Key to happiness

Pepper said:
I can't imagine ever being happy again. I know I will, esp. when I see son/grandson. That's fleeting. I feel hurt, damaged, stepped on, hopeless, powerless & broke & broken. I apologize. Too many years of loneliness and poor health. I can't get a grip. I'm so sorry to be behaving this way in front of all you good people. Don't waste your time on me I'm not worth it.
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I think the OP said it best about gratefulness. No matter how bad things get you can always find something to be grateful for and it helps.
Think of one thing right now.
 

Pepper: I was in your "place" 40 years ago (depressed, divorced, 3 teens). I was referred to a physicatrist - basically I was advised to do things for me (as my children will be moving on with their lives.)

I realized that daily exercise helped with my depression - Flash (dog) requires 3 miles of walking a day.
 
Pepper, BC Flash is right about exercise. Not laid-back, maybe-today exercise, but a formal plan religiously kept will help you, I know it will. And when you are depressed, your diet suffers. Try to eat well, and keep us posted.
 
Pepper said:
I can't imagine ever being happy again. I know I will, esp. when I see son/grandson. That's fleeting. I feel hurt, damaged, stepped on, hopeless, powerless & broke & broken. I apologize. Too many years of loneliness and poor health. I can't get a grip. I'm so sorry to be behaving this way in front of all you good people. Don't waste your time on me I'm not worth it.
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You just hush up baby and Get on the Line. šŸ˜€
 
Nobody can possibly be happy all the time.

The key to happiness, has never been and never will be found on this earth. How can it? Look what we are, we are incapable of peace except very temporarily. Happiness is very fleeting.

I now seek to be accepting, stoic, realistic. I do the things that comfort and distract me, such as reading and good food. I do have joy in small things, but overall I am a pessimist. My life has had many wonderful highs and very deep lows. As old age sets in I know plenty of suffering is in store and I do not know what the answers are.

I am a Christian, I believe only in heaven is true happiness going to come. That is my hope and comfort one day.

It's good to be able to say these things here because nobody allows you to say such things in everyday life. We are all supposed to be cheerful and not be a misery. Nobody wants to address the prospect of death. I get the idea that people think if they refuse to think about it, it will not happen. But it's all around us and could happen at any moment. No amount of money or power can save anyone.

So I suppose little joys each day are the way and do the best you can.
 
Rose65 said:
Nobody can possibly be happy all the time.

The key to happiness, has never been and never will be found on this earth. How can it? Look what we are, we are incapable of peace except very temporarily. Happiness is very fleeting.

I now seek to be accepting, stoic, realistic. I do the things that comfort and distract me, such as reading and good food. I do have joy in small things, but overall I am a pessimist. My life has had many wonderful highs and very deep lows. As old age sets in I know plenty of suffering is in store and I do not know what the answers are.

I am a Christian, I believe only in heaven is true happiness going to come. That is my hope and comfort one day.

It's good to be able to say these things here because nobody allows you to say such things in everyday life. We are all supposed to be cheerful and not be a misery. Nobody wants to address the prospect of death. I get the idea that people think if they refuse to think about it, it will not happen. But it's all around us and could happen at any moment. No amount of money or power can save anyone.

So I suppose little joys each day are the way and do the best you can.
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I'm sorry, I find that utterly depressing.
 
Death is a natural end to life, and not a fearful boogeyman. If you never THINK about it, you will not be prepared for it. As in who will care for my pets when I am gone. Don't take up ground space with my carcass. Cremate please. You know, all that stuff. And drop a sandwich? Not sad, just make another. Dog cleaned up THAT one. Geez people! If life upsets you all so much, why does death scare you?
 
oldaunt said:
Death is a natural end to life, and not a fearful boogeyman. If you never THINK about it, you will not be prepared for it. As in who will care for my pets when I am gone. Don't take up ground space with my carcass. Cremate please. You know, all that stuff. And drop a sandwich? Not sad, just make another. Dog cleaned up THAT one. Geez people! If life upsets you all so much, why does death scare you?
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:) You make many assumptions, oldaunt, of the general cowardice and inferiority of people. When we are gone, what we want no longer matters, burned or buried, pets or not. The key to seek is not to happiness, but to calm.
 
gruntlabor said:
:) You make many assumptions, oldaunt, of the general cowardice and inferiority of people. When we are gone, what we want no longer matters, burned or buried, pets or not. The key to seek is not to happiness, but to calm.
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You do you, and I will stick to my Zen. Yes its an end, but why should my pet be left to starve and suffer when I can make provisions for them? Some humans actually care about such things.
 
oldaunt said:
You do you, and I will stick to my Zen. Yes its an end, but why should my pet be left to starve and suffer when I can make provisions for them? Some humans actually care about such things.
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Many, many humans, if not most, care about such things, but okay, I will just do me, and try to mind my own business. That's never easy though.
 

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