Loving two people at the same time

hollydolly said:
For me.. no....... it's not like loving children, that's different.... to love 2 men with the same intensity...no...
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Holly is right, monogamy allows for the development of deep, trusting bonds and emotional intimacy by focusing all romantic attention and affection on one partner. This exclusive focus can foster a strong sense of security and belonging, leading to a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship.
By its very nature, monogamy minimises the potential for jealousy and conflict that can arise from multiple partners or relationships.
The shared commitment and understanding within a monogamous marriage can create a more stable and harmonious environment.
Monogamous marriages often serve as a foundation for stable family units.The shared responsibility and commitment within a monogamous relationship can create a more secure and supportive environment for raising children.
Sharing resources within a monogamous marriage can lead to greater financial stability and security. This can be particularly beneficial when raising a family or navigating life's challenges together. Monogamous marriage is the most widely accepted and recognized form of marriage in many societies. This can provide a sense of social support and validation for those who choose this path.
 

At different levels yes. For example you wouldnt love your sibling the same as you would your spouse.
Some can have opposite sex friends that are like siblings. Others cant. Thats a discussion for another thread.

If youre talking about romantically. Then no. If the husband told me that I would put a dent in his apparatus and he would be looking for his next wife. #sorry #not sorry
 
Do they love you back? This reminds me of the word limerence. I know someone who would get like this if a women he knew even smiled at him. It was sad to watch.

Limerence is an involuntary state of mind that results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire for the relationship to be reciprocated. It's often characterized by intense idealization of the other person and a strong craving for their affection, sometimes even when there's uncertainty about whether those feelings are returned. While limerence can be a form of love, it is distinct due to its obsessive nature and the uncertainty of reciprocation. Unlike stable romantic love, limerence is often marked by anxiety and a lack of clarity about the other person's feelings.

Limerence is a complex emotional experience that can significantly impact daily life, often leading individuals to neglect other responsibilities and relationships. Understanding this state can help individuals navigate their feelings and relationships more effectively.
 
There's a difference between "loving" someone and being "in love" with him or her.

I still love my first boyfriend from high school. He's a great guy and a very good friend. We realized that we were better as friends than as spouses.

We both have (him)/had (me) good, successful marriages. I "love" him dearly, but I am "in love" with my present guy that I've been with for 16 years.

It's a whole 'nother thing. Love is complicated.
 
Jazzy1 said:
Can we love two people at the same time? Having a loving partner, but still loving another person? What are your thoughts?
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Depends on what you mean by "love".

I mean, we all love our partners as well our our parents, don't we (generalizing, of course)?

I have a best friend, a guy, and I'd cross the globe if he needed me too.

If you're talking two people of the opposite sex, one being your partner and the other being someone else, well yeah, I think you can do that too. However, your higher brain functions ought to know that you are more committed to your partner and you should never cross the line.

Actually, we could do with a whole lot more love in this world.
 
If you mean “in love with 2 people at the same time,” yes, it’s possible, however, if you’re married, you may be having an emotional or other type of an affair with the other person.
 
Born_To_Lose said:
If you mean “in love with 2 people at the same time,” yes, it’s possible, however, if you’re married, you may be having an emotional or other type of an affair with the other person.
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Isn't that a little more complicated? I mean, if you love the other person and are lusting after them, then yeah, it's a problem. But if you simply deeply care for them.... what's the harm?

In fact, when searching for a partner, did you look for someone who loved no-one, or someone with some compassion?
 
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