Charlie009
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As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that life teaches us lessons we often wish we had known earlier. Some are about relationships, some about patience, happiness, or simply appreciating the small moments.
Lesson I Learned After Turning 60
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The most valuable lesson to learn in life is to cultivate self-compassion and embrace the present moment, recognising that change is constant, failure is a teacher, and true, lasting fulfillment comes from within, not from external validation or material possessions.
Embrace Impermanence: understand that "this too shall pass." Bad times are temporary, and good times should be cherished before they fade.
You cannot control others, but you can control your own reactions, actions, and perspective, allowing you to create your own happiness and peace. Treat others with kindness and respect, regardless of their background or beliefs, as this creates a positive, lasting impact.
View every experience, especially failure, as a lesson. Be curious and accept that you are a student of life. Attention is a limited, valuable resource. Spend it wisely on what truly matters to you, rather than on trivialities or things out of your control. Don't wait for the perfect moment; set goals, be consistent, and ask for what you want.
Embrace Impermanence: understand that "this too shall pass." Bad times are temporary, and good times should be cherished before they fade.
You cannot control others, but you can control your own reactions, actions, and perspective, allowing you to create your own happiness and peace. Treat others with kindness and respect, regardless of their background or beliefs, as this creates a positive, lasting impact.
View every experience, especially failure, as a lesson. Be curious and accept that you are a student of life. Attention is a limited, valuable resource. Spend it wisely on what truly matters to you, rather than on trivialities or things out of your control. Don't wait for the perfect moment; set goals, be consistent, and ask for what you want.
hollydolly
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So what have you learned ?
hollydolly
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I think , speaking from experience you only worry about it if you don't have it...
Aunt Bea
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Learning how to say No, Thank You was probably the most important thing that I’ve learned as an adult.
I spent most of my life trying to please others, now it’s all about me!
I spent most of my life trying to please others, now it’s all about me!
Right, but people with money still want more money.
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Veronica
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I learned that you dont have to justify your decisions and argue with somebody about why you dont want to do something.
"Because I dont want to" is a perfectly acceptable response.
No works too if youre not feeling chatty.
"Because I dont want to" is a perfectly acceptable response.
No works too if youre not feeling chatty.
KSav
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Yessss. I learned that particular lesson 'way too late.
hearlady
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I was just thinking this morning my about my needing to live in the present.
I've learned to let the past go but I still spend way too much time worrying about tomorrow.
I've learned to let the past go but I still spend way too much time worrying about tomorrow.
Same here, learning to say no sure has made my life easier.Learning how to say No, Thank You was probably the most important thing that I’ve learned as an adult.
I spent most of my life trying to please others, now it’s all about me!
-Oy-
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Indeed. There's a lot of power and happiness to be achieved from having 'Enough Money'.I don’t want more, I just want enough!
Charlie009
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I’ve learned that growing older is a privilege not everyone gets. Each wrinkle carries a story, and every season of life has its own beautySo what have you learned ?
officerripley
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A lesson I wish I had learned much earlier is that you can't convince someone to like you.
Well said, I've learned the same things and am better for it.
I've learned to put things in perspective, when something seems really bad or feeling really down, I look at the Big Picture and quickly am reminded that many people are going through or have gone through much worse than I am experiencing.
I've learned that being sensitive and empathetic is not a bad thing, but something to be cherished. I've learned to embrace my weaknesses and strengths, they are what makes me, me.
I've learned that being sensitive and empathetic is not a bad thing, but something to be cherished. I've learned to embrace my weaknesses and strengths, they are what makes me, me.
CaliS
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I still worry about money... Not today, but what about tomorrow? What if I outlive my savings?
I really try not to worry --- and I tell my husband not to worry --- but sometimes, it's hard not to!
Messy
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Some years ago I had a manager who had to get someone out and I was so dumb to tell him I needed more work. Oh you have nothing to do? Move it then.
I have to take care of 3 kids. So a guy at the office helped me, he was from some organization and he said: They can't fire you if you're crazy. The manager was a control freak and wanted me tested, so I filled the questions from some psychological test in wrong. I just lied.
So then they said I was nuts. I felt guilty. I had to speak to a psychiater. I thought: I can't do this. I'm christian. You may not lie. So I said to her that there was actually nothing the matter.
She asked if I wasn't worried about losing my job, since I have to take care of my kids and am single. I said no I'm not worried. Thinking: Cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you. Don't worry about what you will eat, drink cause Your heavenly Father knows you need that. But I didn't say that cause why bother a non christian psychiater with Bible texts.
It was absurd to her that I did not worry.
LOL She put on paper, well in more fancy words, but it was: she's nuts but too dumb to realize. And because of that they couldn't fire me LOL.
I still felt guilty. When we finally got rid of him (some ppl were at home with a burnout or took another job because of him) and got a new great manager I just told him I filled it in wrong and everything. He said: Ah who cares. You do your job well.
Restored
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Turn off the news and never turn it on. The news is not designed to impart information. It's designed to sell commercials. The OJ trial ruined the news cycle. Nowadays, we are all glued to what amounts to a "slow moving white Bronco". Print media is better because it is difficult to impart fear and sense of urgency in that space.
After 60, you usually have more money than time. Don't deny yourself of small pleasures. I'll drive 30 minutes to buy a good bag of coffee now.
Learn to be happy to be in your own company. Traveling solo is much easier sometimes and my wife likes a break from me.
After 60, you usually have more money than time. Don't deny yourself of small pleasures. I'll drive 30 minutes to buy a good bag of coffee now.
Learn to be happy to be in your own company. Traveling solo is much easier sometimes and my wife likes a break from me.
I detach myself from the news. I may read or watch them casually, but I would not attach any emotion to the news, it's not worth it.
jlhog
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The only lesson I have learned is Getting Old Sucks" I want to be 30 again and stay there.