Just a thought about unhappiness
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Born_To_Lose
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When my wife died unexpectedly, I was one miserable man for a few years. I needed to vent and yell to rid myself of the frustrations I was holding within. I had no one else to listen to me. After two and a half years of feeling lonesome, I decided to join a support group. On the the third meeting, I took up the whole 2 hours, but those around me understood. The next meeting, we discussed the things we all had in common. After only a few months, I was beginning to get my life back.
Did or do you love someone so much that you would be willing to take a bullet for that person? One weekend, my wife and I stayed in Washington as a weekend getaway. We had just left the restaurant and was waiting on the valet to bring our car around when a man came running up to us with a gun in his hand. He wanted my Rolex watch and my wallet. He also wanted my wife’s as well. She refused to give it up. He was very impatient and I could tell he was going to shoot her, so I walked in front of her just as he fired the gun.
The bullet entered my chest, only a 1/8 inch from my Aorta. I was bleeding pretty good, but the EMT’s got to me in less than 15 minutes. After they had compression on my chest, I was rushed to the hospital. I was going to be OK. I still have the dented mark from the bullet’s entry. The slug was removed during surgery. It was a .380 I don’t know if the bullet would have killed my wife, but that never occurred to me. I was sure he was going to shoot her.
BTW, my wife was 4 months pregnant with our only child. The shooter was given a 30 year sentence with no parole eligibility for 20 years.
Did or do you love someone so much that you would be willing to take a bullet for that person? One weekend, my wife and I stayed in Washington as a weekend getaway. We had just left the restaurant and was waiting on the valet to bring our car around when a man came running up to us with a gun in his hand. He wanted my Rolex watch and my wallet. He also wanted my wife’s as well. She refused to give it up. He was very impatient and I could tell he was going to shoot her, so I walked in front of her just as he fired the gun.
The bullet entered my chest, only a 1/8 inch from my Aorta. I was bleeding pretty good, but the EMT’s got to me in less than 15 minutes. After they had compression on my chest, I was rushed to the hospital. I was going to be OK. I still have the dented mark from the bullet’s entry. The slug was removed during surgery. It was a .380 I don’t know if the bullet would have killed my wife, but that never occurred to me. I was sure he was going to shoot her.
BTW, my wife was 4 months pregnant with our only child. The shooter was given a 30 year sentence with no parole eligibility for 20 years.
I think the most difficult time in my life was when I lost my father 25 years ago. I was in my early 40's. I had been very reliant on him, but my mother was going through clinical depression and as an only child I became responsible for all the arrangements. I picked out the casket, arranged for his body to be flown from FL to NC (where all our relatives were) and worked with a preacher to officiate the ceremony. I had so many responsibilities I didn't have time to grieve. I remember my hubby saying he admired my determination, but when everything settled down I would cry at the most unexpected times. I set up a little "shrine" to him with some of his keepsakes and took time to grieve every day.
Yes, I got beyond it, although I frequently wish he was here to see what I've accomplished in my life. I do take solace in the fact that the wisdom he shared with me has helped me to live a happy life these days.
Yes, I got beyond it, although I frequently wish he was here to see what I've accomplished in my life. I do take solace in the fact that the wisdom he shared with me has helped me to live a happy life these days.
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I always seemed to spend time suffering from something major , only to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.. and just as I do...something else comes along and hits me with the big stick!...and I'm back on that train again...
That's a good way to look at things. If we can't change things, we either have to eventually come around and except it or be miserable. I'd rather not be miserable. Also it helps thinking of the good times you had rather dwelling on whatever made you sad.
I don't know you or your background, but I can tell by all of your responses on this site that you are a good person and a helpful person. I hope things are looking up for you because you deserve happiness.I always seemed to spend time suffering from something major , only to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.. and just as I do...something else comes along and hits me with the big stick!...and I'm back on that train again...
Oldeagle66
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Yes.... Pretty much nothing saddens me anymore. Two wives and a fiance dying, parents and two siblings passed on as well as friends. Held at gunpoint by a deranged killer holding a gun to my head for hours. Losing everything during during the 2008 financial crisis and becoming homeless and Surviving two work place explosions. By the time prostate and stage 4 throat cancer came along recently,..........I'm pretty much laid back and OH Well......lol.
It's a choice people make.As you said, but why choose to be miserable about conditions you cannot change. I've come to the conclusion that people are the sum total of all the choices they make in life. Why not make choices that will make your life better?
That's an incredible experience you shared. A lot of painful memories but what comes through is a man that would fo anything for the woman he loves. Joining a support group was such a good idea. You're a terrific person with a big heart. Every man on this site or that is familiar with your painful experience should come away knowing this a true man. A man's man.
I don't get impressed by men who hit home runs or throw a lot of touchdowns. That's just being good at a sport. I get impressed by people like you who go to extraordinary lengths for the woman he loved. You have a heart of gold and thank you for sharing a very painful time in your life with us...We are all better people now by reading about your very sad experience and a man who was courageous in his response.
You are quite a woman with so much to be proud of. At the most challenging and sad time in your life, and your mother's, too, you were strong and the person your family counted on the most. Stay strong and be happy now and look back at a time that you showed incredible courage and helped the family around you deal with unbearable pain.
But as you said, you always see the light at the end of the tunnel. Don't be depressed. You're a strong woman who always comes back ready for the next challenge life throws at them.I always seemed to spend time suffering from something major , only to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.. and just as I do...something else comes along and hits me with the big stick!...and I'm back on that train again...
We have no control about many things in our life but we have total control over how we react to them.
A beautiful and caring thought from someone who has great compassion even for folks she doesn't know that well. This is what empathy looks and sounds like.
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My apologies for thinking you were a woman. Sorry about that but my response is still the same to you as I posted. As you can see, even with the best of intentions, I ness up!You are quite a woman with so much to be proud of. At the most challenging and sad time in your life, and your mother's, too, you were strong and the person your family counted on the most. Stay strong and be happy now and look back at a time that you showed incredible courage and helped the family around you deal with unbearable pain.
Oldeagle66
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Honestly, I would have snatched off both of our Rolex watches and handed them over. More practical and safer. I'm not dying over a watch.