Loud talking = more stressful

CinnamonSugar

CinnamonSugar

A Quiet American
I've always been sensitive to sound/noise but it seems to be getting worse. Was at Ed's this AM and he has a lady that comes in daily; she arrived while I was there and when she talks, it not only hurts my ears but now I feel-- I'm not even sure how to decribe it-- like I'm 'under fire.' I physically recoil and I feel like I'm going to cry with the stress.

Anyone else have this experience and what--if anything-- helped you? Thanks
 

My daughter is a loud talker. I have to remind her from time to time to use her inside voice. My ears are very sensitive from wearing a headset while flying for 38 years. I flew 33 years for United and five years for a private charter corporation. When Air Traffic Controllers talk, sometimes they are loud, very loud and I have that driver or speaker right against my ear and I hear all communications, not just to my plane, but to every plane he is watching, which may be as many as ten planes.
 
@CinnamonSugar, I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I can relate so much since I too have hearing sensitivity that has gotten worse with age. So many people today are loud in general, every where and they don't care nor understand it. My only solution has been to avoid these people as much as possible and then do self care, whatever relaxing techniques you have to not let it grate on your nerves.
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
I talk very loud, being from a really loud family from NY. Occasionally I realize I am yelling and I moderate, but thinking about it now, I wonder if I've alienated potential or even long time friends?
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Friends from similar backgrounds probably don't notice or aren't bothered even if they do. New acquaintances from more reserved environments might wait till a later action to see if it is standard for you in all settings.

However, my feeling is someone who liked you in general and what you say, and wanted to be a friend should respect you enough to mention it if it is hard on their ears rather than silently minimize interactions or withdraw entirely.
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
I talk very loud, being from a really loud family from NY. Occasionally I realize I am yelling and I moderate, but thinking about it now, I wonder if I've alienated potential or even long time friends?
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Me too, Marcy, fellow New Yorker. Most of us are quite loud, which I'm grateful for as I can't hear low talkers. I don't mean to be loud, I just am. Sorry in advance if I ever talk to one of you guys.

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Hey Marcy, call me, we'll shout at each other!
 
I am from NY state and I think we are quieter here. My in-laws lived on LI and they hurt my ears when I first met them. I had to get used to them over time. I have a very quiet voice and even if I yell nobody hears me. :(

I am sensitive to loud voices and noises. I have turned off all the alerts on my telephone and computer because I can't stand even those. Living in a building with people who have hearing issues means there are some very loud people here. I can't get away from them fast enough. One guy across the hall and down a bit farther is so loud I can hear every word he says on his phone.
 
I've always had sensory issues and find loud voices to be sonic assault, I cringe just thinking about it. When I encounter someone with a loud and penetrating voice it's feels like a physical force pushing me away.

Fortunately I only know a couple of people who talk that loudly and am only around them ocassionally so it's not a big deal.
 
C50 said:
I've always had sensory issues and find loud voices to be sonic assault, I cringe just thinking about it. When I encounter someone with a loud and penetrating voice it's feels like a physical force pushing me away.

Fortunately I only know a couple of people who talk that loudly and am only around them ocassionally so it's not a big deal.
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Avoidance is key. :LOL:
 
I know of some folks who talk loud because they themselves are hard of hearing so elevate their own voice to be sure they are heard..

I have a natural loud voice that has always come in handy to call the horses in from the back forty, since I can’t whistle. I try hard to tone it down in public, but my tone of voice still carries, I’m afraid.
 
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