prayer and good fortune for my soul.

I am in the Light.



As you struggle to adjust without me,

I watch silently.

Sometimes I summon up all the strength of my new world to make you notice me.

Impressed by your grief, I try to impress my love deeper into your

consciousness.

As you should, I call out to the Heavens for help.

You should know that the fountain of youth does exist.

My soul is now healthy.

Your love sends me new found energy.

I am adjusting to this new world.

I am with you and I am in the Light.



Please don't feel bad that you can't see me.

I am with you wherever you go.

I protect you, just as you protected me so many times.

Talk to me and somehow I will find a way to answer you.

Mother, father, son or daughter it makes no difference.

Brother, sister, lover, husband or wife, it makes no difference.

Whatever our connection-friend or even foe-I see you with my new eyes.

I am learning to help wherever you are, wherever I am needed.

This can be done because I am in the Light.



When you feel despair, reach out to me.

I will come.

Our love for you truly does transcend from Heaven to Earth.

Finish your life with the enthusiasm and zest

that you had when we were together in the physical sense.

You owe this to me, but more importantly, you owe it to yourself.

Life continues for both of us.

I am with you because I love you and I am in the Light.

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down2earth said:
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son and husband. Keeping holiday traditions going sometimes helps after loss. Waves of grief will still come and go for you and your daughter. Hoping that moments of joy and fond memories will warm your hearts in between those waves. You're alot stronger than I am. I still can't put up Christmas decorations after my wife died 5 years ago. The voice of grief does change from a scream to a whisper. Holidays can be difficult. One day at a time.....sometimes one hour at a time.
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I'm sorry to hear of your loss as well. May strength and comfort be sent to you.
 
RobinWren said:
Your loss is great, down2earth tells it well. Christmas is a sad time for many, for those who have lost loved ones the grief can be unimaginable. You will do what is best for yourself and your daughter, and maybe you might talk about the many happy memories you share when your loved ones were here on earth. It will be 4 years since my DH died very suddenly one week before christmas. Since then I have given away everything relating to christmas, but that is just me. The grief is less but I feel my moods changing with his anniversary coming up. There is no right or wrong in how you decide to spend your day. 🙏
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I send you prayers for peace, comfort and hope. It is so hard when we lose loved ones at holiday time. I am another that struggle thru the holidays.
 
Oh dear Supernatural, such a heavy burden, you are
sad, but the heart will heal and the good memories
will swamp the sad ones, in time you will smile again,
maybe something this Christmas will let you know that
your whole family is in the room.

My condolences.

Mike.
 
Mike said:
Oh dear Supernatural, such a heavy burden, you are
sad, but the heart will heal and the good memories
will swamp the sad ones, in time you will smile again,
maybe something this Christmas will let you know that
your whole family is in the room.

My condolences.

Mike.
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And that could very well happen. I've had quite a bit of "activity" since DH passed away but he's been quiet the pass few months. I like to think that he knows that I will be okay.
Supernatural, it's one day at a time, be kind to yourself and you will get through this Christmas.
 

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