Life's little stressors

Mr. Ed

Mr. Ed

Be what you is not what you what you ain’t
Location
Central NY
Perhaps my work environment is the most stressful for me. A couple of weeks ago I reported a HIPPA violation to the program manager, however, my coworker who took the call got super angry at me because according to her she wanted to report the incident. However, when my coworker did not report the incident, I texted the PM and showed my coworker her response.

My coworker verbally sliced me up and down, refusing any conversation on my part. Before this happened we were close friends, but now being the blunt of rage I am super cautious when she is near me.

I took a week off for COVID testing and to allow my mouth to heal after oral surgery. I returned to work I week ago Monday, my coworker's day off, then Tuesday on my acupuncture my coworker calls me and asked if we were good? I said yes. I had supervision on Friday, when I emerged from the PM's a new-hire who is being trained by my coworker and who also witnessed the ordeal beforehand inquired about my the context of supervision. I asked the new-hire, "why are you probing?" Which I took as whether I said anything about my coworker? My worker and I agreed not to speak of the incident again.

I cannot change the behavior of others, but I can equip myself with ways to cope more efficiently. Getting older, compounded by loss of ability and stamina, effects my mood and how I see myself. So, I'm starting counseling today.

Exercise is important, so two days a week I swim at the YMCA to resume Open Water Scuba Certification in the spring.

Surrounding myself with positive people, my pastor is coming over today for theological conversation.

Weekly Acupuncture treatment.

After surgery, all I could do was give my body time to heal, however, I learned my body heals itself at a rate much slower than I wanted it to. Somewhat patiently, I waited until now to begin an intense effort to understand what I can accomplish as I grow older. My counselor, hopefully, will encourage positivity and greater esteem
 

It doesn't help that people have changed a lot and they get so nasty at work now over little petty things. I have similar issues. I hate working but I'm too young to retire and I have no retirement money so it is what it is. But it's the pits to deal with.
 
You’re taking a proactive approach, Mr Ed. Good on you.
 

Good for you, Mr. Ed. Stressors cause stress upon the cardiovascular and gastrointestinal systems as well as mental health and certain skin disorders such as psoriasis and flare-up of facial herpes simplex due to impact on the immune system.

But not everyone can maintain your attitude to fight stress. We may think we can consciously, but not at the subconscious level.
 
At least you can still cope with stress. One evening last week I became panic-stricken over a rumbling sound that kept getting louder. Because the hearing in my left ear is so compromised, I can't tell where sound is coming from anymore. As the rumbling increased in volume I jumped up ready to run out of the house. It was then I happened to look out the window in time to see a snowplow go rumbling by. I felt like a fool but the damn thing really scared me. I doubt I could work anymore if something that insignificant gives me fits. Good luck with your therapy and acupuncture, I hope they work for you.
 
Judycat said:
At least you can still cope with stress. One evening last week I became panic-stricken over a rumbling sound that kept getting louder. Because the hearing in my left ear is so compromised, I can't tell where sound is coming from anymore. As the rumbling increased in volume I jumped up ready to run out of the house. It was then I happened to look out the window in time to see a snowplow go rumbling by. I felt like a fool but the damn thing really scared me. I doubt I could work anymore if something that insignificant gives me fits. Good luck with your therapy and acupuncture, I hope they work for you.
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There's nothing wrong with my hearing and sometimes unidentified sounds scare me too. You're not a fool.
 
Be compassionate with these souls in need.
The world is in a new bitterness of needy souls.
The souls strike out at those who do them no harm.
Understanding the sadness of these souls must be given.

If one could uderstand why these souls are so upset, you can treat these as people who are in illness or in pain.
Interaction with these people is difficult in most cases. They are afraid, angry or sad.
Many are only aware of their own needs and desires and don't care about others.

Try to help them, for they are children in their minds. Many are lonely.
Many are without joy in their lives. Try to listen and understand.

I should add: IMO
 
Judycat said:
At least you can still cope with stress. One evening last week I became panic-stricken over a rumbling sound that kept getting louder. Because the hearing in my left ear is so compromised, I can't tell where sound is coming from anymore. As the rumbling increased in volume I jumped up ready to run out of the house. It was then I happened to look out the window in time to see a snowplow go rumbling by. I felt like a fool but the damn thing really scared me. I doubt I could work anymore if something that insignificant gives me fits. Good luck with your therapy and acupuncture, I hope they work for you
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you're the greatest, Thank you
 
Hang in there Ed. I don't think a day goes by that someone at work isn't irritated with me. I have basically just stopped talking and I just try to go in and do my job and go home. At the end of the day it's about taking care of clients and earning a paycheck. To hell with the others. These companies want us to turn people in but there's no support when we do. I think it's horrible.
 
MarciKS said:
It doesn't help that people have changed a lot and they get so nasty at work now over little petty things. I have similar issues. I hate working but I'm too young to retire and I have no retirement money so it is what it is. But it's the pits to deal with.
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You have my sympathy. No matter how much you enjoy the actual work, people can make life uncomfortable. When I retired, I started working in a charity shop but had to leave because one of the other helpers was unpleasant and make the environment difficult to work in.
 
I'm sorry for all you good folks. I retired 20 years ago & I strongly believe that "The worse day in retirement is better than the best day at work." I feel sorry for people who fell for that propaganda about having "human rights" to work until the day you die. I have enjoyed 20 years of reading & traveling. I see more & more stress at the work place as the years go by. Some employees are treated like the proverbial slave working in fear of being fired. When I worked, you had a job for life. Guess, I was lucky but I retired with no debts & because of that I sleep well each night. I don't miss the "dog eat dog" world out there. Stress at work is a killer. I wish you all the best of luck; hang in there.
 
Mr Ed I sympathize with what it feels like to have someone you thought you had a good relationship with pull a Jekyll and Hyde number. Happened to me recently and at least it wasn’t someone I have to be around a lot.
Doing great on the swimming! I was a regular year round lap swimmer, any kind of swimmer for many years, until a broken leg didn’t recover as well as hoped.
But that and “rowing along” standard shift cars for many years gave me shoulder arthritis.
But on the plus side, I recently had full eval of heart & lungs, they are in great shape, & I really think I owe that to the swimming.
 
I have supervision today; it is my intention to ask how I may assist coworkers and residents on their caseload. As peer support, I am not responsible for a caseload, so I help my coworkers by lessening their work load.
 
Learning what you can control & letting what you can't control makes for less stress.

A couple of weeks ago I reported a HIPPA violation to the program manager, however, my coworker who took the call got super angry at me because according to her she wanted to report the incident.
Couldn't control

My coworker verbally sliced me up and down, refusing any conversation on my part. Before this happened we were close friends, but now being the blunt of rage "I am super cautious when she is near me."
you took control

I asked the new-hire, "why are you probing?" Which I took as whether I said anything about my coworker?
you took control


My worker and I agreed not to speak of the incident again.
The control worked.
 
I have supervision today; it is my intention to ask how I may assist coworkers and residents on their caseload. As peer support, I am not responsible for a caseload, so I help my coworkers by lessening their load.
My coworker seems somewhat back to herself after last week's slashing. I didn't feel it necessary to bring up what happened last during supervision today. It would be like recreating a settled incident because looking back is not the same as looking forward unless revenge is what you have mind.
 

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