Moderation? A question about it.

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How do you feel about moderation? What did your family teach you about moderation ? Are you moderate in all things or just some ? What are you not moderate about?

My grandparents mentioned being moderate in all things almost daily. The men reached manhood at the outbreak of WWI and the girls were just teenagers. They all lived through the crash of '29 and the great depression, WWII the Korean conflict and Vietnam so the knew very good times and hard ones.

I was lectured more on moderation than I wanted to be but it can be a healthier thing in life to be moderate. I don't party, go to clubs or rock concerts anymore because I did that when I was young so now I'm moderately getting some well deserved rest. :giggle: I'm moderate in my diet eating mixtures of all foods pretty much while avoiding sugar and fats!

I'm not moderate about exercise. I love to eat but don't want to look like I love to eat and that means working out - a lot. I'm not moderate about art and creativity. When I get on a roll I could take photos, make jewelry or arrange flowers all day long and I love it so I don't get tired. I'm not moderate about having meaningful conversations either or speaking my mind if some requires that.

What about you? How do you feel about all this? I am interested to see the replies to this one.
 

Nope..I border more on hedonism now I'm older... than I did when I was younger... if I want it .. do it.. have it..I'll have as much as I want..

When I was a child, we lived in severe enforced moderation... without most things that makes life comfortable... as an adult and a first time mother, my husband earned very little after leaving the navy, and gambled it all away and we lived in poverty again...

After that marriage was over, again I lived as a single parent.. in enforced moderation because of onlymy wage coming into the house....... so now now... now in my senior years ... bring it on.. I'll have as much as I can have without depriving someone else of anything..
 

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Hollydolly, life can be cruel when we get on in years, can't do what ever we like. It just isn't fair.
Growing up watching our American Western t.v. shows I loved horseback riding in the Superstitions and Sedona imagining how life must have been. Later, the stillness of a hot air balloon over the Napa Valley, and bouncing around on a S. F. trolly were fun but still within moderation. The energy just isn't there anymore to follow my dreams.
I am reminded that life shrinks, or expands, according to ones's courage.
 
chic said:
How do you feel about moderation? What did your family teach you about moderation ? Are you moderate in all things or just some ? What are you not moderate about?

My grandparents mentioned being moderate in all things almost daily. The men reached manhood at the outbreak of WWI and the girls were just teenagers. They all lived through the crash of '29 and the great depression, WWII the Korean conflict and Vietnam so the knew very good times and hard ones.

I was lectured more on moderation than I wanted to be but it can be a healthier thing in life to be moderate. I don't party, go to clubs or rock concerts anymore because I did that when I was young so now I'm moderately getting some well deserved rest. :giggle: I'm moderate in my diet eating mixtures of all foods pretty much while avoiding sugar and fats!

I'm not moderate about exercise. I love to eat but don't want to look like I love to eat and that means working out - a lot. I'm not moderate about art and creativity. When I get on a roll I could take photos, make jewelry or arrange flowers all day long and I love it so I don't get tired. I'm not moderate about having meaningful conversations either or speaking my mind if some requires that.

What about you? How do you feel about all this? I am interested to see the replies to this one.
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I know what you mean about not wanting to look like you love to eat. Well, I love to eat too and look like it very much. It's really not so bad when you consider our culture strives to only show us mostly slim people to take after. So, I take after the bigger people and it's not so bad anymore. I don't have the expectations of myself I used to and am glad for that. This society is so superficial that mostly looks only matter to so many. There is much more to me than my body. :geek: :coffee::)
 
Happy Heart said:
Hollydolly, life can be cruel when we get on in years, can't do what ever we like. It just isn't fair.
Growing up watching our American Western t.v. shows I loved horseback riding in the Superstitions and Sedona imagining how life must have been. Later, the stillness of a hot air balloon over the Napa Valley, and bouncing around on a S. F. trolly were fun but still within moderation. The energy just isn't there anymore to follow my dreams.
I am reminded that life shrinks, or expands, according to ones's courage.
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Couldn't be any more cruel than when I was a child.... we had nothing.. we barely had the clothes on our backs... we had no blankets on our beds..

Now as I race towards 70 years old.. I refuse to do anything in moderation.. if I don't want to...
 
