Looks like a beautiful day..........now what???

Cin said:
I'm having a bit of trouble adjusting to my life alone without my guy. Friends are retiring and moving away, feel lost in a world I knew. Tired of doing everything alone.
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yes it's hard... it's been 3 years for me now... but there's nothing you can do other than just carry on

Holidays ( vacations) are the worst... but I found in the beginning that if I just went to places alone as tho' he was still around but just at home and I had taken the decision to go alone..like shopping or going to the park or visiting somewhere.. that it was a lot easier to cope with...

the hardest part is not having anyone to talk to at home.. that's still hard for me now... but this forum with all my friends.. has been a lifesaver in that respect...
 
I became disabled, and my ex and I broke up a few months later. I have to admit that, today, I'm a lot more together, and focused than when I was working and with someone. I didn't find some secret potion, or ancient mind thing. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. I don't know how it happens, but you get good at doing it. But, as far as the loss of friends, it's a hard fact of life, which is still not easy to deal with.
 
hollydolly said:
yes it's hard... it's been 3 years for me now... but there's nothing you can do other than just carry on

Holidays ( vacations) are the worst... but I found in the beginning that if I just went to places alone as tho' he was still around but just at home and I had taken the decision to go alone..like shopping or going to the park or visiting somewhere.. that it was a lot easier to cope with...

the hardest part is not having anyone to talk to at home.. that's still hard for me now... but this forum with all my friends.. has been a lifesaver in that respect...
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Yes, at home at night is the hardest. I did push and went down to the beach for a few days. It was beautiful but everywhere I looked I saw his empty chair, but with a different eye this time. One with a smile.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I became disabled, and my ex and I broke up a few months later. I have to admit that, today, I'm a lot more together, and focused than when I was working and with someone. I didn't find some secret potion, or ancient mind thing. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. I don't know how it happens, but you get good at doing it. But, as far as the loss of friends, it's a hard fact of life, which is still not easy to deal with.
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So glad to hear your doing better . Thank you for your comment. I do feel like I'm turning a corner.
 
Cin said:
Yes, at home at night is the hardest. I did push and went down to the beach for a few days. It was beautiful but everywhere I looked I saw his empty chair, but with a different eye this time. One with a smile.
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Oct.18/24 will be 18 months since Annie passed. I still miss her and this may sound stupid but now when I find myself thinking of her I find myself smiling. I think this is the same feeling that you are alluding to. When I walk Harper down our sideroad I can look to the sky or the farm fields and almost feel her presence with us. We spent a lot of time walking this sideroad together with Harper and previous dogs, or just us by ourselves. I find myself thinking of the good times we had much more than feeling lonely.
We met kind of late in life and we both had seen a few relationships. We had 19 years together. It wasn't perfect, but that doesn't exist. We learned to love each other and made the best of it.
I don't know if this helps. I wish you the best.
 
I can't even imagine, especially if you have been with someone for a long time. I mean if it was for a short time, still heartbreaking. All I know is that my mom when dad died, surrounded herself with things to do and people to be with. Volunteering as a docent at UBC, than once she moved to Alberta, was on the board for her building, she lived in one of the Legacy condos. And also the Legacy condos had many activities and excursions for their residents. It was an all inclusive living. they even had an actual chef who prepared dinners in their building. So she didn't have to be alone.
 
Now I must make absolutely certain my old ticker keeps beating and that my cholesterol-saturated blood is being properly oxygenated by my decrepit lungs rhythmically breathing in and out. :)
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I became disabled, and my ex and I broke up a few months later. I have to admit that, today, I'm a lot more together, and focused than when I was working and with someone. I didn't find some secret potion, or ancient mind thing. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. I don't know how it happens, but you get good at doing it. But, as far as the loss of friends, it's a hard fact of life, which is still not easy to deal with.
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Same here, disabled by severe full body Essential Tremor shaking. Am able to enjoy living alone because my daughters' help by shopping, doing my laundry, driving me to doctor appts. (Got a divorce many years ago.) 'Speaking' with members of a tremor forum, and here on Senior Forum, takes care of having someone with whom to talk. :giggle:
 
Elsie said:
Same here, disabled by severe full body Essential Tremor shaking. Am able to enjoy living alone because my daughters' help by shopping, doing my laundry, driving me to doctor appts. (Got a divorce many years ago.) 'Speaking' with members of a tremor forum, and here on Senior Forum, takes care of having someone with whom to talk. :giggle:
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Have you tried a bottle of PQQ? Mitochondrion helper. Helps stop tremors, muscle spasms. Elders are leveled with low levels. PQQ brings levels back. See if you don’t feel sharper witted too.
 
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Diagsnosed with the neurological disorder Essential Tremor. I shake mostly from waist up with any movement I make. Writing is chicken scratching. :) No cure, but could be fairly well controlled through brain surgery--wires placed in the brain-- no thank you. It's not deadly, but alters every aspect of one's life. I've tried many meds, none helped. I've no need to exercise to burn calories, my E Ttremor shaking does the job for me. :D
 
Elsie said:
neurological disorder Essential Tremor
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I am sorry to hear that you have ET. It seems many others have it also. They don't know what causes it, maybe genetic. There are many support groups you can join. Sounds like you are in good spirits about it. How long have you had this? I have Peripheral nerve damage. I have had to learn to live with it daily.
 
Now what? Now we plunge our heads into a bucket of ice-cold water in order to make absolutely sure that we are fully awake and not hallucinating.
 

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