Just because you start a thread doesn't mean you own that thread

hollydolly

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..and cannot dictate what gets posted on it.

Obviously if a thread has gone badly off topic, you can ask for everyone to stay on topic but you cannot demand that only specific certain things be posted on it..

For example if you post about Trucks, and someone mentions that along with a truck they also owned a motorbike, you cannot insist they don't post about motorbikes.. in context with the thread.... however if they continue only posting about motorbikes and nothing else, you can reasonably ask them to stay on topic....but you cannot order them to not post about a motorbike.. specifically because you have no knowledge of it..

I just wanted to make sure everyone know this...after I received a PM telling me that I can't post a certain subject...( I made one mention of a subject that was very close to the topic subject )... because the OP of the thread had no knowledge of it... ...

...that cannot happen.. this person called the thread ''My thread'.. just because you start a thread doesn't make it your thread.. it's an Opening Post made by you, but once on the forum, the thread belongs to everyone.. and no-one aside from Admin @Matrix can dictate who posts on it.. or in fact what is posted...
 

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JeeperDon said:
I find it odd that some places in the world use Hoover as a generic term for vacuum cleaner. Some places use Jeep the same way, for any 4x4. 😁
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yes we use Hoover as a generic term..but here on the forum I try to always say Vac , due to the majority of posters being Non Brits in case people presume I'm using a Hoover..and not the Miele which I have..

..and yes even Jeep is pretty standard around here about 4x4's. except of course when people are being specific...
 
I have a great idea, the thread originator gets to moderate their own thread! That way they never have to worry about others comments, opinions or stories stealing their thunder, they just delete delete delete.

Ahh, to be the ultimate ruler supreme over my very own thread, that's power to brag about.
 
C50 said:
I have a great idea, the thread originator gets to moderate their own thread! That way they never have to worry about others comments, opinions or stories stealing their thunder, they just delete delete delete.

Ahh, to be the ultimate ruler supreme over my very own thread, that's power to brag about.
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LOL...you could always start your own forum :D
 
There are forums where staying on topic is a rule and is strictly enforced. Neither strict enforcement or freedom to take other's threads off topic is ideal.

As someone who seldom starts a thread, I prefer the idea of being polite enough not to deliberately derail topics that others want to talk about, especially when it's so easy to start a thread on motorbikes when you don't want to talk about trucks.
 
Myrtle said:
There are forums where staying on topic is a rule and is strictly enforced. Neither strict enforcement or freedom to take other's threads off topic is ideal.

As someone who seldom starts a thread, I prefer the idea of being polite enough not to deliberately derail topics that others want to talk about, especially when it's so easy to start a thread on motorbikes when you don't want to talk about trucks.
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no this wasn't about derailing the thread by talking about a different subject..it was about mentioning the ''motorbike'' just once in a post which included the mention of trucks.. simple as that...
 
hollydolly said:
no this wasn't about derailing the thread by talking about a different subject..it was about mentioning the ''motorbike'' just once in a post which included the mention of trucks.. simple as that...
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Ok, obviously I don't know the specifics so perhaps I shouldn't have replied at all.

I was simply relating my experience with rules in forums. Since you replied I will say that as a member of a forum I prefer written rules that are clear. I'm not asking for them, been there, done that, just sayin'.
 
If a thread I start goes off on a tangent -or several tangents-I don’t mind.
I’m on a railway forum where the mods get upset and post a warning in red if a thread starts to go off topic.
Don’t like that.
I stopped posting on one long running thread here after getting moaned at twice because the OP objected to what I’d posted via PM.And I wasn’t even off topic.Or rude.Difficult to be on the thread concerned.
Threads go where they go….and as long as they don’t get personal I can’t see a problem.
 
oldaunt said:
And no one gets to make rules here but matrix, right HD?
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I suppose the irritating thing is when posts get deleted when a poster is replying to someone who they are in agreement with. No explanation then given as to why it was deleted. Leaving the poster to wonder what was done or said that was wrong.

Therefore being excluded from a thread when others there are posting the same or similar.
 
Personally I'm thrilled if anyone even reads and replies to a thread I start, I don't think it would matter if the replies got off-topic. And I'd definitely feel an emotional reaction to getting lectured at via PM (or publicly on the thread maybe would be worse, depending on whether anyone defended me), but I'm over-sensitive maybe, or at least I wish I was more calm and non-reactive.
 
I view threads as if they were conversations. They go where they go. We all know how it goes. One mentioning their new truck in a conversation, then someone else saying, I had a truck that was so great for hauling my dirt bikes to places where I could off-road, then another chiming in about how they loved riding dirt bikes and have now transitioned to mountain biking, then another saying, I never mountain biked, but fell the first time I tried mountain climbing and had to be helicoptered to a hospital because of a broken femur, then another saying, I broke a wrist once, but OMG a femur must have been terrible. Then the conversation wanders to hospitals, crutches, the state of medical care, etc.

Can you imagine the original person saying, "Um, EXCUSE ME, we were talking about my truck!!! Stay on topic, people."
 

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