When my husband died I quit doing the things I always did, that includes cooking. I had been a good wife and mother and took care of everything, putting myself last. I was going through major burn out when my husband was diagnosed with AZ. I took care of him 4 yrs, then over saw his care for 9 months. Now I do what I please. I get invitations, but I say no. I have one friend who wants me to go with her to their dinner. She brings me dinner and I toss it. She dropped a couple of nights ago to see if I was okay, stayed about 10 minutes. Grrrr.... I am going to have to be more forceful with her and tell to stop feeling sorry for me, it is my choice to be alone.