Little white lies

Wren

Wren

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We all tell a little white lie now and then, how often do you do it and when was the last time you told one ?

Mine was last week when a canvasser wanted to chat and I told him “Sorry, I’m just cooking my husbands lunch” ......(that’s my invisible husband by the way) ...:bigwink:
 

yes...I'll tell a friend something I know she might want to hear even if I don't feel the same as her..just to spare her feelings for example..

Last white lie I told...ok big fat fib was ...the other day when my gossiping neighbour cornered my husband as he got out of his car before he had a chance to get to the door. She talks for England, and he's too polite to walk away, even though all the neighbours avoid her like the plague... so after he'd had about 10 minutes of her gossiping in his ear , I opened the door to tell him he him he had a phone call.. *not* lol...so he was able to quickly escape
 
When someone calls and I don't recognize the # and they ask if they can speak with Terry, I say, he just left, would you like to leave a message? That's about it except when my daughter calls and asks if I am okay and I say yes because she is in Va. and could not help me anyway.
 

My life is too boring to have to tell lies--much.:eek: But I did tell a white lie recently. I had an e-mail from a friend but I didn't feel like answering for a couple of days. Then finally when I did, I told her sorry, but I only just found her message in my spam folder. And then I thought better of it, and then re-wrote that sentence and told her sorry, I hadn't seen her message earlier. Which of course was a white lie, too. But in my estimation it was less of a lie than my first white lie.

Where do you draw the line with telling white lies?
 
Olivia said:
My life is too boring to have to tell lies--much.:eek: But I did tell a white lie recently. I had an e-mail from a friend but I didn't feel like answering for a couple of days. Then finally when I did, I told her sorry, but I only just found her message in my spam folder. And then I thought better of it, and then re-wrote that sentence and told her sorry, I hadn't seen her message earlier. Which of course was a white lie, too. But in my estimation it was less of a lie than my first white lie.

Where do you draw the line with telling white lies?
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Good question. Probably when we embellish them, then they become blatant lies!!
 
Most of the time I try not to say what I'm really thinking or intentionally omit some information from the conversation, is that lying?

I have been known to lie to people that I care about when I believe it is kinder than telling them the truth.
 
Aunt Bea said:
Most of the time I try not to say what I'm really thinking or intentionally omit some information from the conversation, is that lying?

I have been known to lie to people that I care about when I believe it is kinder than telling them the truth.
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Sometimes i think you can't win whatever you do...if you withhold information or the truth for example, to spare someone's feelings it called ''lying by Omission''.
 
Wives can pin you to the wall with loaded questions. Over the years I've learned that rather than tell a white lie, answering her with the same question works better.
Something as simple when going out, a question like how does my hair look after she just spent 20 minutes fussing with it used to be a problem. Now it's "I'm not a good judge" what do you think. Self predication works.
 
The last lie I told was when a scammer called and asked for me by name ...I said sorry no that’s my mother and she’s at bingo right now can I take a message :)
My mother passed away about 40 years ago
 
I rarely lie. My conscience bothers me too much. I guess my folks always told me to tell the truth, so I do, 98% of the time. I can't remember, in truth, the last time I told a lie.
 
treeguy64 said:
I rarely lie. My conscience bothers me too much. I guess my folks always told me to tell the truth, so I do, 98% of the time. I can't remember, in truth, the last time I told a lie.
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Same with my folks. It can be quite a burden at times. LOL I'm not even good at deflecting. I can keep quiet though.
 
I told my SO that I would never, ever, never lie to her.

Unless, of course, it was more convenient than telling the truth....
 
I'm the biggest liar in the world if it serves a purpose. If it's something uncomfortable for a friend, for example, I'll tell any kind of lies

to relieve them of their discomfort. "NO, Sweetheart, those new slacks don't make your fat a$$ look fat."
 
I have been know to tell a few white lies in my time and have been caught red handed on one occasion.. Quite a few years ago my hubby had an old uncle who took up braiding rugs of all things. We had him over for dinner one evening and when he was about to leave he opened the trunk to his car and there laid the most ungodly colored braided rugs you ever wanted to lay your eyes on.

He proudly told me I could have first choice. I picked the one that I thought would go nicely in the tool shed but kept that thought to myself. It ended up in our little sitting room. Bright orange and blue on top of my cranberry rug. To top it off the thing just wouldn't wear out. I couldn't even fray the edges with the vacuum and it even repelled bleach.

Finally one day when the hubby was at work I picked it up and stored it away in the basement. One step closer to the garbage can I thought. The hubby didn't seem to notice. A few years after that I had a garage sale and was finally able to unload the thing on some lady who I am sure was color blind.
It came back to haunt me though. Many years later my hubby happened to think of the rug. I told him I had no idea what happened to it. My dear daughter happened to be there at the time and said,"don't you remember Mom?You sold it at a garage sale."The hubby didn't talk to me for a week and that horrible rug was never mentioned again and I made darn sure my daughter didn't bring it up again.
 
I never feel the need to spare the feelings of phone solicitors. Usually, the problem doesn't come up, because I don't answer the phone unless I recognize the caller's name.

The only white lies I will admit to uttering are those designed to spare people's feelings. "Does this make me look fat?" "Do you think this dress is too youthful for me?" "What do you think of my day-glo purple nail polish?"
Politeness requires a bit of a fib here and there.

Hey, maybe I should start my own Miss Manners column!
 
Sunny said:
I never feel the need to spare the feelings of phone solicitors. Usually, the problem doesn't come up, because I don't answer the phone unless I recognize the caller's name.

The only white lies I will admit to uttering are those designed to spare people's feelings. "Does this make me look fat?" "Do you think this dress is too youthful for me?" "What do you think of my day-glo purple nail polish?"
Politeness requires a bit of a fib here and there.

Hey, maybe I should start my own Miss Manners column!
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I admit to doing the same thing, especially when I know the person really doesn't want the truth. Usually when someone asks if these pants make them look fat, they already know they do, but want someone to say they don't. You can usually tell when someone wants an honest answer, like when my sister asks me "do these pants look too tight?" she really wants to know. And when I ask her a similar thing, I really want to know, too.
 
Sunny said:
I never feel the need to spare the feelings of phone solicitors. Usually, the problem doesn't come up, because I don't answer the phone unless I recognize the caller's name.
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I don't answer my cell unless I know who it is, but sometimes I get scammers calling my business phone. I generally scold them for their unsavory intentions by telling them to get a REAL job. I ask if their mothers know what they're doing - and is she proud of them for trying to steal people's hard-earned money.

A few will argue back, but most hang up on me. Even so, I feel a bit better after chewing them out.
 

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