Modern rudeness- or something else?

JaniceM

JaniceM

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I've noticed many people here are knowledgeable about modern things- from pop culture to fashions/styles- so I thought I'd ask about this, as it's one of those many things I don't recall encountering in the distant past but now seems to be all over the place.

I've encountered this in-person, via "instant messenger," and on forums.
Either an individual pauses for a split second and then proceeds as if you hadn't said anything, or brushes it off with a dismissive comment. In both cases, it's like what was said was so inconsequential that they see no need to give a straightforward response.

An example: when I was still job-hunting, a person at an employment agency was reviewing my application and résumé. He said "I see here you don't have a driver's license- when was it taken away?" While I should've been 'offended' by the question, I politely answered that I'd never had a license at all. And he proceeded on as if I hadn't said it.

Another example: I was chatting with a former local on Yahoo Messenger, giving him some important information about a serious problem going on in the area at the time. Instead of addressing what I said, he replied "Moving along.." and changed the subject.

On forums, it'd be difficult and even unnecessary for anyone to respond to every single post they encounter, but when someone doesn't want to respond to something another person has said, I don't think that same type of dismissiveness is appropriate- anyone is capable of going past posts they don't want to comment on, but comments such as 'moving along,' etc. communicates to the poster that whatever he/she has said isn't worthy of a legitimate response.

So is this simply a matter of modern rudeness, or something else?
 

@JaniceM ......Thought about your post for a bit.
I honestly think it's " Modern Rudeness "

Seems like some people who share the planet with the rest of us.....took detailed education on.....speed dial, speed unthoughtful response, selective hearing and listening.
Very sad.
So been said and done......it's the ones on the receiving end that have to make sense of lack of mannerisms.
 
MickaC said:
@JaniceM ......Thought about your post for a bit.
I honestly think it's " Modern Rudeness "

Seems like some people who share the planet with the rest of us.....took detailed education on.....speed dial, speed unthoughtful response, selective hearing and listening.
Very sad.
So been said and done......it's the ones on the receiving end that have to make sense of lack of mannerisms.
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Thank you, I appreciate your input @MickaC !
 

In my advanced age group, we were taught courtesy at all costs. My much younger siblings were also taught likewise but did not necessarily always observe those lessons. Which in turn led to conflicts as I and my brother next to me were usually at war with the youngsters. Lead into today, if something rankles, it seems anything goes and I must say I've been guilty at times. I have been told I am a typical sarcastic Jerseyan. Well, perhaps so, when someone is insulting or being just plain obtuse. I do try to be as courteous as possible all the time. Occasionally, my comments have been misconstrued as calling someone out, but it certainly hasn't been intentional the majority of the time. As Holly said, attitude is a factor. Some days, it just doesn't pay to even say one word at all as I do need an attitude adjustment periodically.
 
@Aunt Bea I've been guilty of responding, when and where i should not have, as well.
We probably all have, at one point and time, for whatever reason.
For me.... i try to sit back and ponder a bit....as to....should i or should i not....will admit....have slipped many a times.
@hollydolly I feel you're right in saying....Attitude can be a factor.
 
People are very quick to be dismissive anymore. If it doesn't pertain to them or they don't agree they will dismiss you in a heartbeat. It's extremely rude. But this is how it is in our world anymore. It's become socially acceptable to be rude.
 
I can't help but wonder if our use of the internet as a means of communication has made us somewhat more abrupt. We've all gotten used to abbreviated sentences and statements and tend to skip by the "niceties" that would normally accompanying our chit chat.

Rude people are rude people - nuff said - - but I do wonder if we cut things a bit short when conversing electronically and it may slip over into our everyday speech? Just a thought.
 
The internet allows jerks to be jerks like saying anything they want so long as there is not threat to get punched in head for it. Also we see young people addressing adults even cops as "dude". Growing up as internet babies some, not all are wisecracking cowards. Some of the abuse we hear on social media resulting in suicides is troubling to say the least.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Well, JaniceM, come on, there really isn't anything more important than what I have to say.
Unfortunately, we all say that.
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JaniceM said:
I've noticed many people here are knowledgeable about modern things- from pop culture to fashions/styles- so I thought I'd ask about this, as it's one of those many things I don't recall encountering in the distant past but now seems to be all over the place.

I've encountered this in-person, via "instant messenger," and on forums.
Either an individual pauses for a split second and then proceeds as if you hadn't said anything, or brushes it off with a dismissive comment. In both cases, it's like what was said was so inconsequential that they see no need to give a straightforward response.

An example: when I was still job-hunting, a person at an employment agency was reviewing my application and résumé. He said "I see here you don't have a driver's license- when was it taken away?" While I should've been 'offended' by the question, I politely answered that I'd never had a license at all. And he proceeded on as if I hadn't said it.

Another example: I was chatting with a former local on Yahoo Messenger, giving him some important information about a serious problem going on in the area at the time. Instead of addressing what I said, he replied "Moving along.." and changed the subject.

On forums, it'd be difficult and even unnecessary for anyone to respond to every single post they encounter, but when someone doesn't want to respond to something another person has said, I don't think that same type of dismissiveness is appropriate- anyone is capable of going past posts they don't want to comment on, but comments such as 'moving along,' etc. communicates to the poster that whatever he/she has said isn't worthy of a legitimate response.

So is this simply a matter of modern rudeness, or something else?
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This is a very thoughtful post.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Well, JaniceM, come on, there really isn't anything more important than what I have to say.
Unfortunately, we all say that.
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Not necessarily.. when I post topics, or comments on other people's topics, I'm aware that what I say might not interest many people.. and in cases like that I think the thing to do is simply scroll past what I said. Nothing rude about that. It's the dismissive remarks that can be bothersome.
And, like I said in my too-long initial post, it's happened a couple of times in-person, too.
 
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