Miami mother hit's her daughter in her face, body slams her than chokes her

[Happy Heart]

I did the same I readily admit. I was 17 going on 18.. and I was standing looking out of the window just musing.. and suddenly she attacked me... it was such a shock.. that I retaliated for the first time ever... and I grabbed her and pushed her hard off me and she fell back onto the sofa... as you say... I never forgot the look of shock on her face that told me she realised she could no longer beat me without retaliation...

With regard to belt or the paddle I got the same choices on a few occasions .. belt or Slipper... bare backside.... we'd choose the slipper, and so we would get the belt... of course it took us ( my brother and me).. some time to cotton on to choose the worst one because then they would use the other..
Mostly I didn't get the choice they would lash out... my father was particualrly handy with kicking.... and dragging by the hair...

I'm sorry you too had an abusive childhood.... regardless of choices we make in adulthood, all children deserve to be loved.. we didn't ask to be here.. it's like they were forced into having us, and resented it.... and they destroyed our childhoods because THEY didn't use contraception.. and that's the base level of it...

They are all gone now so we need to stop letting them live in our head. Today, I use that energy intentionally redirect myself to not being the dope she was and treat myself, and others, well.

You need to be good to yourself now since tomorrow is thankfully gone.

 

[StarSong]

There's been a significant increase in parental abuse over the past couple decades, and a few scientists and psychologists are studying it (or have studied it), looking for specific causes. Some of the things they're looking into are food additives, chemical imbalance, physiological and social changes, bad eating habits, and adult people's absent parents/both parents worked.

My guess is that there's been a significant increase in the reporting of parental abuse. People no longer look the other way. In the US (and probably elsewhere), doctors, teachers, social workers and more are legally mandated reporters.

Thank heavens, neighbors and total strangers have few compunctions about reporting what they perceive as child abuse. Children are taught in school and elsewhere that beatings are not only horrific to endure, but also illegal.

 

[hollydolly]

They are all gone now so we need to stop letting them live in our head. Today, I use that energy intentionally redirect myself to not being the dope she was and treat myself, and others, well.

You need to be good to yourself now since tomorrow is thankfully gone.

yes I keep telling myself not to give them free rent in my head, well not my mother really..I can forgive her because she was also a victim of his violence and mental abuse .. I wish she'd stood up for us more.. but I know she was living on her nerves, and ultimately she died because she became very depressed and ended up on very strong medication.... as one would be living in that situation.. and died at 39...having taken an overdose

...trouble is.. I can't find anyone to evict them from my head.. they're in there and and there's not a lot I can do about it.....but I don't talk about it unless something like this thread appears

 

[Happy Heart]

yes I keep telling myself not to give them free rent in my head, well not my mother really..I can fogive her because she was also a victim of his violence and mental abuse .. I wish she'd stood up for us more.. but I know she was living on her nerves, and ultimately she died because she became very depressed and ended up on very stron medication.... as one would be living in that situation.. and died at 39...

trouble is.. I can't find anyone to evict them from my head.. they're in there and and there's not a lot I can do about it.....but I don't talk about it unless something like this thread appears

I hear you. It is hard because at times I still find myself doing something just like her.
We had a gay couple living directly across the street us, one was a bully and when I would see her abusing the other in the front yard pulling her around by her hair, it took all my strength to just call Adult Protection Services when I wanted to...well, I better not say on social media.
Don't let them start to loop in your brain, stop, take a break and count the blessing you do have today, like how beautiful and talented you are.