Just a thought about unhappiness

When my wife died unexpectedly, I was one miserable man for a few years. I needed to vent and yell to rid myself of the frustrations I was holding within. I had no one else to listen to me. After two and a half years of feeling lonesome, I decided to join a support group. On the the third meeting, I took up the whole 2 hours, but those around me understood. The next meeting, we discussed the things we all had in common. After only a few months, I was beginning to get my life back.

Did or do you love someone so much that you would be willing to take a bullet for that person? One weekend, my wife and I stayed in Washington as a weekend getaway. We had just left the restaurant and was waiting on the valet to bring our car around when a man came running up to us with a gun in his hand. He wanted my Rolex watch and my wallet. He also wanted my wife’s as well. She refused to give it up. He was very impatient and I could tell he was going to shoot her, so I walked in front of her just as he fired the gun.

The bullet entered my chest, only a 1/8 inch from my Aorta. I was bleeding pretty good, but the EMT’s got to me in less than 15 minutes. After they had compression on my chest, I was rushed to the hospital. I was going to be OK. I still have the dented mark from the bullet’s entry. The slug was removed during surgery. It was a .380 I don’t know if the bullet would have killed my wife, but that never occurred to me. I was sure he was going to shoot her.

BTW, my wife was 4 months pregnant with our only child. The shooter was given a 30 year sentence with no parole eligibility for 20 years.
 
I think the most difficult time in my life was when I lost my father 25 years ago. I was in my early 40's. I had been very reliant on him, but my mother was going through clinical depression and as an only child I became responsible for all the arrangements. I picked out the casket, arranged for his body to be flown from FL to NC (where all our relatives were) and worked with a preacher to officiate the ceremony. I had so many responsibilities I didn't have time to grieve. I remember my hubby saying he admired my determination, but when everything settled down I would cry at the most unexpected times. I set up a little "shrine" to him with some of his keepsakes and took time to grieve every day.

Yes, I got beyond it, although I frequently wish he was here to see what I've accomplished in my life. I do take solace in the fact that the wisdom he shared with me has helped me to live a happy life these days.
 

VeggieMan said:
Remember the most difficult time of your life, marked by loss,illness,heartbreak,or uncertainty.
Didn't you just wish for it to end soon?
Now take a moment to appreciative how far you have come and feel grateful for this peaceful time.
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I always seemed to spend time suffering from something major , only to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.. and just as I do...something else comes along and hits me with the big stick!...and I'm back on that train again...😞
 
VeggieMan said:
Remember the most difficult time of your life, marked by loss,illness,heartbreak,or uncertainty.
Didn't you just wish for it to end soon?
Now take a moment to appreciative how far you have come and feel grateful for this peaceful time.
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That's a good way to look at things. If we can't change things, we either have to eventually come around and except it or be miserable. I'd rather not be miserable. Also it helps thinking of the good times you had rather dwelling on whatever made you sad.
 
hollydolly said:
I always seemed to spend time suffering from something major , only to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.. and just as I do...something else comes along and hits me with the big stick!...and I'm back on that train again...😞
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I don't know you or your background, but I can tell by all of your responses on this site that you are a good person and a helpful person. I hope things are looking up for you because you deserve happiness.
 
Yes.... Pretty much nothing saddens me anymore. Two wives and a fiance dying, parents and two siblings passed on as well as friends. Held at gunpoint by a deranged killer holding a gun to my head for hours. Losing everything during during the 2008 financial crisis and becoming homeless and Surviving two work place explosions. By the time prostate and stage 4 throat cancer came along recently,..........I'm pretty much laid back and OH Well......lol.
 

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