Being thrifty is a habit that is hard to break!! Parents (who lived through the depression) was very careful about spending money (as most people in the late 1940's, 1950's). I try to "make do" with what I have (although I could afford a "new" car, "new" appliances, "new" furniture - I would rather leave my "billions" to my children and grands. I am content with my life.
 
I left home when I was 17 years old, soon I would look at items in terms of how many hours would I have to work to pay for it. That has turned out to be the best budgeting device I ever knew. I'm sure I missed out on a lot but never missed a house payment or other bill in my life so living within my means is also moderation to me.
 
hollydolly said:
Couldn't be any more cruel than when I was a child.... we had nothing.. we barely had the clothes on our backs... we had no blankets on our beds..

Now as I race towards 70 years old.. I refuse to do anything in moderation.. if I don't want to...
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With you all the way, Holly. My mother died aged 33, Dad raised four children singlehanded, we were dirt poor, but he raised us with good values. Without a mother my siblings and I kept our clothes washed and ironed, our beds made, our home vacuumed and the sheets regularly laundered. We didn't have much but our council house home was always clean and tidy.
It would be boastful to show the home that I live in today, but if I tell you that I bought it from a premiership football player you will get the gist of my lifestyle.
 
I left home at 16 , had my own apartment , stayed in school and had a part time job while looking after myself. I must have learned moderation or I wouldn’t have been able to manage my independent life at such a young age. Sometimes I don’t give myself enough credit.
 
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horseless carriage said:
With you all the way, Holly. My mother died aged 33, Dad raised four children singlehanded, we were dirt poor, but he raised us with good values. Without a mother my siblings and I kept our clothes washed and ironed, our beds made, our home vacuumed and the sheets regularly laundered. We didn't have much but our council house home was always clean and tidy.
It would be boastful to show the home that I live in today, but if I tell you that I bought it from a premiership football player you will get the gist of my lifestyle.
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Not my friend Harry ?
 
hollydolly said:
Not my friend Harry ?
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Know wot I mean 'Arry? No not Harry, it was a goalkeeper who played for Southampton, it blew him away when we admitted that we had never been to a football game. More than that, being a couple of serious Rugby Union fans, he cracked up when my wife quipped that it was the wrong shape ball.
 
horseless carriage said:
Know wot I mean 'Arry? No not Harry, it was a goalkeeper who played for Southampton, it blew him away when we admitted that we had never been to a football game. More than that, being a couple of serious Rugby Union fans, he cracked up when my wife quipped that it was the wrong shape ball.
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OH I thought you must mean Harry Rednapp when you said a Premiership footballer.... :D
 
hollydolly said:
OH I thought you must mean Harry Rednapp when you said a Premiership footballer.... :D
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Yes, I guessed that, hence 'Arry in my previous post. Holly, footballers in the premiership don't know that they are born. I best not disclose this fellow's name but he didn't wince when I offered two thirds of his asking price. When we shook hands he said, "it's only money!" Only money? Well lucky old me!
 
As a child I lived as I was told to do for the most part until my teen years. Then I became somewhat of a rebel. As a young adult, newly married and with my son, I basically lived a moderate life and I did for my ex-husband and son. Then, I divorced my husband and became a single mom living on a teacher's salary and it was not easy.

Now I am 65 years old and newly into retirement and I am ready to take on anything. I never remarried, I saved as much as I could and I'm ready to live the relaxed and good life.
 
horseless carriage said:
Yes, I guessed that, hence 'Arry in my previous post. Holly, footballers in the premiership don't know that they are born. I best not disclose this fellow's name but he didn't wince when I offered two thirds of his asking price. When we shook hands he said, "it's only money!" Only money? Well lucky old me!
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Oh tell me about it..I know a few Premier Footballer personally.. and their wag wives
 
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Retired Monica said:
As a child I lived as I was told to do for the most part until my teen years. Then I became somewhat of a rebel. As a young adult, newly married and with my son, I basically lived a moderate life and I did for my ex-husband and son. Then, I divorced my husband and became a single mom living on a teacher's salary and it was not easy.

Now I am 65 years old and newly into retirement and I am ready to take on anything. I never remarried, I saved as much as I could and I'm ready to live the relaxed and good life.
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How are you liking being newly retired so far?
 
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