I never understood how many victims stay in an abusive relationship or parents who had junky kids lie,cheat and steal from them and others for decades. Parents, eh ok stand by your child during the process is onething but anything after is voluntary, especially with adult children. I think there is a combination of denial and blame game at play here ie they believed their daughter's abuse excuse. I've seen families seperate and split for far less. There are certain lines one does not cross in life and I guess with this family murder is not one of them.
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I never understood how many victims stay in an abusive relationship or parents who had junky kids lie,cheat and steal from them and others for decades. Parents, eh ok stand by your child during the process is onething but anything after is voluntary, especially with adult children. I think there is a combination of denial and blame game at play here ie they believed their daughter's abuse excuse. I've seen families seperate and split for far less. There are certain lines one does not cross in life and I guess with this family murder is not one of them.
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I will try to find the link of the interview.its in French but there are English sub titles.
Whatinthe,staying in an abusive situation is out of fear,among other circumstances.
She did go with the 'abused wife' excuse here.
If I understood right,in prison,she had a rrelationship with a man that murdered his wife.I don't believe she wasn't a willing participant and it wasn't just murder,there was video of her.
I just can't fit it in my mind about these parents. Like you said,denial.
Watching herr speak made me be disgusted of her more.
Whatinthe,staying in an abusive situation is out of fear,among other circumstances.
She did go with the 'abused wife' excuse here.
If I understood right,in prison,she had a rrelationship with a man that murdered his wife.I don't believe she wasn't a willing participant and it wasn't just murder,there was video of her.
I just can't fit it in my mind about these parents. Like you said,denial.
Watching herr speak made me be disgusted of her more.
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I agree. I could never put something like that "in a box." Maybe I'm just not forgiving enough, but every time I saw her what she did would be right in front of me, and I could certainly never trust her. I think that when someone does the kinds of things she did, they've crossed a line they can never really "uncross."
I think we have to remember that people who commit these horrible crimes are dangerous sociopaths, I mean mentally disturbed. Of course they cannot be trusted as I don't believe sociopaths can be rehabilitated. Its not clear to me if she is really a sociopath though or if she could have been under the sway of Bernardo, as there is such a thing as indoctrination by a marital partner, just like people get indoctrinated into terrorist cults and they are brainwashed to commit violent acts. Even all the psychological testing she's undergone hasn't provided any definite answers as to her behavior. I think its normal for a family to stand by someone if they think she is 'sick' which might be the case here.
'uncross'. That's my attitude towards certain things. Then you are labeled 'judgemental' or 'unforgiving'. When the law/system cuts one lose from an act like this all we have to do is tolerate them. If one wants to forgive, ignore or overlook what they did that is on each individual person. I always believe there are consequences for what one does. It might not be legal but there are consequences.
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I looked this woman up online and I do not understand why she was given such a lenient plea bargain in light of the horrific crimes which she committed. She appears to have been a willing, even eager, procurer and participant in the rapes and deaths of at least three girls (the first of which was her own younger sister), and in one case in the dismemberment of the victim's remains.
Why in the world was this woman given only 12 years as a sentence for her crimes? It's just crazy.
Why in the world was this woman given only 12 years as a sentence for her crimes? It's just crazy.
I remember this case back in the mid to late 90's. We studied the case and dissected it during one of our investigative workshops. IMO, Homulka was given too light of a sentence even though she testified against her husband. Being a serial killer with at least three killings to one's credit should get no one a sweetheart deal. We do the same thing here in the U.S. Full justice was not given to the victims or their families.
To kill someone is one thing, but to add torture to the crime that they performed on the victims shows how psychotic they really are. Having a psychopath walking around and thinking that she is OK now may be right, but it may also be the wrong thinking.
To kill someone is one thing, but to add torture to the crime that they performed on the victims shows how psychotic they really are. Having a psychopath walking around and thinking that she is OK now may be right, but it may also be the wrong thinking.
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I think there is too much emphasis on a conviction or conviction on a more severe crime. I'd rather have seen them both convicted of at least one murder without question and a longer sentence for the accomplice because she was an accomplice and not a victim.
On people wondering how someone could marry or ignore what this women did. In current events we have the affluenza mom who aided and abetted her son's(killer of four) escape going so far as to give him money for strippers. I think people go into such denial or refuse to admit that someone they are associated with is really messed up probably because they feel it reflects on them.